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What's the best way to end a marriage?

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Juliet and Steve   93

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After a week of marriage all we seem to do is fight over jealousy issues and perceived wrongs.

Clearly there is no fault to throw out but clearly too, this will not work.

Any suggestions on the easiest and least painful method that is fair to both parties to end the relationship?

09/29/2012 - Met Online

11/22/2012 - 11/28/2012 - Steve's 1st Visit

02/08/2013 - I129F Submitted

02/12/2013 - NOA1

02/13/2013 - 03/07/2013 - Steve's 2nd Visit

02/14/2013 - Officially Engaged

06/21/2013 - Case transferred from VSC to TSC

07/24/2013 - NOA2

08/21/2013 - File sent to NVC

08/28/2013 - MNL Case Number received through phone

08/30/2013 - Visa Fee Paid

09/04/2013 - Medical Exam at SLEC (Done in 1 day)

09/25/2013 - Interview Appointment (Under AP with 221G)

10/01/2013 - Additional Document dropped at 2GO SM Cebu

10/08/2013 - CEAC Status Updated to READY

10/30/2013 - CEAC Status Updated to AP

10/30/2013 - CEAC Status ISSUED

11/06/2013 - VISA Received

11/11/2013 - CFO Done

11/15/2013 - POE Detroit

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David & Diana R   1,005

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After a week of marriage all we seem to do is fight over jealousy issues and perceived wrongs.

Clearly there is no fault to throw out but clearly too, this will not work.

Any suggestions on the easiest and least painful method that is fair to both parties to end the relationship?

You're ready to throw in the towel after only one week?? Go see a pastor or counselor. If you don't many will suspect that the beneficiary just did this to get a green card...

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Misha'sgirl   44

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Really sorry for you...

Hmm. Is your fiance initiating the arguments? Why is there jealousy...you are jealous of her or she of you? I have a bad feeling she is purposefully making rukkus betwixt you two because she was only ever "in it" for the greencard...that is, if you have already filed for it. Is all this arguing really "out of the blue" or has the relationship throughout been hectic? Is she wanting a divorce and then stay in the U.S. or she wants to return to her country? You don't have to answer questions publically...but you should think about them and come up with the answers yourself. If you come to the conclusion that it very likely seems your fiance was in it for the green-card or whatever, then I wouldn't go accusing them. That'll make things worse. But perhaps you should discuss it like adults and maybe ease the suggestion that it might be the case...

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reginaglenn   25

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I say, this is too early to give up.

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                                                               == I am the beneficiary==
AOS - K1 & K2
03-04-2014 ( Day 01) - Mailed
03-06-2014 ( Day 02) - Received
03-17-2014 ( Day 13) - Text and E-mail Notification at 12:50 am
03-21-2014 ( Day 17) - Received I-797C NOA (AOS, AP & EAD) hard copies - 6 mails
03-24-2014 ( Day 20) - Received I-797C NOA (ASC Appointment Notice/ Biometrics schedule) - 2 mails
04-09-2014 ( Day 36) - Biometrics Schedule @ 10&11am
05-30-2014 ( Day 87) - Received EAD combo card (K2 only)
06-09-2014 ( Day 97) - I 485 ( both k1 & k2 ) - Card / Document Production (no interview)
06-12-2014 ( Day 100)- I 485 ( both k1 & k2 ) - Mailed the new card
06-14-2014 ( Day 102)- GC ( both K1 & k2) - Received

Done.

 

ROC - K1 & K2

03-17-2016 ( Day 01) - Mailed

03-22-2016 ( Day 05) - NOA1

04-19-2016 ( Day 27) - Biometrics Appt. ( only K1 admitted, no K2 Bio Appt. letter received)

03-13-2017 ( Day 328) - Received Biometrics Appt. letter for K2 ( yes, almost a year of waiting!) Scheduled for March 22, 2017

03-22-2017 ( Day 337) - Biometrics Appt. (K2)

04-19-2017 ( Day 364)- USCIS status changed from "Case Was Received" to "Name Updated" (Only the K1 case)

04-26-2017 ( Day 371)-  USCIS status changed from " Name Updated" to "New Card Is Being Produced" ( both K1 and K2 app)

05-01-2017 ( Day 376)-   USCIS status changed from "New Card Is Being Produced" to "Card Was Mailed To Me" ( K2 case)

05-02-2017 ( Day 377)-   USCIS status changed from "New Card Is Being Produced" to "Card Was Mailed To Me" ( K1 case)

05-04-2017 ( Day 379)-  Received GC in the mail ( K2)

05-05-2017 ( Day 380)-  Received GC in the mail ( K1)

Done.

 

Naturalization

03-10-2017 ( Day 01) - Mailed

03-21-2017 ( Day 11) - Received Text and Email Notification

03-25-2017 ( Day 15) - Received NOA hardcopy

03-27-2017 ( Day 17) - USCIS website status changed " Fingerprint Appointment Was Scheduled"

04-12-2017 ( Day 33) - Biometrics/ Fingerprints & stamped passports for another 1 yr extension.

05-15-2017 ( Day 66) - "In Line for Interview" updated website status

05-17-2017 ( Day 68) - " Interview Was Scheduled" updated website status

05-25-2017 ( Day 76) - Received  the interview letter

06-26-2017 ( Day 108) - Interview Schedule

08-03-2017 ( Day 147)- Received notification online "Oath Ceremony Notice Was Mailed"

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Greenbaum   12,259

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I don't like to get involved in these kinds of matters as I feel there is always two sides to the coin and I have yet to hear her side.

But I will say, if you want to do this so it is fair to each of you, then you will need to file the divorce as this will permit her to go back to the Philippines and she will have a "status" that she has been annulled/divorced and this will permit her to marry again. If she files against you, then she will remain "married" in the eyes of the Filipino government and without an annulment she will not be able to remarry again, unless she commits bigamy, by marrying another foreigner.

Good luck.

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Adjustment of Status

AOS March 5, 2014 Submitted AOS with EAD/AP package to Chicago USICS

Delivered March 8, 2014 AOS packaged delivered to USCIS drop box

Accepted March 19, 2014 Text message with receipt numbers

Biometrics April 16, 2014 Biometrics completed

EAD May 23, 2014 Employment Authorization Document approved and went to card production

TD May 23, 2014 Travel Document approved and went for card production

Receipt EAD/AP May 30, 2014 Received combo card EAD/AP

Green Card Approved July 11, 2014 Approved, no interview. Went to card production.

Green Card received July 17, 2014 GC received without interview

Removal of Conditions

Mailed I-751 Dec 16, 2015 Submitted ROC (removal of conditions)

Received Dec 18, 2015 USPS notification of successful delivery

Check Cashed Dec 21, 2015 Check was cashed

NOA-1 Issued Dec 21, 2015 NOA-1 for ROC issued

NOA-1 Issued Dec 26, 2015 NOA-1 Received

Biometrics Appt. Jan 29, 2016 Biometrics Appointment Scheduled [Completed]

 

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sunandmoon   450

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I don't like to get involved in these kinds of matters as I feel there is always two sides to the coin and I have yet to hear her side.

But I will say, if you want to do this so it is fair to each of you, then you will need to file the divorce as this will permit her to go back to the Philippines and she will have a "status" that she has been annulled/divorced and this will permit her to marry again.

I believe she would also need to get a Judicial Recognition of Foriegn Divorce.

US Embassy Manila website. bringing your spouse/fiancee to USA

http://manila.usembassy.gov/wwwh3204.html

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DavenRoxy   1,073

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I'd say give it 6 more months. 1 week isn't NEAR enough time to know if you'll be happy with her making you miserable for the rest of your life.

Did you guys not argue before? Did you not know that Pinays are among the world's most jealous women (hate to generalize, but I can count on one hand the number of not-jealous Pinays I know). Seriously, she arrived 31 days ago. Are you really ready to throw in the towel already? It's not April Fool's day, but...

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Very sorry to read this post. I wish you the best of luck. Just make 100000% sure this is what you really want to do. Don't rush anything.

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Visa payment made at BPI. Receipt number received 01/10/2014

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I AM NOT THAT GUY   5,715

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I wanted to send my wife back the day she arrived. We have been married for over five years. It takes a while to adjust. Just remember, you are the boss. Even when she is telling you what to do, remember, you are the boss.

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Steve&Ema   25

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Yes I would agree with Dave and Hank, you need to give it more time. Marriage is hard work and comprise and you need to adjust to each other as well. Maybe the age difference is a factor as well?

K-1 Visa

Oct 1st, 2013 – Mailed in I-129F Package to Dallas Lockbox.

Oct 4th, 2013 – Package Delivered.

Oct 9th, 2013 - NOA1 Text and Email

Oct 15th, 2013 - NOA1 Hardcopy received in mail. Notice date on hardcopy says October 8th.

Nov 13th, 2013 - NOA2 - update on USCIS website

Dec 9th, 2013 - Petition received at NVC

Dec 11th, 2013 - Petition sent to Manila

Dec 19th, 2013 - Embassy receives petition

Dec 29th-Jan 8th-Our first New Year's together.

Feb 23rd- Fly to Manila to be with Ema for the interview.

Feb 27th, 2014 - Interview scheduled. We were APPROVED dancin5hr.gif

Feb 28th, 2014 - Ema does CFO- Passes with flying colors.

Mar 6th, 2014 - Visa in hand and ready to fly home.

Mar 14th, 2014 - POE Los Angeles

Apr 17th, 2014 - Our Wedding date. (L)

AOS

Sept 5th, 2014 - Mail package to Chicago

Sept 9th - Package Delivered

Sept 11th - NOA1 Texts and Emails.

Sept 17th - NOA1 Hardcopys received.

Sept 20th - Biometrics appointment letter received. Appointment for Oct 2nd.

Oct 2nd - Biometrics Done!

Nov 15th - EAD & AP approved and on the way!

No interview or interview wavier notice received

Jun 30th, 2015- Received welcome notice and approval.

July 23rd - Ema finally has her Green Card :dancing:

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David & Diana R   1,005

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I wanted to send my wife back the day she arrived. We have been married for over five years. It takes a while to adjust. Just remember, you are the boss. Even when she is telling you what to do, remember, you are the boss.

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