2-years green card, divorce meanwhile, what next?

[Mehur4e 4]

I got married to a us citizen in May 2013, sent papers for AOS, got interview and got my green card under conditions in October 2013. My husband is in school in navy right now so we have been physically separated since July , but saw each other 2 times during these months - once for his graduation from boot camp in sept, and once in oct for our interview. Since then (October, after the interview) he started acting towards me so cold, ignoring my phone calls and messages, not sending any money to his family (me and his mom- we live together just the two of us), he doesn't care how we r doing can we pay the bills(because she got fired in oct and since then we r both looking for jobs and applying every day, but nobody is calling for an interview), from time to time pick up the phone only when his mom calls and he is acting rude towards her, and he is posponing on purpose his school graduation (he told her that) - he is skipping classes so he can get kicked out of class and punished with staying more time there, last week he got kicked out of his second class, and he is put on hold... I just don't want to be with that man anymore.. When we got married he was swearing that I was the love if his life, he will give his life for me, he lives only for me, and the last month he is acting towards me like I am nobody. I believe he has an afera with some girl there and that's way he started ignoring me and started wanting to stay longer there.. But even if it is true I cannot prove it.. I want to divorce him because nobody deserves to be treated this way, and his mom supports me, but I am not sure what will happen with my green card. I read in this forum that once u get your divorce finalized u can apply for removing the conditions of the green card even if this happens before the 2-year expiration period if my green card, and that I can send the needed form without him but I need to attach all the proves that we were a real couple. We brought all the bona Fide evidence on our interview (his life insurance with my name as a beneficiary, joint bank account, marriage certificate, pictures, airplane tickets..)and since than we don't have more because he is in school in different state.

So can u please tell me am I right that I can fill for removing the conditions on my green card once the divorce is finalized and to do that without him, and can I send the same evidence that we sent with our AOS package?

[Penguin_ie 5,996]

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[Caryh 5,206]

Yes you can remove conditions on your own after divorcing, there's a check box on the form. You'll need to prove you had a valid marriage, the shared financials are big in that. I don't know what you sent for the AOS, you could have sent more than was needed, so you may have sent enough. You'll also need to send a copy of the finalized divorce decree.

[mrjack 9]

I would throw up major red flags if I was the IO here. I would prolly deny the removal of conditions and start proceedings for marriage fraud.

Why?

You married him and he immediately began living separately from you.

You were living separately during the visa interview

Immediately after getting the green card you announce publicly that you want to divorce him using excuses that can't be verified as we are only hearing one side to the story.

I'm sorry that I''m being rough but just bringing up the obvious. I would really start working on how you will deal with the removal of conditions ASAP because you will need the prep time.

[JayJayH 546]

I agree with mrjack, I do see some major red flags here.

- you got married less than a year after entry on J-1. (how long did you know him?)

- was your J-1 about to expire?

- you began living separately as soon as you got married.

- you want a divorce very shortly after receiving the green card.

I'm not accusing you of anything, just laying it out for you in an outsider's perspective.

It is true that you can remove conditions without him if you are divorced. You will have to show evidence that the marriage was entered into in good faith. I don't know exactly what evidence you showed at the interview, or the extent of it..

What is his mom saying in all of this?

[Mehur4e 4]

Thank u guys for the responses! I don't get offended at all because I know the truth - we got married because we were madly in love with each other, not for documents, but because the love is a feeling bit a fact, it needs to be supported with evidences. So I am very thankful for your third side perspective, because it shows me that even if I know the truth, from outside point of view it doesn't sound convincing.

On our interview we brought evidences like his life insurance with my name as a beneficiary, joint bank account, marriage certificate, pictures, airplane tickets, affidavit, written from his mom and his grandpa, joint pass for a swimming pool, letters from institutions and copies of his and his mom IDs showing that we all 3 of us live together under the same address. I might forget something but these are the once I do remember sending and bringing for the interview.

We met summer 2011 in a resort town in MA, were both if us were going just for the summer, and we started actually dating in the begining of the next summer 2012. All season we were together madly in love with each other and at the end of the summer we decided to stay for each other during the winter in that town- he didn't go back to idaho and I didn't go back to Bulgaria. So I stayed - I didn't care about my status or the fact that my visa will expire, I just wanted to be with him, I know it is really childish but people do stupid thing when they are crazy in love. My parents supported my decision because they could see how happy I was and the most important for them is their only daughter to be happy even thousands miles away. So during the winter one day after watching a really nice romantic movie, he whispered in my ear - do u want to marry me.. And I was the happiest girl in the world! We ordered rings together we chose together his outfit and my dress for the wedding, and decided to move to another town (island) not far away from the 1st town and to start our lives together. We got married on the beach on that new town(island), few of our friends were there plus my family was in video conversation via Skype.

Then we started looking for jobs, our friends from the island helped us, but the standard was way to high so in a month we were broke- we didn't earn enough and couldn't pay the bills, so his mom was there for us- she suggested for us to move and live with her in idaho, his grandpa got us the sirplane tickets, and in June 2013 we started living together with his mom. We decided that it is time for me to fix my papers so I can get a job easily, so I started reading forms and instructions at home while he was looking for a job. He had no luck finding one.

Since he was 10 years old he wanted to join the armed forces, so once we decided that now was the best time. We went to talk together with a recruiter, and in a month we send the documents and he left for 2 months in boot camp in Illinois. We were writing letters all the time (he couldn't keep his phone with him while there) and whenever they let him to have a phone call he was calling me.. After 2 months me and his mom when in Illinois for his graduation , stayed there with him for the weekend and had to go because he was supposed to start school there for a month. After s week it was time for our interview so he took a leave and we spend 2 days together in Boise. The interview was quick and easy the lady even said in the beginning - I can see u r a real couple but I just need to ask u the questions that I am supposed to...

During the whole time since he joined the navy until today his address is still here - he lives here with his mom and me but he is there just for schooling. On papers we don't live separate. Even on the interview day I asked the lady should we provide his address in his school, and she said no need - he lives with u and receives his mail in his home, he is just for a school in Great Lakes.

So the problems started after the interview as I said in the previous post and I just don't want to repeat myself because this post became way too long anyway.

And about the last question - what is his mom saying about this - she loves me like her own daughter, the way I love her as my mom and my friend, and she like me thinks that he changed a lot the last few months (since his school started) and he is acting in a very rude unloving uncaring way and that I don't deserve this attitude. She wishes we can work out the things between us, but he shows no desire and that is killing mine. She wishes he will change the way he was because she admits that since we met he changed a lot in a very good way - started being more caring and loving towards his whole family, quit smoking, quit spending money on alchohol and things he doesn't need and etc.

so at the end I really don't know if he really changed in a good way inspired by our love or he was just pretending in order to make me fall in love, because if it is the second - he succeeded fooling me, he made me fall in love, stay for him and got married, and now he is just showing is real face.

I don't know this person anymore. I tried talking - he ignores me, I wanted to work the things - he shows no desire. Well a relationship requires 2 people. So I am done fighting. And that's why I wanted to know my options in case of divorce