Do you and your fiance(e) have a large age difference?

[kaydee457 13]

HEY whats up guys ! if the two people are truely madly inlove and happy inspite of thier big age gap then i cant see having problem with that !

are you guys are happy with your relastionship to your girlfriend / spouse ???? if no, then that is a big issue and a big problem that needed to discuss and must be solve....

I think that's the key. Personally I don't care what ignorant or prejudiced people say to me. However, if someone disrespects my fiancee or gives her an "attitude" about our age difference, well we probably won't be spending much time with them, and it's their loss.

That's a good attitude, Gary.

It's a good idea to get used to the fact that you will encounter these kinds of people from this point out , and concerning the "disrespect your fiancee" comment unfortunately, your fiancee will no doubt experience some "discomfort" around some american women that wish to communicate their disapproval of your "coupling in public" by making use of gestures and strategically placed sarcastic remarks to her.

It's an unfortunate fact of life you'll need to "de-sensitize" yourself to and let her deal with it......else you'll be wanting to beat up a bunch of these "trashy idjits" on a daily basis.

Just try to ignore them for they're a sad bunch......

[garya505 2]

HEY whats up guys ! if the two people are truely madly inlove and happy inspite of thier big age gap then i cant see having problem with that !

are you guys are happy with your relastionship to your girlfriend / spouse ???? if no, then that is a big issue and a big problem that needed to discuss and must be solve....

I think that's the key. Personally I don't care what ignorant or prejudiced people say to me. However, if someone disrespects my fiancee or gives her an "attitude" about our age difference, well we probably won't be spending much time with them, and it's their loss.

That's a good attitude, Gary.

It's a good idea to get used to the fact that you will encounter these kinds of people from this point out , and concerning the "disrespect your fiancee" comment unfortunately, your fiancee will no doubt experience some "discomfort" around some american women that wish to communicate their disapproval of your "coupling in public" by making use of gestures and strategically placed sarcastic remarks to her.

It's an unfortunate fact of life you'll need to "de-sensitize" yourself to and let her deal with it......else you'll be wanting to beat up a bunch of these "trashy idjits" on a daily basis.

Just try to ignore them for they're a sad bunch......

Thanks I'll keep that in mind. I think couples with a large age difference need a good sense of humor too. I'd rather laugh at stupid people than get pissed off. Anyway that's my plan. yes:

Edited December 26, 2006 by garya505

[Fandango 1,439]

I siad this before and I'll say it again......ppl should stop worrying what other ppl think/say/do....and worry about making themselves happy. Then everyone else's opinion is superfluous.

[Together4ever 1]

I think what large age difference relationships will encounter is very apparent in this thread, but if a couple honestly love each other, the opinions of others just doesn't mean jack.

We have an age difference. A friend had assumed we were just trifling with hormones until we were all sitting together one night at an outdoor cafe. I looked at her and she had tears in her eyes. I asked her what was wrong and she said, "my God, you two are so in love. I didn't think it was really true, but I can see it. I wish had that."

We love being together, it speaks for itself, and if others have a problem with it, its not our problem to own.

Edited December 26, 2006 by just_waiting

[Welshcookie 17]

I siad this before and I'll say it again......ppl should stop worrying what other ppl think/say/do....and worry about making themselves happy. Then everyone else's opinion is superfluous.

I agree

Y'know I have experienced a big age gap and thought about making a comment, but well, he was 21 yrs my senior, it ended, but I have had one or two other relationships that ended too...things turn to sh!t sometimes.....

[garya505 2]

I siad this before and I'll say it again......ppl should stop worrying what other ppl think/say/do....and worry about making themselves happy. Then everyone else's opinion is superfluous.

Well, maybe. I have a friend who kind of freaked out about our age difference, which was strange because she has a significant age difference with her husband. #######? All she knew about my fiancee was her age, and she wasn't interested in finding out anything else. Now this friend doesn't talk to me because I didn't take her advice to dump my fiance and find someone older. It's too bad really, this friend would have liked my fiancee if she would have gotten to know her.

[brnidokiegurl 0]

wasn't truly a friend then, were they?

[Fandango 1,439]

I siad this before and I'll say it again......ppl should stop worrying what other ppl think/say/do....and worry about making themselves happy. Then everyone else's opinion is superfluous.

Well, maybe. I have a friend who kind of freaked out about our age difference, which was strange because she has a significant age difference with her husband. #######? All she knew about my fiancee was her age, and she wasn't interested in finding out anything else. Now this friend doesn't talk to me because I didn't take her advice to dump my fiance and find someone older. It's too bad really, this friend would have liked my fiancee if she would have gotten to know her.

Then that wasn't a friend.

Honestly, I couldn't give a toss about what anyone has to say about me and D. It really hasn't been negative other than the 'how can you two do this LDR thing it's so insane' type stuff. It's funny, a friend of mine was like that when I met her....then she met a guy who lived far away and she came to me and was all 'I totally understand now'.....lol in fact, she's moving TODAY to his state cos it's been 4 weeks and she can't stand the distance, poor thing!

Don't get me wrong, I was concerned about my parents liking him. It wouldn't have changed things with us, but it's just wonderful for everyone to be a family who gets along. They didn't approve of my ex at all, so I really hoped they would like D......But they actually LOVE him which is so wonderful...and he's got a great relationship with both of them. In fact, whenever he's here, my dad and I have to fight over him...cos my dad will take at least one day of D's hols for the two of them to go fishing, drinking, etc. So yeah, I was concerned about their opinion, but I think that's natural.

But at the end of the day, no one else's opinion means jack squat to me. You don't like it? Then you don't have to be with him We're happy and that's really all I care about. And I think that's the key to happiness....to validate yourselves and stop giving merit to meritless opinions.

[garya505 2]

wasn't truly a friend then, were they?

Ya, you could have a point there.

[garya505 2]

But at the end of the day, no one else's opinion means jack squat to me. You don't like it? Then you don't have to be with him We're happy and that's really all I care about. And I think that's the key to happiness....to validate yourselves and stop giving merit to meritless opinions.

I agree, but it would be nice to have a way to show them they're wrong.

[brnidokiegurl 0]

My friends here at work are waiting just like me ha they have the party already planned. They often talk to him on the phone from here (my cell) and the Office Christmas cards were addressed to both of us.

[garya505 2]

My friends here at work are waiting just like me ha they have the party already planned. They often talk to him on the phone from here (my cell) and the Office Christmas cards were addressed to both of us.

Yes maybe you have something there. Just ignoring the stupid remarks and inviting them in might work.

[kaydee457 13]

My friends here at work are waiting just like me ha they have the party already planned. They often talk to him on the phone from here (my cell) and the Office Christmas cards were addressed to both of us.

Yes maybe you have something there. Just ignoring the stupid remarks and inviting them in might work.

All of my family and friends have come around after meeting my wife.....

I now only need to deal with strangers in malls/resturants/everywhere else....My wife seems more attentive/sensitive to the "stink-eye" and remarks than I....

Just the other day we had a bartender remark in a deragtory way about our union (paraphrasing- "now this shurely isn't your boyfriend"<sarcastically said>, and actually try to flirt with my wife....Jeesh!

They're out there- get used to it!

[yellow_ray 0]

Age is not the question if you are married/hooked to somebody with the big age difference.As long you truly love and care for him/her. In my case, my husband is 27 years older than me, but everything is working well with us. With his friends and families, all i can see from them, they were really happy for us. I never encounter discrimination or bad reaction from them. But if that will happen to me in the future (hoping not), my initial reaction is, i will really get mad, but then i have to let them know and tell them in a calm way that, that is not right and insulting in our part. Thats an honest fact.I hope i have given you a good point about your query. HAPPY NEW YEAR!

[eric&gen 0]

Age shouldnt matter my side of the family had a problem with me getting married in the Philippines. When my wife arrived and met everyone on my side of the family they got over it then life went on.