Can I sue USCIS if they caused my marriage to fail?

[livindadream 156]

I believe, by definition, that a marriage is consummated once, not repeatedly. Usually thought to be the first time a married couple have sex.

LOL...thank you for pointing that out....I, too, was perplexed by the term being used the way it was!

Although the issue of us all having to wait so long is not funny, I must say this thread has given me a much needed laugh...mostly due to the responses the poster is getting from my fellow VJ'ers.

[aaron2020 11,651]

Three posts removed for name-calling and another for quoting one. Please avoid letting the stress of waiting, or heated holding of opinion, affect the civility of your posting. Thread-bans or worse are risked if incivility continues.

Really? Removing a post because I called someone crazy for stating the USCIS has committed crimes against US citizens?

How is that name-calling when the position is frivolous?

[JA_Martinez 81]

Seriously? I continue to be stunned that Nov filers are ready after LESS THAN 30 DAYS to put the gloves on and fight the govt. there are people in this line of over 500,000 people who have waited at the expense of children and elderly family members; even one (poss more) folks who waited for so long their family member died from cancer when they got to the US. Be patient, be humble and wait your turn! OR don't and get out of the line and let the folks behind you take your place. It's that simple. Better yet, rock your own boat....you wait will likely get longer. Just sayin

[Ban Hammer 13,404]

to answer the question: yes, you can sue. good luck winning your case though.

[Kaylara 814]

I'm unable to, uh, regularly consummate my marriage now that I-130 is filed and we've gotta wait a year.

Phone? Skype? You don't have to be physically present with each other to be intimate. You can "consummate" yourself 'till the cows come home.

I survived 2 years of a LDR with my husband doing that. It was interesting. And fun.

Again, I've been waiting about 9 months already. It'll be well over a year before me or my kids see my husband. But if distance or time were enough to tear us apart, it would have happened when we were dating. Not getting laid? Whatever, I've been married 8 years, and have 2 little kids. There are more important things than getting laid. (Not that sex isn't awesome, because it totally is. But it's not the most important thing in the world.)

I'd just like to be able to hold my husband's hand again.

This entire process sucks. But you've really gotta work at it to make a LDR work. Sometimes you have to work even harder than you would if they were physically present. But if they're worth it, then you'll put the work in. My husband is worth the whole universe to me, and I'd do anything for him. I know that the feeling is mutual. So if we have to wait, again, then we will wait. We won't be happy about it, and we'll complain, and miss each other like crazy, and do our best to shorten our time apart. But we'll do it, because we love each other, and our marriage is worth it.

[Dieseltu 19]

Three posts removed for name-calling and another for quoting one. Please avoid letting the stress of waiting, or heated holding of opinion, affect the civility of your posting. Thread-bans or worse are risked if incivility continues.

Are you talking to me?

[Hotter Otter 1,211]

Oh puleeze like none of us have ever had to wait that long for the love of our life. I think most of us here have "dated" our partner on skype.

Phone? Skype? You don't have to be physically present with each other to be intimate. You can "consummate" yourself 'till the cows come home.

Exactly. Plus as an added bonus you know you are helping the guys on the boring night shift at NSA have a much more interesting job

[Avery Cates 1,141]

Some of you guys need to uncork a bit, okay? It's Friday, relax.

Wants to have fire and brimstone and sue after a month of waiting. Tells others to relax.

I like the cut of your jib.

[Ning 619]

No you're very helpful, I'm just frustrated at this whole immigration thing that seems to be designed to keep people out and law abiding citizens are the ones who suffer. No wonder the gun lobby is so successful talking about how criminals don't do background checks, etc.

Maybe we should band together and start a Super PAC and go after this issue.

Getting the band to play the same song is exactly why the process is as it is and why it will basically remain that way.

[2018JourneyDone 77]

I will post this here as well.... Since it appears you are on quite a posting frenzy today ((reference class action post here))

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So, just out of curiosity, what are your suggestions to improve the system? Basis for the lawsuit? etc. As with most anything in life, systems and processes need to change to keep their relevancy and, in this instance, keep processes moving forward effectively, efficiently, and with the utmost scrutiny. All too often on this site I am reading post after post of fellow VJ'ers that fell head over heals in love, filed for either their fiance or spouse to come to the US and the moment they've entered and received their green card, they're GONE. Unfortunately, the immigrant had other intentions rather than staying with the petitioner. These are the lesser of two evil beneficiary filers. The other were referenced previously. And don't even get me started on the group of beneficiaries that take courses on how to accuse their petitioner of spousal abuse after arrival as a means to secure their green card.... If you're looking for something/one to file a lawsuit against, file it against people like those who abuse this system and ultimately are the TRUE CAUSE OF SUCH DELAYS AND THEREFORE WARRANTING THE NEED FOR SUCH SCRUTINY OF IMMIGRATION CASES.

As an alternative to that suggestion, maybe the solution lies in growing and training the workforce that is dealing with the ever-growing caseloads. However, what does that entail? More $$ from the federal government, and therefore, more $$ from taxpayers. I bet far more people support less taxes than an increase to help those of us who've fallen in love with a foreigner to expedite the process to allow them entry sooner. Is this difficult? Absolutely. Are there days I want to yell, cry, relieve my frustrations on someone? Damn right I do (ah-hem...today) But blaming my government for the time they spend to vet incoming soon-to-be green-card holders and even citizens and trying to rally the troops to file a lawsuit? Seems a bit frivolous.

Although I am currently in the midst of the process for the faster fiance visa (still don't understand why that is faster, however) I fully understood the process when we decided to take this route, fully expected the endless waiting, fully expected to expose my entire life to the government and then some and hence, fully committed to not only completing the process but committed to my fiance that no matter what, we will not quit. We will make it through this and if push comes to shove and he is not granted entry, I will go be with him. Period.

[Cam54 84]

No you're very helpful, I'm just frustrated at this whole immigration thing that seems to be designed to keep people out and law abiding citizens are the ones who suffer. No wonder the gun lobby is so successful talking about how criminals don't do background checks, etc.

Maybe we should band together and start a Super PAC and go after this issue.

Ofcourse it's designed to keep people out, America doesn't have infinite resources, naturally they will only let people in who have a credible need to come to the country and will have a positive impact.

Yes the process is slow, but you are so soon into the process it concerns me what you'll do once you've been left waiting 6 months

[David & Diana R 1,005]

Phone? Skype? You don't have to be physically present with each other to be intimate. You can "consummate" yourself 'till the cows come home.

I survived 2 years of a LDR with my husband doing that. It was interesting. And fun.

Again, I've been waiting about 9 months already. It'll be well over a year before me or my kids see my husband. But if distance or time were enough to tear us apart, it would have happened when we were dating. Not getting laid? Whatever, I've been married 8 years, and have 2 little kids. There are more important things than getting laid. (Not that sex isn't awesome, because it totally is. But it's not the most important thing in the world.)

I'd just like to be able to hold my husband's hand again.

This entire process sucks. But you've really gotta work at it to make a LDR work. Sometimes you have to work even harder than you would if they were physically present. But if they're worth it, then you'll put the work in. My husband is worth the whole universe to me, and I'd do anything for him. I know that the feeling is mutual. So if we have to wait, again, then we will wait. We won't be happy about it, and we'll complain, and miss each other like crazy, and do our best to shorten our time apart. But we'll do it, because we love each other, and our marriage is worth it.

Kaylara,

For once I agree with you on something! YES!! Thank God for skype. hahaha

Merry Christmas!! and Aloha

[Al422 221]

There was one meber whose Fiancee "walked away" from the relationship due to the waiting process. They went back together and she is here now. I forgot the username but I think they are from The RUB.

Yeah well mine didn't come back, but like I said I found a new one who is at least 10 times better than the one I lost. So no problem for me.

[jaskamiin 5]

I'm unable to, uh, regularly consummate my marriage now that I-130 is filed and we've gotta wait a year. She could use her valid B1/B2 visa and *try* to come in - but we've already been warned the last time she entered at POE in September so I don't want to risk her getting denied entry next time. Maybe we can try in the summer, I guess.

Of course I could fly to Taiwan (25-hour journey door to door, Indy isn't a hub city) for ~$2K each time, but that's some expensive ways of consummating my marriage.

Some of you guys need to uncork a bit, okay? It's Friday, relax. I can look forward to plowing my driveway tomorrow morning.

It sounds like you're a bit more concerned about the sex than the visa.

[Longjour 0]

definitely kept me from travelling out to my wife

they do manipulate the processing times

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/464398-delayed-n-400/#entry6634157

once this is done I can apply for her who knows if she'll recognize me by that time

PLEASE, refrain from flaming

Edited December 14, 2013 by Longjour