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oh i love reading all ur posts but i wanna share what we did to keep the fire burning! hehe we just never stop loving...

we met in january and exchanged emails..taught him to use yahoo messenger and saw ourselves on cam, learn to love each other...phone calls really made us knew deeply about ourselves.imagine, while chatting, seeing ourselves on cam, we were talking on the phone...for hours..couldn't believed we have stayed that long on the phone almost everyday...not thinking the bills he paid!that sometimes he was cut off because he exceeded his limit! :blush: talking always made us learn about each other's likes and dislikes and everything about us...even we're apart.

after 3 months, we got engaged and it seems that we have known each other for years...now we are on this visa journey and our love is going stronger...i wake up every morning, there he is on cam, busy with works and busy watching over me :), when i sleep, he watches me every night...and even takes a nap so i could hear him snoring and puts me to sleep fast.. I am immune to his snore that feels like i am beside him when i hear it :) when he goes to work, he let me hop in, he bought a new phone with a modem just for him to carry his lap tap with internet connection so we could be together, and drives me around his city...we even got a date in a donut store haha and baby sit, watching together his granddaughters playing...sometimes, we go together to a barber shop, watch him have a haircut on cam!

i love it, but i am really looking forward on seeing each other again, nothing is more fun and lovable being with each other...we enjoyed being together on the net, how much more being together in person. distance and time is not a problem,,,people theirselves create the problem...

best of luck...i love u franko!

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I think it is all about trust. Trust is very important in a relationship. A long distance relationship is VERY hard (I felt it first-hand and first experience). But, I think in the end it will make the relationship stronger because of the missing bond and needing desire of one another. Talking then becomes a factor in which further strengthens the couples and in the end, will only make the two more aware of each other (either through strengths and/or weaknesses). If couples can pass this very hard challenge of maintaining a healthy relationship while at distance, then the relationship itself will be a long, lasting, and powerful one.

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While LDR's can have certain advantages, I think it's rather odd to imply that these relationships are somehow "better".

I agree. Some of my married friends who never had to go through a LDR have very happy marriages and I wouldn't say my marriage was better.

As to the orignal Q...

I think our LDR did make us stronger, after meeting face to face we had to be apart for 11 months which was horrible for me. But it made me stronger as a person. It made our love stronger, but it's true that once you are together and married, real life sets in and you face obstacles at times.

So what I feel is that our LDR made us stronger in the area of patience and perseverance, which means we try not to freak out over little things in life anymore. We are together at least, facing them together instead of separated. Whenever we worry about stupid things, we remind ourselves of what we went through to be together and it makes the little worry seem like nothing to be worried about at all.

I wouldn't say that makes us better in the marriage department than ppl who did not have LDR's, but we were instilled with more patience/perseverance than we ever wished upon ourselves by going through it.

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I think the distance can make things a bit more 'hyperactive' which isn't always a good thing. Many act on the 'OMG I hate being apart' impulse that they experience early on in the relationship and then wind up regretting it later. I've never understood how or why this process should be a race to the visa finish line. To me, the visa is just the first step on building a life together.

If my fiance lived in the same city as me, we would want to date (or be engaged) for a while before we actually got married - which is pretty much what we've done, even with the distance. I am confident that we are a stronger couple for it.

Well said. :thumbs:

It's easy to get caught up in the emotional rollercoaster of the visa process that focusing on the actual relationship can take a back seat. Lately, with Jinky's upcoming interview, we've been spending a lot of our phone conversations talking about preparation but we try to not to let it dominate the conversation.

I found some great advice for LDR's that posted before. One thing that I recall was to talk about the little things - what you had for lunch - as mundane as that may seem, it's the sharing of our daily lives that keep the intimacy over the long distance. :star:

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Stronger than any else could be after 3 years of long distance relationship and going in stronger.

Nothing can compare or break this relationship

It will never die.

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I think the distance can make things a bit more 'hyperactive' which isn't always a good thing. Many act on the 'OMG I hate being apart' impulse that they experience early on in the relationship and then wind up regretting it later. I've never understood how or why this process should be a race to the visa finish line. To me, the visa is just the first step on building a life together.

If my fiance lived in the same city as me, we would want to date (or be engaged) for a while before we actually got married - which is pretty much what we've done, even with the distance. I am confident that we are a stronger couple for it.

Well said. :thumbs:

It's easy to get caught up in the emotional rollercoaster of the visa process that focusing on the actual relationship can take a back seat. Lately, with Jinky's upcoming interview, we've been spending a lot of our phone conversations talking about preparation but we try to not to let it dominate the conversation.

I found some great advice for LDR's that posted before. One thing that I recall was to talk about the little things - what you had for lunch - as mundane as that may seem, it's the sharing of our daily lives that keep the intimacy over the long distance. :star:

Whatever you do dont buy a ticket to the rollercoaster! Just enjoy the fact that you met and have each other. Its only a matter of time till your together.

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Who's going to admit that their relationship has begun to suck from too much time online and apart? Whomever they are, they obviously haven't spotted this thread yet! :lol:

Hmmm.....I am not one of those that has anything to "admit" to. Our relationship didn't suffer, other than the fact that we missed each other like mad while we were apart. It didn't cause problems, it didn't cause us to take out our frustrations about the immigration system on each other. I mean, why would we? What would have been the point in that? We were in contact everyday. We talked about everything...even those mundane things like how many loads of laundry I had for the weekend, what was on TV at the moment, just ordinary boring things. We've never had an argument...and maybe some might find that hard to believe but in our case, it happens to be the truth. :)

Is it so hard to believe that some couples can come through an LDR with their love stronger than ever and completely intact?

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While LDR's can have certain advantages, I think it's rather odd to imply that these relationships are somehow "better".

Amen, Jenn!

I was biting my tongue (or my typing finger) until I saw your post...

Everyone is entitled to their opinions and coping mechanisms, so I certainly don't want to rain on anyone's parade or rationalizations.

But, honestly, my wife and I would DEFINITELY prefer to be together right now, bonding in person, rather than going thru this inefficient, redundancy-plagued, prolonged immigration foolishness.

Let's keep it real... wouldn't everyone reading this thread prefer to be bonding with their mate right now, rather than philosophising about it on the internet? :rolleyes:

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While LDR's can have certain advantages, I think it's rather odd to imply that these relationships are somehow "better".

Amen, Jenn!

I was biting my tongue (or my typing finger) until I saw your post...

Everyone is entitled to their opinions and coping mechanisms, so I certainly don't want to rain on anyone's parade or rationalizations.

But, honestly, my wife and I would DEFINITELY prefer to be together right now, bonding in person, rather than going thru this inefficient, redundancy-plagued, prolonged immigration foolishness.

Let's keep it real... wouldn't everyone reading this thread prefer to be bonding with their mate right now, rather than philosophising about it on the internet? :rolleyes:

I agree Jenn...one cannot imply that an LDR is better or more successful than traditional relationships. I think we've seen that on here already.

I don't think anyone on here is going to say they love this separation and enjoy the immigration process. If there was, I'd seriously wonder about them! I admit that I wish this process had been quicker...who doesn't? BUT, I can't say our relationship "sucked" because of the separation and we are both level headed and rational. We knew it would take work to keep our LDR going, and even more work once he was here and we were married.

I think my husband and I have kept things pretty real. :)

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