Should I call ICE About My Roommate's Sham Marriage?

[Hotter Otter 1,211]

If what you say is true, then someone who drives regularly without a licence and insurance and wants a sham wedding to stay is probably breaking other laws too and is hardly an asset to America. If I was in that situation and had proof, I'd report it, especially as you know how frustrating when you are completing the process legally. Might want to stop living with her first though as it could be awkward!!

[Girl from Celebes 588]

If I were you, I'm definitely going to report her. It's like when crimes happen near to us and we just ignored and let it got away with that. It is not about you are being her friend. If my family is doing crime, I am absolutely would never supported them.

[InHisTime 110]

My roommate came to this country unlawfully from El Salvador many years ago but has been granted tempororary status thanks to Obama's DACA program. Despite this she is in immigration proceedings due to her chronic non-filing of necessary paperwork and due to the fact that she has been arrested several times for driving without a driver's license and insurance. In order to get out of this she is about to marry her US citizen ex-husband, even though she does not love him anymore, lives separately from him, and has told me many times that this is just for immigration. Should I report her?

On the one hand anyone who knows me will know I am vehemently opposed to illegal immigration (my wife's I-130 is "in processing" right now and nothing ticks me off more than seeing people didn't follow the rules get everything we're fighting so hard for), but on the other hand she has kids and even grandkids here (long story, she's not that old, but her 17 year old son already has two kids out of wedlock). I really want to report her, but I am afraid I will feel guilty. What should I do?

Hi OP, I think before you report her, you should ask yourself.... are you doing this because you want to help the government ? or are you doing this because you feel "envy" of her, while still not being done with your wife's petition? Being envy with someone isn't good. If you really want to help the government, then I think you should also help ICE in doing their jobs. I'm pretty sure there are so plenty of illegal immigrants, hiding somewhere. You may want to know where they are and how can they be deported.

If she is a killer, drug dealer, abuser, kidnapper, etc, I would definitely report ASAP without reservation.

She is your room mate. You never know what exactly she is going through. Life is hard sometimes. I suggest you talk to her nicely and see how you can help her to make things legal. If you cannot help her on doing what is right and best for her, then please leave her alone. As long she doesn't harm you, it is her life, not yours. You have your own life to focus. Don't be bitter because your wife's petition is not done yet. It takes time sometimes, and you have to understand that.

Mind you, If she continues doing illegal things, she will definitely reap what she sow -- it is stated in the bible. Now, if your heart really desires to report her, just in case, do you think you can help her to ease the possible consequences of deportation as you mentioned she got kids and grandkids to support. Don't make things complicated, if your conscience cannot handle it. I am not supporting her, but I just think we people should think deeply before we do something. If we cannot help, then let it be. Let God handles it.

I suggest this is the time that you need to look for another place to attain peace in your heart and mind. Hope this 2014, our God will grant the desires of your heart to be united with your wife. Have a blessed and prosperous new year.

[Misha'sgirl 44]

Unless shes a threat to others i would say ignore her. karma exists.

I believe he just said she drives without license and insurance: that is a threat to others. Many years ago, my mom and I were hit in our astro van by someone who was illegal and had no license and no insurance. Our van was totaled! I went to the hospital... It was New Year and I couldn't walk so I couldn't celebrate.

REPORT HER IMMEDIATELY. Why would you feel guilty about doing what is lawful and morally right? Plus, it is true what you said about it hurting the process of your wife's I-130. Do you think she cares that she is hurting the process? If she did, she wouldn't have gone into the USA illegally in the first place...she would be filling out forms and paying out the wazzoo like everyone else on this forum.

[Misha'sgirl 44]

Hi OP, I think before you report her, you should ask yourself.... are you doing this because you want to help the government ? or are you doing this because you feel "envy" of her, while still not being done with your wife's petition? Being envy with someone isn't good. If you really want to help the government, then I think you should also help ICE in doing their jobs. I'm pretty sure there are so plenty of illegal immigrants, hiding somewhere. You may want to know where they are and how can they be deported.

If she is a killer, drug dealer, abuser, kidnapper, etc, I would definitely report ASAP without reservation.

She is your room mate. You never know what exactly she is going through. Life is hard sometimes. I suggest you talk to her nicely and see how you can help her to make things legal. If you cannot help her on doing what is right and best for her, then please leave her alone. As long she doesn't harm you, it is her life, not yours. You have your own life to focus. Don't be bitter because your wife's petition is not done yet. It takes time sometimes, and you have to understand that.

Mind you, If she continues doing illegal things, she will definitely reap what she sow -- it is stated in the bible. Now, if your heart really desires to report her, just in case, do you think you can help her to ease the possible consequences of deportation as you mentioned she got kids and grandkids to support. Don't make things complicated, if your conscience cannot handle it. I am not supporting her, but I just think we people should think deeply before we do something. If we cannot help, then let it be. Let God handles it.

I suggest this is the time that you need to look for another place to attain peace in your heart and mind. Hope this 2014, our God will grant the desires of your heart to be united with your wife. Have a blessed and prosperous new year.

First off, I'm really sickened to see so many people on this forum keep saying basically, "its up to God". Well, honestly, a lot of it is not up to God. Why is it that people feel they should mix religion in with eveything that is happening in their life... Does using justice for situations that beg for justice, not available any more?

Now I will address what I've put in bold and underlined... Its strange that you have only given the OP two choices in why he would be reporting her. Both are quite extreeme. How about the simple fact that he wants himself and his wife to be happy, as they have slaved away with this process and paid out the wazzoo for it?! Honestly, the only thing that he has to be "envious" of is that this illegal alien is getting the same benefits as he, except does not have to do the same amount of "work" as he.

So since she is not a kidnapper, killer, drug dealer, etcetera... let's let her off the hook because that makes her a good person and good people should always be rewarded. If that were true, this man and his wife should have already recieved their "reward", right? I mean, they're good people, they are law-abiding, and doing all the steps in order. This illegal, on the other hand, I think might have skipped over a few steps. Thanks Obama. You really know how to take care of your illegal ali--I mean, American Citizens!

What about her being a rule bender, a law breaker, using people (ex-husband) to get what she wants. Its one thing if the ex knows she is marrying him bc she needs it for her situation or if he thinks she is back in love with him. Manipulative.

Oh yes, he should not be bitter and should just suck it up because it takes time! Your words are quite insensitive and degrading. I'm sure he entered into this process knowing all of that. I don't think he even mentioned it being a big deal, and yet you brought it up. As if reporting someone's unlawful presence in the US and this processe's processing times have anything to do with the other.

You've only said one thing right. "We should think deeply before we act". So where was this roommate's mind when she made all these illegal choices? Do you think she thought deeply of the consiquences, of what her choices whould do against others? I do not think so. I think she JUMPED on the opportunity to live in the USA. Of course she has kids, grandkids and we should automatically feel super pathetically sorry for her. Oh but I guess she didn't "think deeply" about the fact that, even if the OP does not report her, she could still be found out and deported. And honestly, I do hope she is. It is super wrong what she is doing. It is also, UNFAIR.

WHY SHOULD HE LOOK FOR ANOTHER PLACE? Maybe she should look for another place?! The government is already taking care of her, allowing her to stay, but every law abiding citizen also should make sure she is accomodated. As a US-######-citizen, we are put on the lowest rung of the latter and made to climb it all the way up and when some illegal comes along, we get bumped down because some illegal alien is more important than America's own citizens!

[InHisTime 110]

First off, I'm really sickened to see so many people on this forum keep saying basically, "its up to God". Well, honestly, a lot of it is not up to God. Why is it that people feel they should mix religion in with eveything that is happening in their life... Does using justice for situations that beg for justice, not available any more?

Now I will address what I've put in bold and underlined... Its strange that you have only given the OP two choices in why he would be reporting her. Both are quite extreeme. How about the simple fact that he wants himself and his wife to be happy, as they have slaved away with this process and paid out the wazzoo for it?! Honestly, the only thing that he has to be "envious" of is that this illegal alien is getting the same benefits as he, except does not have to do the same amount of "work" as he.

So since she is not a kidnapper, killer, drug dealer, etcetera... let's let her off the hook because that makes her a good person and good people should always be rewarded. If that were true, this man and his wife should have already recieved their "reward", right? I mean, they're good people, they are law-abiding, and doing all the steps in order. This illegal, on the other hand, I think might have skipped over a few steps. Thanks Obama. You really know how to take care of your illegal ali--I mean, American Citizens!

What about her being a rule bender, a law breaker, using people (ex-husband) to get what she wants. Its one thing if the ex knows she is marrying him bc she needs it for her situation or if he thinks she is back in love with him. Manipulative.

Oh yes, he should not be bitter and should just suck it up because it takes time! Your words are quite insensitive and degrading. I'm sure he entered into this process knowing all of that. I don't think he even mentioned it being a big deal, and yet you brought it up. As if reporting someone's unlawful presence in the US and this processe's processing times have anything to do with the other.

You've only said one thing right. "We should think deeply before we act". So where was this roommate's mind when she made all these illegal choices? Do you think she thought deeply of the consiquences, of what her choices whould do against others? I do not think so. I think she JUMPED on the opportunity to live in the USA. Of course she has kids, grandkids and we should automatically feel super pathetically sorry for her. Oh but I guess she didn't "think deeply" about the fact that, even if the OP does not report her, she could still be found out and deported. And honestly, I do hope she is. It is super wrong what she is doing. It is also, UNFAIR.

WHY SHOULD HE LOOK FOR ANOTHER PLACE? Maybe she should look for another place?! The government is already taking care of her, allowing her to stay, but every law abiding citizen also should make sure she is accomodated. As a US-######-citizen, we are put on the lowest rung of the latter and made to climb it all the way up and when some illegal comes along, we get bumped down because some illegal alien is more important than America's own citizens!

Hi there, Misha's girl Well, I do understand and respect how you feel, but everyone in this forum is entitled to say their own opinions / suggestions / ideas. It is the call of the OP to follow or not. He was asking advise in a public forum, thus, expect to receive diverse inputs. Everyone here has different ideas, cultures and beliefs.

I didn't say that I'm in favor with the OP's room mate actions, if that is true, as we only heard one side of the story, and we haven't seen any objective evidence. I just believe that God is still in control of the situation.

I strongly still stand for my opinion, that is just me. I am a person who always try to make peace. And if I cannot help anyone to correct their wrong doings, then I try not to put them down, as long they aren't harming me and my family. Again, that is just me. I hope the OP will be united soon with his wife, in His time. God bless us all. Have a happy new year.

[Misha'sgirl 44]

Hi there, Misha's girl Well, I do understand and respect how you feel, but everyone in this forum is entitled to say their own opinions / suggestions / ideas. It is the call of the OP to follow or not. He was asking advise in a public forum, thus, expect to receive diverse inputs. Everyone here has different ideas, cultures and beliefs.

I didn't say that I'm in favor with the OP's room mate actions, if that is true, as we only heard one side of the story, and we haven't seen any objective evidence. I just believe that God is still in control of the situation.

I strongly still stand for my opinion, that is just me. I am a person who always try to make peace. And if I cannot help anyone to correct their wrong doings, then I try not to put them down, as long they aren't harming me and my family. Again, that is just me. I hope the OP will be united soon with his wife, in His time. God bless us all. Have a happy new year.

Sharing your opinion is one thing. Sharing your opinion drenched in religion is another. Have a happy new year as well: year of the horse!

[pauli 49]

How far along are you in your visa journey? Would your roommate be able to cause any problems by lying about your relationship with your fiancee/wife? Might be safest to collect proof of roommate's fraud now, but wait to report until after your fiancee/wife is in U.S. and you move out.

[Rosesarered 11]

Not doing something that you feel is right is just as wrong. You know in your heart what is the right action and by not ignoring it but by carrying it out, God will smile on you.

Yes God knows this woman's heart and she will suffer for her actions by her life. We all do .

[thedude6752000 360]

write a letter of attestation.

Drop it off at a local USCIS office, once you have an infopass appointment.

Whilst at the infopass appointment, ask for the FDNS officer. Talk with the FDNS officer a bit, and give over your letter of attestation.

Thanks! Could I see a sample letter of attestation?

Edited January 2, 2014 by thedude6752000

[lucybelle 453]

As someone who is currently waiting almost 10 months for their NOA2, I'd still say "don't report". I have a feeling her case would be denied anyways.

[Cathi 5,748]

I think that entry to the US should be reserved for those that follow the laws , all the laws not just the ones that are easy, I think there should be no immigration reform, all illegals should be deported with a lifetime ban, no forgiveness of overstay, no waivers for criminals( which would automatically include illegals) . I also think that welfare should be done away with and there should be no minimum wage let supply and demand control wages. Also end bankruptcy and make debtors pay off the debt they incurred. Teach only English in schools and only issue high school diplomas to those that can pass a standardized test in English, math and science. There probably isn't one bleeding heart on here that agrees but I feel that is why the US is turning into a dump of lazy fools with their hands out for a free ride.

This bleeding heart agrees with every word.

[thedude6752000 360]

you say she is hurting you?how is she hurting you...by her actions is she takign food away fromyour table?denying you health care? giving you diseases? or making you sleep bad at night..you say Obama's DACA like Obama went to El Salvador and brought her here

whats wrong with people.

Please see our letter to the US Congress and the DHS here.

http://uscgreencardpetitionerscommittee.blogspot.com/

Since DACA and the Provisional Waiver program (both UNCONSTITUTIONAL abuses of Presidential power, the President does not have the authority to create legislation in this way) the wait times for I-130's have skyrocketed from 3 to 10 or more months. No two ways about it, we have been screwed over for unlawful immigrants.

like America started off as an all english speaking nation..did not know the Ammerican Indians were also English

It is a historical fact that all 13 of the original colonies that founded this country were English-speaking. The natives, unfortunately, did not found this country.

Edited January 2, 2014 by thedude6752000

[Misha'sgirl 44]

As someone who is currently waiting almost 10 months for their NOA2, I'd still say "don't report". I have a feeling her case would be denied anyways.

I have a feeling you would be tooting a different tune if this were you and your wife/husband. Her case being denied or not is not a defining argument. Doing what is right by reporting what is wrong, is all the definition the OP needs. But consider his hard work being overshadowed by this woman's unlawful choices, and he has even more reason to report her.

[thedude6752000 360]

If I make an FDNS report, will she find out that I was the one who informed on her? I doubt she would even know how to make an acussation against me, her English sucks and she is not too savy about the immigration system at all, but I do not want to expose me or my wife to retaliation.