my son doesn't want to go to U.S without grandma

[mas85 0]

My USC husband petitioned me and my son to live in the U.S but my 12 year old son doesn't want to leave without his grandma (my mom). We are almost done with the immigration process. I don't know what to do because my mom also wants her grandson to stay with her because she will feel very homesick. Can anyone give advice?

Edited December 2, 2013 by annconscious85

[Boiler 45,535]

He is 12, you make the calls.

[lost_at_sea 995]

Difficult family decision.

Not sure what you're asking in terms of immigration advice - do you want to know about grandma's options for immigration?

[kzielu 1,149]

In 3 years you will be able to petition your mother - that's the immigration option you have available. Other than that, what advice are you asking for ?

You either take him with you or leave him with grandma, third option is you stay with them both, husband moves in with you.

[mas85 0]

My mom doesnt want to migrate because she doesnt want to leave our house here but If we can get a tourist visa for my mom, how long can she stay in the u.s? Can i usher my mom back to the philippines? She's 67 years old

[Boiler 45,535]

If she can get a B2 then the maximum stay would be 6 months. Be aware than Travel Insurance at her age for that length of time would be very expensive.

[Pitaya 2,577]

~Moved from IR1/CR1 Process to What Visa Do I Need - Family Based Immigration Forum~

~Inquiry about parent visa options~

[christeen 966]

So you 67 year old mother is not wanting to move and in turn wants you to stay as well OR leave your 12 year old son behind. You 12 year old of course does not want to move (which I don't think it helps that grandma is supporting his disobedience)... This is your family and your happiness... You son is 12 years old, YOU make decisions... So if your fiancé is not willing to move there you either have to tell you son (and mother) too bad and you are going, leave your son behind or not marry the USC... But you have to take control of the situation and your life, not the 12 year old or the 67 year old...

[christeen 966]

So you 67 year old mother is not wanting to move and in turn wants you to stay as well OR leave your 12 year old son behind. You 12 year old of course does not want to move (which I don't think it helps that grandma is supporting his disobedience)... This is your family and your happiness... You son is 12 years old, YOU make decisions... So if your fiancé is not willing to move there you either have to tell you son (and mother) too bad and you are going, leave your son behind or not marry the USC... But you have to take control of the situation and your life, not the 12 year old or the 67 year old...

Sorry... Just realized you are married... Was this not discussed prior to getting married? You need to decide if you are going to join your husband with or without your son, or not join him at all... I believe your son will adapt... Your mother will have to adjust.. Just my 2 cents.

[mas85 0]

How long should i stay in the US before i go back to philippines for vacation?

[lost_at_sea 995]

How long should i stay in the US before i go back to philippines for vacation?

If you enter on an IR/CR-1, you can go back to the Philippines on vacation immediately (same day if you really wanted to). Your endorsed visa acts as a 1 year green card that'll allow you to both leave and enter the USA.

It must just be for vacation though - you're expected to maintain your US residence as a GC holder (or risk losing it).

[NikLR 13,227]

Honestly I think your 12 year old will have an easier time once he starts school and starts to make friends. Of course moving to a whole new country is scary. Your mother doesn't want either of you to go and figures you will just do what your son wants. Tail wagging the dog. He will figure it out and if she doesn't want to immigrate, well she's an adult and can make that decision.

I left my whole family, most of us do, but also my daughter back in Canada because she wanted to stay with her father and everything familiar. There are occasions I regret it to my soul but I also know she is happy and safe with a loving parent. I would never have left her with a grandparent or if I didn't feel her father was a good man. We don't always agree on parenting but as he has to do a lot on his own now, so he's realizing why I say and choose things that I do in regards for parenting (ie: things must be earned or else they're not valued.) Plus my daughter has the freedom to come live with me at any point in time with his full agreement.

[mas85 0]

Thanks for all your advice. I'm just concerned that my mom gets sick or depressed because she loves her grandson very much. How long does it take to get a tourist visa for a 67 year old senior citizen in the philippines

[Boiler 45,535]

The application process is usually a few weeks.

[biaobiao 40]

it will be hard. grandkids tend to be clsoe to grandparents. i would suggest having your mom obtain a tourist visa. just for proper transition. it will be hard for a 12yr old child to leave his grandmother.