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EndlessStory   53

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If you are already having such issue and want to pursue your K1, you might face issues in the future.

WHAT MIGHT happen, not saying it will:

1. when you arrive in US, he does not want to marry you, you need to return and if you do not have money for the air ticket. you will overstay and probably get 3 years/10 years or probably life time ban from entering U.S.

2. if he marries you, can you take it for him to cheat on your for your entire lifetime? He probably keeps you as slave/maid at home or something. or even abuse.

3. what if he keeps your green card. what if he doesn't file your AOS. You will be out of status

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K1 (I-129F) petition filed in August 2013 (Approved Feb 20th 2014)
13th May 2014: AOS (I-485) & EAD/AP combo card
21st May 2014: NOA 1 and biometric letter
11th June 2014: biometric appointment
13th June 2014: RFE received via mail
16th June 2014: replied to RFE
6th August 2014: EAD Approved, AP still in initial review
12th August 2014: got tracking number for EAD
( ) August 2014: Received EAD (I forgot what date I got them but I did receive them less than 5 days from the 12th)
10th September 2014: Interview Waiver received (I wished I was interviewed)
April 23, 2015, we registered your permanent resident status and mailed you a Welcome Notice
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enlijoe
enlijoe

I'm going to make just one more comment on this. I've been there done that with posting on a forum asking for advice about a relationship. What I have learned from it is this. When you post a quest

NigeriaorBust
NigeriaorBust

Some 32 year old men have not a clue about how to keep their ####### inside their pants, some never learn . To travel half way up the earth with a man that has shown repeated self control issues is

del-2-5-2014
del-2-5-2014

I think coming over on a K1 will be a disaster for one thing. Secondly how old are you folks?

christeen Experienced

christeen   966

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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Italy
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A successful interview is NOT the ultimate goal.... A happy marriage IS the goal... So don't get confused that success is the K1 ... Success is a good relationship... If you do not have a healthy relationship (which is sounds like you do not) you will fail (even if you succeed in the visa) ... Don't get it twisted...

10/14/2000 - Met Aboard a Cruise ship

06/14/2003 - Married Savona Italy

I-130

03/21/2009 - I-130 Mailed to Chicago lockbox

11-30-09: GOT GREEN CARD in mail!!!!!!

Citizenship Process;

1/11/2013: Mailed N400 to Dallas Texas

3/11/2013: interview.. Approved

4/4/2013. : Oath! Now a U.S. citizen!

del-2-5-2014 Experienced

del-2-5-2014   1,339

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Filed: Timeline
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If you are already having such issue and want to pursue your K1, you might face issues in the future.

WHAT MIGHT happen, not saying it will:

1. when you arrive in US, he does not want to marry you, you need to return and if you do not have money for the air ticket. you will overstay and probably get 3 years/10 years or probably life time ban from entering U.S.

2. if he marries you, can you take it for him to cheat on your for your entire lifetime? He probably keeps you as slave/maid at home or something. or even abuse.

3. what if he keeps your green card. what if he doesn't file your AOS. You will be out of status

I couldn't have said it better.

Ebunoluwa Veteran

Ebunoluwa   6,136

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Filed: AOS (apr) Country: Cyprus
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When someone shows you who they really are, believe them.

He wants another woman to soothe himself with when there are problems. A mature man who is in love will do all he can to focus

on working on his relationship and not look for an external "soother" , another woman, like some kind of pacifier.

He needs to grow the heck up. Not ready for marriage !

Spoiler

 

I-129F Sent : 3-31-2014, NOA2: 4-6-2014

NVC Received : some dinkelsberry yehoo in the house of clingons send our petition to the wrong consulate.

Consulate Received : July 30,2014 Transfer to right embassy complete.

Interview Date : Oct 22, 2014

Interview Result : AP , requesting another PC (not expired) and certified divorce decree (was submitted)Stokes interview via phone for petitioner 4 hrs after interview.

Oct 23 email notification visa approved.
Visa Received : Nov. 3 , 2014 VISA IN HAND.

US Entry : Nov. 21, 2014

Marriage : Dec 27, 2014

AOS send : May 12, 2015, received May 14, 2015 USPS priority

Email &text : May 18, 2015, check cashed May 19,2015, return receipt May 21, 2015 stamped USCIS Lockbox, NOA1 (3x) May 22,2015

Biometrics : June 1, 2015 letter received for appointment June 8, 2015, successful walk-in June 1, 2015

RFE : June 12, 2015 for income not meeting guideline. Income does ( ! ) exceed guideline.

RFE response : June 26, 2015 returned with a boat load full of financial evidence.

UPDATE: July 5, 2015 updated on all 3 cases, RFE received June 30, 2015.

Service request : Aug 12, 2015, letter received that it will be processed within 90 days from receipt of RFE.

UPDATE: Aug 24, 2015, EAD card being produced/ordered. ( 102 days from AOS receipt day and 55 days from RFE response received.) Thank you Jesus !

Emails : Aug 24, 2015, EAD approved, EAD card ordered.

I-797 EAD/AP approval notice received : Aug 27, 2015

EAD/AP combo card mailed : Aug 27, 2015, EAD/AP combo card received: Aug 31, 2015

Renewal application send for EAD/AP : May 31,2016 (AOS pending over 1 year). Received June 2, 2016,Notice date June7, 2016, emails,texts, NOA1 hard copy

Service request for pending AOS April 21, 2016, case not assigned yet.
Service request for pending AOS June 14, 2016, tier 2 said performing background checks.
Expedite request for EAD/AP Aug 3, 2016, Aug10 notification >request was received, assigned, completed. RFE letter requesting evidence for expedite, docs faxed Aug18

*Service request for I-485 Aug 3, 2016, Aug11 notification> request was assigned. Service request Dec 2, 2016.
AOS Interview letter received Aug 12, 2016

AOS Interview September 21, 2016.

Second Biometrics appointment letters received for EAD and AOS on Aug 15, 2016 for Aug 17 ( 2 day notice).

Second Biometrics completed Aug 17, 2016

Third Biometrics appointment letter received Aug 19, 2016 for Sept. 1, 2016. WTH ?!

EAD/AP (renewal) approval Aug 22, 2016, NOA2 received Aug 25, 2016

Renewal EAD in production notification text and online, expedite successful 4 days after RFE request response was faxed, Aug25mailed,Aug29received.

Sept. 21 Interview, 2 hour interview, we were separated and asked about 50 questions each for an hour each. IO was firm but professional, some smiles.
Several service requests made, contacted Senator and Ombudsman. Background checks still pending.
July 21, 2017 HOME VISIT.  Went well. Topic thread in AOS forum.
Waiting to skip ROC and get 10 yr GC due to over 2 year while pending AOS
AOS APPROVED Oct. 4, 2017 * Green card in hand Oct 13, 2017 !!!!!

First K1 denied after 16 month of AP. Refiled. We are a couple since 2009. Not a sprint but a matter of endurance.

 

raven52 Proficient

raven52   233

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Philippines
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I went through a similar situation, and all I can say, especially after I got expert advice, is...,,.,.,RUN, RUN, RUN.,.,.,., as fast as you can to get away from this situation, yes it will hurt, BUT I assure it will hurt """FAR WORSE""" if you go through with the interview.,.,.,.,.and get ready for the ""pity party"" he is going to hit you with, like he is sorry, and so on!

HE HAS SHOWN WHO HE IS<>>><<>><><<>< RRRRRRRRRRRUUUUUUUUUUUUUUNNNNNNNNNNNNN!!!!!!!!!!!

Just my opinion! And some from experience.,.,.,.,.

Misha'sgirl Enthusiast

Misha'sgirl   44

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Russia
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I think coming over on a K1 will be a disaster for one thing.

Secondly how old are you folks?

lol I suppose you thought they were much younger huh? Hate stereotypes.

But I agree, it would be a disaster and you guys need to split. This is exactly how my ex started to act before he actually cheated on me....the first time. But waited til the second time to "be sorry" and beg me to stay. Which I didn't because I'm smart. I hope you will be smart too.

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Avery Cates   1,141

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: United Kingdom
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I am so glad i find this forum.

I am so confused and don’t know what to do.

My fiancé and I are together for a little bit more than 2 years. We met online.

Problems started after the first timewe met. He try to date another woman and send her flirtatious messages on facebook. I forgave him but trust was broken. He tried but sometimes he fell down and it was harder. It was hard for him to understand how much pain that can cause. Anyway, we are near our interview and through the holidays we’ve been having rough times. Bad fights. He was acting so distant and careless that I insult him several times, he insulted me too. Then I told him that I didn’t love him anymore in the middle of my anger. After that we kept talking like if we were togeteher, sending picures and stuff and we were planning our interview and his upcoming trip for it. All of a sudden he start texting with another woman in a flirtatious way and told her that our relationship was bad and that It was going to be over soon.

NEWS FOR ME

What do you think of this? I am hurt. This is the second time. I wonder if he ever loved me.

I know my faults and I have been always more brave than him to be honest. I know I shouldn’t have insulted him but there was never any intention on my side to put a third person in the middle.

Seems to me there's no reason to continue on with the interview at this time.

November 14th, 2013: She's here!

December 12th, 2013: Picked up marriage license.

December 14th, 2013: Wedding

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altonbebe Enthusiast

altonbebe   48

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Philippines
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I am curious, who is the petitioner? him or her

Please keep in mind that some dates are only known after receipt of another document.
For example, the USPS Form 3811. The stamped receiving date was not know until the original Form 3811 was received on 07/13/2013 1:30 p/m CST.

07/05/2013 3:07 p/m CST I-129F pouch tendered to United States Postal Service in Houston, TX
07/09/2013 UNKNWN USPS Form 3811 / Signiture Receipt Card / Stamped and Received at USCIS Dallas Lockbox *
07/09/2013 UNKNWN USCIS / WEB SITE / receives petition and mails notice
07/12/2013 UNKNWN I-129F Check Presented to bank for payment
07/12/2013 2:51 p/m CST Text Message Received / G-1145 / I-129F Form / VSC - Documents sent to VSC
07/12/2013 2:51 p/m CST Email Received Received / G-1145 / I-129F Form / VSC - Documents sent to VSC
07/12/2013 UNKNWN I-129F Check coverted to ACH Payment to USCIS DALLAS PAYMENT
07/13/2013 1:30 p/m CST USPS Form 3811 / Signiture Receipt (GREEN) Card received from USCIS Dallas Lockbox *
07/13/2013 4:24 p/m CST USCIS / WEB SITE / Set up user account to track case status / https://egov.uscis.gov/cris/logon.do
07/15/2013 4:24 p/m CST USCIS / WEB SITE / Indicates "ACCEPTANCE"
07/16/2013 7:30 p/m CST USCIS / WEB SITE / Log in to check site / Indicates "INITIAL REVIEW"
07/17/2013 UNKNWN I-797C, Notice of Action (NOA1) / Received in mail today. (Notice Date : 07/11/2013, VSC) (Stamp date on envelope : 07/15/13)

* Advising case has been opened.
07/18/2013 8:31 p/m CST Email Received / USCIS / Advising Alien Registration Number has been changed
07/18/2013 8:35 p/m CST Text Message Received / USCIS / Advising "My Case Status" has been updated at www.uscis.gov
07/18/2013 8:31 p/m CST Email Received / USCIS / Advising Alien Registration Number has been changed
07/18/2013 8:35 p/m CST Text Message Received / USCIS / Advising "My Case Status" has been updated at www.uscis.gov

08/07/2013 6:45 p/m CST Text Message Received / USCIS / Advising "My Case Status" has been updated at www.uscis.gov

08/07/2013 6:47 p/m CST Text Message Received / USCIS / Advising "My Case Status" has been updated at www.uscis.gov

08/07/2013 7:00 p/m CST Text Message Received / USCIS / Advising "My Case Status" has been updated at www.uscis.gov

08/09/2013 6:30 p/m CST Email Received / USCIS / Case has been transfered from VSC

08/09/2013 UNKNWN I-797C, Notice of Action (NOAT) / Rcv'd in mail (Notice Date : 08/06/2013, VSC) (Stamp date on envelope : 08/07/2013)**

** Advising that the case has been transfered from VSC to TSC

08/09/2013 7:30 p/m CST USCIS / WEB STIE / Logged in to check site / Indicatted "INITIAL REVIEW

08/26/2013 8:45 p/m CST Email Recieved / USCIS / On 08/26/13, we mailed you a notice that we have approved this I129F PETITION FOR FIANCE(E).

08/26/2013 8:47 p/m CST Text Message Received / USCIS / Advising "My Case Status" has been updated at www.uscis.gov

08/26/2013 8:48 p/m CST USCIS / WEB STIE / Logged in to check site / Indicatted "POST DECISION ACTIVITY"

08/27/2013 7:15 a/m CST Text Message Received / USCIS / Advising "My Case Status" has been updated at www.uscis.gov

08/27/2013 7:15 a/m CST Email Received / USCIS / On August 27, 2013, we shipped this approved or re-affirmed case to the Department of State for visa processing.

08/29/2013 UNKNWN I-797C, Notice of Action (NOA2) / Rcv'd in mail. (Notice Date : 08/26/2013) (Stamp date on env. : 08/27/18) / Advising i-129F has been APPROVED.

09/05/2013 UNKNWN Phone Call to NVC / Petition received and MNL Number issued

09/06/2013 15:58 EST Documents shipped out via DHL AWB 8774193982 ( http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/302190-dhl-tracking-from-nvc-to-us-embassy/ ) EXCELLANT

09/09/2013 10:45 MNL Documents rcvd at Embassy signed for L Bernardion

Summary : Date mailed : 07/05; Docs rcv'd USCIS : 07/09; NOA1 issued : 07/11; NOA2 issued : 08/26, NOA2 rcv'd in mail : 08/29; NVC Rcv'd : 09/05/; MNL Emby rcv'd docs : 09/09

Total Number of Days : 67 days (Mailing date of I-129F at U.S. Post Office to Receipt of documents in Manila Embassy)

Projected Dates (Not Actual Dates) : Based on research on VJ Website, other members statements, and documents going to VSC Service Center
07/18/13 : Based on timeline data, your I129f may be adjudicated between December 11, 2013 and December 24, 2013

MO-MO1974 Explorer

MO-MO1974   7

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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Nigeria
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Runnnnnn and run very fast....he is cheating on u and basically using you to satisfy a need(the papers) cancel the interview and go your way...you will definitely find someone who will appreciate you for who and not what you are

Hotter Otter Proficient

Hotter Otter   1,211

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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: England
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You need to ditch him but I expect you already knew that. He didn't learn from his first mistake at all and doesn't care how you feel about it. Telling other women that he's in a bad relationship to get sympathy/ flirty texts or more is a really low thing to do and shows a huge lack of respect for you. I'm sorry but it would be a really bad mistake for you to start a new life with him when he has shown these character traits.

My blog about my visa journey and adjusting to my new life in the US http://albiontoamerica.wordpress.com/

Sandra G. Veteran

Sandra G.   5,057

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Filed: Other Country: Brazil
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What part of no don't you understand? Because his actions clearly speak for itself,saying I don't give a damn about your feelings, I don't care about our relationship, I am a serial cheater etc...

My dear don't believe everything you hear from him, but in what you see, he proved already the kind of scumbag he is, what are you waiting to kick him to the curb?.Our time is limited, so don't waste it living his life, because he is the one running the show.

QueenOfBlades Proficient

QueenOfBlades   224

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Filed: Lift. Cond. (apr) Country: United Kingdom
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Leave the guy. Moving your whole life for a new start in a foreign country is difficult enough, and that's when you have the full support of your spouse. He has proven he can't be trusted and you will be completely reliant on him. Like someone else said, a successful K1 visa interview isn't the end goal. You will have to marry this man and build a life with him without your family and friends being close by, and there is still a lot more paper work/hurdles after arriving in the US that you will need his support for. You need his help to file AOS or you'll have no status, and you'll need his support (emotionally, even if nothing else) to get set up as it's his country, not yours. You won't even be able to work at first and will be relying on him for money, food, everything. He will not give you the support or love you deserve. It is a huge life change and going into it with a man who is not committed to you is heading for disaster. Get out.

AOS posted - 02/18/2014

NOA1 - 03/04/2014
Biometrics - 03/28/2014
EAD in post - 5/5/2014

EAD in hand - 5/10/2014
Interview waiver letter received - 6/9/2014

Card production notice - 1/10/2015

ROC mailed - 10/11/2016

ROC received at CSC - 10/18/2016

Interview Notice Received - 3/30/2017

 
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