Do you and your fiance(e) have a large age difference?

[sarah and hicham 3]

Do you and your fiance(e) have a large age difference?

Did you get any bad reactions from family or friends, or anyone else?

If so, what did you do, make a joke of it, insult them back, get mad, or what?

Nope, can't fight it. We're still blaming you for this thread.

I just wanted to add that I had nothing to do with the creation of this thread

eta: however, I am really enjoying it.

me too!

messageboards=drama. I think TracyTN said that first.

oh but sarah, 'gross and abnormal' is going down in infamy, lol

haha Lisa I was sooo waiting for someone to repeat those descriptions.

[garya505 2]

Well relationships are tricky. I can see how there could be a "power gap" (I'd call it by a different term), when there is a huge age gap. It'd depend on the relationship though.

I could see where a younger woman could control an older guy because she has control over the sexual side of the relationship.

Is that what people are implying here?

[Fandango 1,439]

I think it's gross and abnormal when the large age difference also comes with a mothering/fathering aspect from the older partner.

[Killer_Clown_2009 0]

Haha....She could! Unless she was frigid of course (and maybe even then too). Women usually control the sexual part of a relationship anyway.

Edited December 21, 2006 by jane2005

[garya505 2]

I think it's gross and abnormal when the large age difference also comes with a mothering/fathering aspect from the older partner.

Wouldn't that also depend more on their personalities than their ages? I mean, you could have two people of the same age, one of whom is immature, and the other could take the parent-like role.

[rebeccajo 14]

But you cannot be Daddy, so let's consider a possible scenario for you - Mommy. How do you imagine you might feel as a 40-something woman if a 20-something guy was interested in you?

I'd think he was one lucky little boy if he could keep up with mamma.....

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

I think it's gross and abnormal when the large age difference also comes with a mothering/fathering aspect from the older partner.

I cant beleive you said that!

[~Jackie~ 30]

Edited cuz I really don't give a shiite.

J

Edited December 21, 2006 by jmagayreh

[rebeccajo 14]

Edited cuz I really don't give a shiite.

J

Well J you know how it is. When some peoples panties get bunched, it cuts off the flow of blood to their brain........

*CHICKEN*...................LOLOLOL

Edited December 21, 2006 by rebeccajo

[garya505 2]

But you cannot be Daddy, so let's consider a possible scenario for you - Mommy. How do you imagine you might feel as a 40-something woman if a 20-something guy was interested in you?

I'd think he was one lucky little boy if he could keep up with mamma.....

As in, Who's Your Mamma?

[Alex+R 0]

If the power dynamic between the two people isn't weird, age doesn't matter.

How often is it not weird between two people with a large age gap, though?

And that's weird by American mainstream feminist (or even post-feminist) standards.

Apparently you're suggesting that a large age gap automatically means one person most likely has more "power" or is in control of the relationship. Doesn't this depend more on the personalities involved than the ages of the two people?

No, Gary, I was saying practically the opposite. Please, for once, listen to me before you claim I'm saying something I'm not. I was saying a difference in who has power in the relationship weirds me out, and that it's more common in age-gap relationships. Not that having an age gap MEANS that problem will occur. Not that it doesn't occur in tons of relationships where husband and wife (or other couple) are the same age.

A power gap, as Jenn pointed out, is not a problem for everyone. For me it would be.

[Fandango 1,439]

I think it's gross and abnormal when the large age difference also comes with a mothering/fathering aspect from the older partner.

I cant beleive you said that!

Why?

[Killer_Clown_2009 0]

It's pretty common for people to be attracted to (and marry) those similar to our parent(s). Kinda hard to avoid a mothering/fathering aspect in a relationship entirely.

[Sofiyya 1,687]

I was saying a difference in who has power in the relationship weirds me out, and that it's more common in age-gap relationships. Not that having an age gap MEANS that problem will occur. Not that it doesn't occur in tons of relationships where husband and wife (or other couple) are the same age.

How do you know if it's more or less common in age difference relationships? Do you have empirical evidence to aupport this, or is it simply your personal opinion?

If it can happen in any relationship, do age similar relationships weird you out too?

Not challenging, just asking because I think your answer is interesting in its ambiguity.

Edited December 21, 2006 by szsz

[Jenn! 918]

I was saying a difference in who has power in the relationship weirds me out, and that it's more common in age-gap relationships. Not that having an age gap MEANS that problem will occur. Not that it doesn't occur in tons of relationships where husband and wife (or other couple) are the same age.

How do you know if it's more or less common in age difference relationships? Do you have empirical evidence to aupport this, or is it simply your personal opinion?

If it can happen in any relationship, do age similar relationships weird you out too?

Not challenging, just asking because I think your answer is interesting in its ambiguity.

I know you weren't asking me this, but I think that a difference in ages affects the dynamics of any relationship, not just romantic ones. I tend to be more submissive around people who are older than me than I am with people my own age. Maybe that's something that not everyone feels.