AOS on process but decided to end the marriage

[Hypnos 6,578]

You could probably drag it out for a year, maybe even two, but ultimately I don't think you will wind up with a green card. If your husband has retained counsel with even a modicum of sense then the first thing they will tell him to do is withdraw his I-864. Once that is done then your green card cannot be issued. There is no discretion, there is no "consideration", it just cannot be done. Even supposing he hasn't done that, he must appear at your interview with USCIS (if you have one). If he doesn't go, they will want to know why. What will be your answer?

Returning to the Philippines is probably the best option you have remaining. Sometimes things just don't work out.

[InHisTime 110]

hello InHisTime,I assumed you understand my situation.i thank you for that.il just share my story to prevent from judgment in me..I came here in the US with the intention to spend the rest of my life with my husband now.I love him so genuinely,only God can explain how deep is my feelings for him despite age gaps,looks,and not wealthy status in life i still choose to marry him because i love him.i married him in good faith..despite the fact that he lied to me.coz he got a girl pregnant while i was still in Philippines and he cant marry her due to faith differences.when my 90-day is about to expire i let him choose wether to send me home or marry me with all his heart.he choose me to stay which really makes me so happy.we were so happy and so inlove at first.i can tell that was the happiest moment in my life.but time passes by.the baby was born..things has changed eventually,how he love me,care for me,make sweet moments with me,it was like fading.i got upset with him a couple times because he just keep ignoring me.i didn't just talk and just keep silent even it hurts me.we don't have problem with the baby coz i love his baby like my own.until time came that i confronted him because he is hurting me what he is doing.and he just said that things has changed,his feelings for me has hanged also.he is like nothing is more important to him except the baby.its his first baby at age of 52.losing me is just ok with him. it hurts me so bad.it broke my heart so badly.i just cant believe what i heard.i tried to ask if he could try to love me the way he did before but he didn't give a chance and said it will not work out anymore.its not easy to beg someone to love you back and rejected you.he did not see what i gave up just to be with him..this things happen on Christmas day.and its the worst Christmas ever in my life.a teary Christmas.he brought me to this place with no one and just leave me alone with a broken heart.it was really devastating..now i tried to ask some help what to do coz i ask him what is his plans for me.he just said he will talk to a lawyer.my AOS is still on process.what if there is an interview and i couldn't bring him up.do you think the immigration will consider my case.its not my fault that our marriage didn't work out.can some Filipino group help me to convinced the immigration to consider my case.

Ohhh girl, I am on tears while reading your very sad story. I really understand where you are coming from. I know how it hurts you so much especially it was christmas time. I wish I could give you a hug right now. I know it is easier said than done, but I pray that you will be strong to overcome this struggle and pain you are having now. As always, there were already red flags from the beginning, the fact that he lied to you before marriage, wasn't worth pursuing him to get into a serious relationship, like marriage. Truth shall always prevail and will come out, no matter how much we hide it.

Begging someone to love you back is not that simple. Love should come naturally and genuinely from his heart. Do you think going to counseling will help save the marriage ? Does he goes to church ? Is he a practicing christian man ? I'm asking this because I believe only God, through his faith, can change his heart, not even you and the people around him.

If his decision is final, then you have to move on. Start by accepting the reality, fix yourself, and have more faith in God. Please don't look yourself down, even you were rejected. It's his loss, not yours. The fact that you have tried working out to save the relationship, forgiving him despite of what he did, was an honorable thing you did as a good loving woman. That is enough NOW.

You have to be strong, value and respect yourself. Don't worry too much about your GC. If it is meant to be, God will work it out and connects you to people who could help. This is not the end of the world. I hope this 2014, you will make a wise long term decision for yourself. Coming home is best solution I see. Take care and God bless you.

Edited January 2, 2014 by InHisTime