African male culture...

[blah0323 0]

Okay what is meant by "snubbing" (sp?) I want to make sure that I'm doing it right whatever it is....lol Seriously what is meant by that??

[Destiny'sJourney 0]

As I mentioned before, my fiance is from Lagos, Nigeria. I remember talking to him about the different Nigerian tribes. There was a long explanation, but the short of it is he's from an "Edo state".

[Ta Ta 1]

I thought this old thread has some real good discussions on adjustment advice and is sprinkled with humor here and there.

Maybe someone can get something out of it even though it is ancient.

[Simply_Uno 1]

just because its old, doesn't mean it aint relevent.

[Ta Ta 1]

deja vu does that apply to age too ?

[Simply_Uno 1]

deja vu does that apply to age too ?

yes ma'am

[Zee Bee 61]

Good thread

[Ta Ta 1]

Good thread

One of my favorites, I remember laughing and learning at the same time in a positive way.

[LovinLiberia 0]

I remember this thread. Definately a cool one.

[JIM & A.D. 0]

I thought this old thread has some real good discussions on adjustment advice and is sprinkled with humor here and there.

Maybe someone can get something out of it even though it is ancient.

Good thread

Yes, awesome thread. I'm reading some of the posts and i can't stop cracking up. I can relate so much. Being a Sierra Leonean myself isn't much help either, my fiance and I still have those "communication differences".

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I thought this old thread has some real good discussions on adjustment advice and is sprinkled with humor here and there.

Maybe someone can get something out of it even though it is ancient.

Good thread

Yes, awesome thread. I'm reading some of the posts and i can't stop cracking up. I can relate so much. Being a Sierra Leonean myself isn't much help either, my fiance and I still have those "communication differences".

I agree, this is a great thread!

You know one of the things that drives me nuts about my SO's culture is that they are so laid back and take things as they come. Here's a perfect example... my SO lives with his family, well they are moving and he will be rooming with a friend of his. We know that the Embassy was/is planning on doing a home visit (feels like scan or something, lol) and it's stressing me out that he doesn't know the address to where his family will be moving to. I ask him about it a couple of times a day and he keeps saying his mom doesn't know yet. She's moving today and I want him to go to the Embassy in the morning to give them the new address info just in case they plan on visiting this week and he's determined to do it on Monday. GRRRRRRRRRRRR

We're actually a great contrast to each other because he can settle me down and I can try to inspire him to hurry the hell up, lol.

Maybe it's men in general and not a cultural thing. Time just doesn't really seem to be an issue over there from what I can tell

[Bassi and Zainab 1]

I thought this old thread has some real good discussions on adjustment advice and is sprinkled with humor here and there.

Maybe someone can get something out of it even though it is ancient.

Good thread

Yes, awesome thread. I'm reading some of the posts and i can't stop cracking up. I can relate so much. Being a Sierra Leonean myself isn't much help either, my fiance and I still have those "communication differences".

I agree, this is a great thread!

You know one of the things that drives me nuts about my SO's culture is that they are so laid back and take things as they come. Here's a perfect example... my SO lives with his family, well they are moving and he will be rooming with a friend of his. We know that the Embassy was/is planning on doing a home visit (feels like scan or something, lol) and it's stressing me out that he doesn't know the address to where his family will be moving to. I ask him about it a couple of times a day and he keeps saying his mom doesn't know yet. She's moving today and I want him to go to the Embassy in the morning to give them the new address info just in case they plan on visiting this week and he's determined to do it on Monday. GRRRRRRRRRRRR

We're actually a great contrast to each other because he can settle me down and I can try to inspire him to hurry the hell up, lol.

Maybe it's men in general and not a cultural thing. Time just doesn't really seem to be an issue over there from what I can tell

Bassi is the same way, but I HAVE to share this because it was a great moment for me. I've been nutty about some work Bassi has been doing on mom's house in Amasaman. (his mom) Well, I kept telling him to hurry up and get it done. Make a list of everything he'll need, get it all and then go and do it. I was basically the foreman from across the Atlantic. Needless to say he told me not to worry and it drove me crazy. Some of you will remember my torment as I did have a small venting moment here about how long it was taking him to get this work done. Well, last week, he was talking about something about this project that wasn't yet done and he was worried about finishing it and wanted it to be done already so he could concentrate on the interview. He actually said, quite casually, I should have listened to you and organized myself and gotten this finished earlier so I wouldn't be thinking about it now. I nearly choked on my own saliva. I MADE him repeat it and had a moment of nirvana. But I know it's not gonna change a thing.

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I thought this old thread has some real good discussions on adjustment advice and is sprinkled with humor here and there.

Maybe someone can get something out of it even though it is ancient.

Good thread

Yes, awesome thread. I'm reading some of the posts and i can't stop cracking up. I can relate so much. Being a Sierra Leonean myself isn't much help either, my fiance and I still have those "communication differences".

I agree, this is a great thread!

You know one of the things that drives me nuts about my SO's culture is that they are so laid back and take things as they come. Here's a perfect example... my SO lives with his family, well they are moving and he will be rooming with a friend of his. We know that the Embassy was/is planning on doing a home visit (feels like scan or something, lol) and it's stressing me out that he doesn't know the address to where his family will be moving to. I ask him about it a couple of times a day and he keeps saying his mom doesn't know yet. She's moving today and I want him to go to the Embassy in the morning to give them the new address info just in case they plan on visiting this week and he's determined to do it on Monday. GRRRRRRRRRRRR

We're actually a great contrast to each other because he can settle me down and I can try to inspire him to hurry the hell up, lol.

Maybe it's men in general and not a cultural thing. Time just doesn't really seem to be an issue over there from what I can tell

Bassi is the same way, but I HAVE to share this because it was a great moment for me. I've been nutty about some work Bassi has been doing on mom's house in Amasaman. (his mom) Well, I kept telling him to hurry up and get it done. Make a list of everything he'll need, get it all and then go and do it. I was basically the foreman from across the Atlantic. Needless to say he told me not to worry and it drove me crazy. Some of you will remember my torment as I did have a small venting moment here about how long it was taking him to get this work done. Well, last week, he was talking about something about this project that wasn't yet done and he was worried about finishing it and wanted it to be done already so he could concentrate on the interview. He actually said, quite casually, I should have listened to you and organized myself and gotten this finished earlier so I wouldn't be thinking about it now. I nearly choked on my own saliva. I MADE him repeat it and had a moment of nirvana. But I know it's not gonna change a thing.

I remember reading your vent about this and remember chuckling about it because it reminded me of Tony and I and foreman across the Atlantic is a good way to put it. He always gets things done and everything always ends up being just fine it just doesn't end up always going according to my perfectly layed out plan

You should have recorded him saying that girl.... may not hear it again for a while, lol.

[LovinLiberia 0]

I thought this old thread has some real good discussions on adjustment advice and is sprinkled with humor here and there.

Maybe someone can get something out of it even though it is ancient.

Good thread

Yes, awesome thread. I'm reading some of the posts and i can't stop cracking up. I can relate so much. Being a Sierra Leonean myself isn't much help either, my fiance and I still have those "communication differences".

I agree, this is a great thread!

You know one of the things that drives me nuts about my SO's culture is that they are so laid back and take things as they come. Here's a perfect example... my SO lives with his family, well they are moving and he will be rooming with a friend of his. We know that the Embassy was/is planning on doing a home visit (feels like scan or something, lol) and it's stressing me out that he doesn't know the address to where his family will be moving to. I ask him about it a couple of times a day and he keeps saying his mom doesn't know yet. She's moving today and I want him to go to the Embassy in the morning to give them the new address info just in case they plan on visiting this week and he's determined to do it on Monday. GRRRRRRRRRRRR

We're actually a great contrast to each other because he can settle me down and I can try to inspire him to hurry the hell up, lol.

Maybe it's men in general and not a cultural thing. Time just doesn't really seem to be an issue over there from what I can tell

Girl, that ain't nothing but African Time. Booker used to (and still does ) live on Liberian Time. It's really frustrating to an #######, time-based American person. His relaxed behavior makes me very nervous at times. His cousin in Liberia asked us to make her some invitiations for her son's b-day party. I bugged my SO about those forever. He finally decided to Fedex them a week before the party and now they arrived there FOUR days before the party. I was so mad that he cut it that close. We worked too hard on those invitations to have them show up a. too late or b. only FOUR days before the party.

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I thought this old thread has some real good discussions on adjustment advice and is sprinkled with humor here and there.

Maybe someone can get something out of it even though it is ancient.

Good thread

Yes, awesome thread. I'm reading some of the posts and i can't stop cracking up. I can relate so much. Being a Sierra Leonean myself isn't much help either, my fiance and I still have those "communication differences".

I agree, this is a great thread!

You know one of the things that drives me nuts about my SO's culture is that they are so laid back and take things as they come. Here's a perfect example... my SO lives with his family, well they are moving and he will be rooming with a friend of his. We know that the Embassy was/is planning on doing a home visit (feels like scan or something, lol) and it's stressing me out that he doesn't know the address to where his family will be moving to. I ask him about it a couple of times a day and he keeps saying his mom doesn't know yet. She's moving today and I want him to go to the Embassy in the morning to give them the new address info just in case they plan on visiting this week and he's determined to do it on Monday. GRRRRRRRRRRRR

We're actually a great contrast to each other because he can settle me down and I can try to inspire him to hurry the hell up, lol.

Maybe it's men in general and not a cultural thing. Time just doesn't really seem to be an issue over there from what I can tell

Girl, that ain't nothing but African Time. Booker used to (and still does ) live on Liberian Time. It's really frustrating to an #######, time-based American person. His relaxed behavior makes me very nervous at times. His cousin in Liberia asked us to make her some invitiations for her son's b-day party. I bugged my SO about those forever. He finally decided to Fedex them a week before the party and now they arrived there FOUR days before the party. I was so mad that he cut it that close. We worked too hard on those invitations to have them show up a. too late or b. only FOUR days before the party.

Oh I bet.... nervous is a good description. It doesn't make me angry, it just stresses me out!

And when they say they're on their way...... later that same day (like 3 hours later)! LOL