Advice Relationship HELP

[Cathi 5,783]

Why would you ask this question here? I am sure you already know the answer, no one here is going to tell you to stay with him. Do you think you're going to come here and he will miraculously change? If you even need to ask this question, excuse my blunt answer, but you are as stupid as he is. Find some self respect and move on.

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

lol I suppose you thought they were much younger huh? Hate stereotypes.

But I agree, it would be a disaster and you guys need to split. This is exactly how my ex started to act before he actually cheated on me....the first time. But waited til the second time to "be sorry" and beg me to stay. Which I didn't because I'm smart. I hope you will be smart too.

I actually just wanted to see the age difference really.

OP seems more matured than Romeo so I was trying to see if age difference was the issue.

[Livelyjo 15]

Don't do it! This man doesn't love nor appreciate you. Respect simply isnt there. If you are the one who will be moving to USA, away from family and friends. DIsaster. I been through my share. Move on, there are 6 billion people in the world half of them men. You will find a great man! Best Wishes!!! Cheer up!!

[skysofialila 45]

Like someone said... I think you know the answer but don't like it. End it now before it gets worse. Like they say in your country: "No seas pelotuda...! dale una patada en el traste y chau"

It is better that this happens now before you get married than afterwards! You deserve someone who loves and respects you... not this "basura"

[clairegie 265]

I'd hate to be in your shoes. A marriage without trust and respect? Save yourself the divorce money and break up while it's still free.

[Me_Theo 25]

Tell him," you don't want to go for interview because he is doing these (have another woman around), also ask him to cancel your k-1 visa"

If he wants to be with you , he willnot do that and he will back to you after some days. If he cancel you k-1 visa . let he goes.Don't keep him. your problem will be start hardly if you come in USA , without his support.

May be you can find another person better than him.Don't forget God, God will help you to move on from this situation.

[Laspoxaroumeni 68]

Move on!!

My opinion is that he just want to move in the states and thats why he s still with u! And if things are so bad now later will be worst! I dont want to be rude but thats my opinion!

Visa process is long and the couple must help each other on this terrible distance!

Move on sweetheart!! There are ppl out there that im sure they will love to date u

[Dan from MI 23]

Sorry to hear your problem. If you have to post this question... I think you already know the answer.

Dump this loser. I know from being married that you have to be able to trust your husband/wife completely and above everything else. It is not a good start to have a marriage that he already broke the trust.

By the way, make sure that he actually withdrawn the petition.

[Darnell 8,479]

What do you think of this?

I say walk away from the relationship, never to contact him again.

However, go to the visa interview without the medical exam bits,

and tell the Vice-Consul that you are withdrawing your visa application, on the interview day.

[Jawaree 718]

A man like that is going to be abusive,

continues to cheat, maybe use you as

a maid, and not above becoming your

pimp...careful what you wish for in strange

lands...you already know you should leave

it alone...cancel

[bettypentiér44 12]

Like others have said - if you have to ask this particular question, then you probably know the answer. While I'm not going to offer you relationship advice as I don't feel it's my place, I will say think long and hard about this whole process. If you go for the interview, get approved and then move over, only then to realize after you are married that your initial instinct was right, it's going to cost you a lot of money! You won't be able to stay in the states, you will then need to file for divorce, not to mention all the costs you will incur having to move back to your original country!! So yeah, just think long and hard about the whole thing.

[InHisTime 110]

Dear OP I have read your story and some replies of our vj friends. Girl, I believe you need to listen to your instinct and be strong to face the challenges confronting your relationship with this man. Trust and respect are vital to have a loving and successful marriage. He doesn't make you feel good now, what more when you are married to him ? Please save yourself for more heartaches.

Pray that God will guide and strengthen you more at this time. I know it's not going to be easy, but, trust me in the end you will be fine.

The new year is coming up soon, so please start loving yourself more, and realize that everything happens for a reason. Please be happy, in time, you will find the right man for you who knows how to treat a woman. You deserve a better partner. Wishing you a blessed and happy new year, friend ! Hugs

[FaithfulandTrue 6]

I would love to believe in fairy tales, but they are just that. There are some people that have beautiful relationships on here. Then there are some like me that I could write at least maybe 4 novels on. The choice is ultimately up to you. Hind sight is 20/20 and sometimes you can't see the forest for the trees because you're in love and you HOPE they change. In my case they didn't and it was a disaster and I almost died and they didn't care. Still don't care. My mom and I were supporting his family back home, although we didn't know it. All I am saying is please look at the red flags. It may hurt now but you don't want to go through I went through, trust me. I wish you the best in your decision and pray about it first. As I said, I'm sure you have the answer already but you are in denial as I was. God bless you sweetie and please guard your heart. Only you can do that.

Edited December 31, 2013 by FaithfulandTrue