Advice Relationship HELP

[looney_72 0]

I am so glad i find this forum.

I am so confused and don’t know what to do.

My fiancé and I are together for a little bit more than 2 years. We met online.

Problems started after the first timewe met. He try to date another woman and send her flirtatious messages on facebook. I forgave him but trust was broken. He tried but sometimes he fell down and it was harder. It was hard for him to understand how much pain that can cause. Anyway, we are near our interview and through the holidays we’ve been having rough times. Bad fights. He was acting so distant and careless that I insult him several times, he insulted me too. Then I told him that I didn’t love him anymore in the middle of my anger. After that we kept talking like if we were togeteher, sending picures and stuff and we were planning our interview and his upcoming trip for it. All of a sudden he start texting with another woman in a flirtatious way and told her that our relationship was bad and that It was going to be over soon.

NEWS FOR ME

What do you think of this? I am hurt. This is the second time. I wonder if he ever loved me.

I know my faults and I have been always more brave than him to be honest. I know I shouldn’t have insulted him but there was never any intention on my side to put a third person in the middle.

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I am so glad i find this forum.

I am so confused and don’t know what to do.

My fiancé and I are together for a little bit more than 2 years. We met online.

Problems started after the first timewe met. He try to date another woman and send her flirtatious messages on facebook. I forgave him but trust was broken. He tried but sometimes he fell down and it was harder. It was hard for him to understand how much pain that can cause. Anyway, we are near our interview and through the holidays we’ve been having rough times. Bad fights. He was acting so distant and careless that I insult him several times, he insulted me too. Then I told him that I didn’t love him anymore in the middle of my anger. After that we kept talking like if we were togeteher, sending picures and stuff and we were planning our interview and his upcoming trip for it. All of a sudden he start texting with another woman in a flirtatious way and told her that our relationship was bad and that It was going to be over soon.

NEWS FOR ME

What do you think of this? I am hurt. This is the second time. I wonder if he ever loved me.

I know my faults and I have been always more brave than him to be honest. I know I shouldn’t have insulted him but there was never any intention on my side to put a third person in the middle.

I think coming over on a K1 will be a disaster for one thing.

Secondly how old are you folks?

[enlijoe 20]

Well it should like it is time to move on.

[looney_72 0]

I think coming over on a K1 will be a disaster for one thing.

Secondly how old are you folks?

Thanks for you answer.

I am 26 he is 32

Well it should like it is time to move on.

He says like we were fighting he just wanted to reconect to someone so he doesn't look for me after and so he can move on. This woman is not even a friend and he open with her about our relationship. Hard to believe

[enlijoe 20]

Look in my experience if you two are fighting that much there is something wrong. I'm not a consular but the bigger issue here is the K-1 is a very big commitment. You will be responsible for this person even if things do not work out.

I do not mean to be cold when I say it is time to move on but the fact of the matter is you say he is cheating on you, and you two are fighting. What makes you think any of this is going to change? Why should it change. I ask you this: If you are engaged does that not mean that you both should be committed to being with each other? If he feels it is ok then I guess the two of you have a difference in onion on what the commitment is.

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

Some 32 year old men have not a clue about how to keep their ####### inside their pants, some never learn . To travel half way up the earth with a man that has shown repeated self control issues is asking to end up in a foreign country sitting on a curb listening to the sounds of another woman coming from what you thought was your bedroom door. Sound like an experience you are dying to have. If this is not the future you are dreaming of cancel the interview he isn't worth it.

[jyaku 138]

I think if someone wants an open relationship, they should be open about it from the start rather than mislead..

Seeing as this is not what you want but he does, the breakup of marriage is inevitable - you want different things.

It's completely different if both parties are accepting of the situation or don't want that to happen but when 1 wants 1 thing and the other wants other, it will not work.

[enlijoe 20]

I'm going to make just one more comment on this. I've been there done that with posting on a forum asking for advice about a relationship. What I have learned from it is this. When you post a question like this you already know the answer you just do not like it. Your looking for someone to help you make the choice you already know you must make. my thoughts to you is do what your heart tells you to do. No one know what is going on with you better. If you feel this is bad then listen to yourself and do what you must to protect yourself.

[looney_72 0]

Thank you everybody for your comments!!!!!! I'm still shcoked and sad our interview is soon!

[Rich and Wen 101]

He is already cheating on you, even if he has not done so physically- yet. It's called, 'Alienation of affection', and will not get better. You will be on the hook for his support for as long as he wants you to be, meaning, if he wants to be an unemployed slacker, you will still be required to support him. He will need 40 quarters of Social Security credit or becoming a citizen before you will be off the hook.

This will not get better, and you will not enjoy the experience

[Ilovemyman 147]

This man isnt good for you.

I am sure that when he arrive to usa , he will leave with the first woman that cross in his front

[Ilovemyman 147]

Thank you everybody for your comments!!!!!! I'm still shcoked and sad our interview is soon!

Dont be sad, this is a warning that God is show you.

Simple dont go to the interview, this man only want you for visa propose.

If you dont want to see the truth on time, ok, but later dont complain.

[looney_72 0]

He is already cheating on you, even if he has not done so physically- yet. It's called, 'Alienation of affection', and will not get better. You will be on the hook for his support for as long as he wants you to be, meaning, if he wants to be an unemployed slacker, you will still be required to support him. He will need 40 quarters of Social Security credit or becoming a citizen before you will be off the hook.

This will not get better, and you will not enjoy the experience

This man isnt good for you.

I am sure that when he arrive to usa , he will leave with the first woman that cross in his front

That is not even an excuse because i am the beneficiary ...

[enlijoe 20]

That is not even an excuse because i am the beneficiary ...

Even that being that case do you wish to put yourself in a situation where you know almost no one, you have no job, and you are completely dependent on this person? Yes if things go bad you may recover. But is that where you want to be?

There is a very big risk that is being taken but either person when entering into this kind of relationship or agreement to marry someone from another country and have then move to a new country. It is bad enough within the same country just separated by a long distance.

If you have droughts now, what is going to change latter? Yes I know it always hard to give up on a relationship. But once again you need to think about you, and if you do not trust this person then you should be looking at why that is.

[Bankerbox69 5]

Looney end it,if it's bad now him coming will not make it better. I know someone that married from Ghana treated her like a queen,but once he got here,and swore in. He divorced her .filed the same day. Your too young to go through this. Value yourself. I have daughters ur age. You deserve better. Your a diamond remember that