Thank God, the day we start as a family in USA is soon

[LoveLife2 5]

Thank God, the day we start as a family in USA is soon. January 20th

Our Visa Journey was not always smooth. I love this woman and her kids but feel so much for the pain that they have gone through. The Father of the now 7 and 9 year old boys was gone for years before I met my Girl. He thought he is a Playboy with $ from parents. 'Not much $" When boys where young and little one born, He was caught sleeping with my Fiance Teen age sister when my Fiance gave birth to the youngest.This qualifies as PIG. Kids are so cute and I love talking and being with them. I will never speak bad of their father. Seems he now wants a part of their life after I am now a Man who will care and can. I think we will have a trip back home in 2015 and yes let the kids papa see them. I will only allow this as me the Man in there life watching over.

Sorry, but I protect all my loved ones.

[Greenbaum 12,260]

Sounds like you have a plan and your working it. I too have a very similar family who just arrived in USA last week. We had our first Christmas and it's been a long time since the kids (20/11) have had any gifts as their father abandon them 6 years ago and has not been in contact with them for the past 3 years. He sends no support money. His father is gravely ill and can't really afford supporting the kids in his sons absence, but has sold some land and used the money to send his grand-daughter to nursing college. It amazes me the character of some Pinoy's.

Keep a strong belief that you can make this happen for them and you will be rewarded 10 fold.

Congrats!!

[Tintin and Mike 127]

Congrats and safe flight to US soon!

[clairegie 265]

Congratulations!

[A and T 82]

I would be highly careful of letting father see the kids. You never know what his intentions are, maybe only in a really public place like a mall . You don't want someone to kidnap the kids or take off with them and demand money. You never know it never hurts to be extra careful.

[Caryh 5,206]

I would be highly careful of letting father see the kids. You never know what his intentions are, maybe only in a really public place like a mall . You don't want someone to kidnap the kids or take off with them and demand money. You never know it never hurts to be extra careful.

His opportunity to marry the mother of his children and make them legitimate is long past. Traditions in the Philippines, and the laws, are not nice to children born outside marriage. Unless this guy is trying to maintain contact and caring for the children while they're in the USA, I wouldn't even let him know when you return to visit. Odds are he's not going to really care unless he sees money to made off of the situation, if and when he does marry, caring might even become a problem in his new life. Again unless the opportunity for money arises. Don't judge Filipino culture and values by American culture and values. In some areas they are close, and in others they are nothing alike.

[LoveLife2 5]

So True Caryh!

As the date gets closer, his family also does. Not just him and Lola but Aunt who one is a lawyer and has a 10 year visitation visa to USA, She has actually met with the kids while they were in Manila for embassy and she now says she would just like to visit our house in USA. It appears she is honest and knows the Moma and me have the best interest in the kids. My Fiance was asked by her if she could visit us in USA, I'm all for family and said yes. Seems there is not a threat anymore about leaving Phill. but until they are on that plane I still hold some mistrust. The Lawyer Auntie asked if if USA living Sister of Lola can also visit, and me and my girl said yes and even invited to my/OUR house to stay. My Girl said to her. I'm not a hateful man just protective and welcome her to for our house to stay. I guess sometime times you need welcome folks you may never have thought your friends but only for the sake of the kids and pray it all works out. Jan 20th can't come soon enough..

[Caryh 5,206]

So True Caryh!

As the date gets closer, his family also does. Not just him and Lola but Aunt who one is a lawyer and has a 10 year visitation visa to USA, She has actually met with the kids while they were in Manila for embassy and she now says she would just like to visit our house in USA. It appears she is honest and knows the Moma and me have the best interest in the kids. My Fiance was asked by her if she could visit us in USA, I'm all for family and said yes. Seems there is not a threat anymore about leaving Phill. but until they are on that plane I still hold some mistrust. The Lawyer Auntie asked if if USA living Sister of Lola can also visit, and me and my girl said yes and even invited to my/OUR house to stay. My Girl said to her. I'm not a hateful man just protective and welcome her to for our house to stay. I guess sometime times you need welcome folks you may never have thought your friends but only for the sake of the kids and pray it all works out. Jan 20th can't come soon enough..

Glad the threats are going away, and the family is starting accept it. I totally understand the lack of trusting them at this point. If their family wants to stay in contact, well thats good if its for legitimate reasons and not to screw with you and your fiancee. You've got 17 more days to go. I pity your wife and the kids arriving on the coldest winter we've had in a long time though. The kids will probably adjust quick, hopefully your fiancee will to. I spoil mine keeping the temp up, but my place heats pretty cheaply, luckily for us, as the wife is rather cold sensitive. I think in another 5 years I might finally have her used to more normal indoor temps for Minnesotans lol.