Emergency Situation

[Sharkano 13]

Kevin, thanks for your honesty and your story. Best to you two.

[ChicagoSarah 127]

Good afternoon all and thank you for all of the advice and positive responses. I'm sorry to keep everyone in suspense but I needed some quiet time after an emotional past couple of days. As I said the reason I delayed bringing Kelly to the United States was I lost my job during the visa process. I still haven't found work (I'm surviving on unemployment and savings) but I decided at the end of October to bring Kelly to the US so the visa wouldn't expire. Kelly has been very supportive throughout my ordeal (she has been out of work as well). When I arrived in Colombia and Kelly told me the visa expired earlier than I thought my first instinct was to get on VJ and ask you guys for help. As I was on the internet trying to change our flights I started thinking about the life in America I was bringing Kelly into and how my father told me a long time ago to get your financial situation straightened out before bringing a woman into your life. I'm not working and I'm living in my parents house until I find a job. My parents said it was alright for Kelly to stay there but it's not an ideal situation. After much thought I decided it would be best to not bring Kelly to America and figure out our best option to bring her when things get better in my life. I knew this decision would be risky because Kelly would have every right to break up with me after being so patient and supportive throughout this process we started in August, 2012. When Kelly arrived at the hotel I tearfully told her in my best Spanish my plans and expected her to be angry and end our relationship. To my surprise she said even though it's a last minute decision and she's disappointed, she understands my reasons and she said she wouldn't leave me and she'll wait again through another process. She knows how hard I've been trying to find a job and she is not the type of woman to walk away from a man she loves and treats her so well. We both cried and I thanked God for blessing me with such a special woman. I won't let her down again! This morning we discussed the benefits of the spousal visa and talked about me returning in a few months and getting married in Colombia. I have 2 job interviews this week so maybe we'll receive the blessing we've prayed for. Of course, I will keep VJ updated on our immigration journey.

Good luck with everything. You guys seem like a very sincere and strong couple, so I know the VJ community looks forward to hearing and helping with next steps! Although unfortunate the path things have taken, it's wonderful to see you guys being thoughtful about priorities through this difficult time.

Best wishes for everything in your future!

[firegirl1788 4]

i hope you get a job soon and you and your fiance can be together soon. best wishes.

[belinda63 3,038]

Myabe you can go to school to be a hair stylist?

Seriously, I am so glad you are a responsible man who wants the best for his wife and that she is so understanding of your responsibilities. This is a beautiful relationship and I am so happy both of you found the person of your dreams.

[SparklePony 238]

I was hoping you would be together in the US by now - was really crossing my fingers everything had turned out for the best. But I am glad to see that even though you decided to change your plans, it has only strengthened the bond between you two. Keep it up, and I hope you'll land that job soon so you can be together as it should be. The best of luck to you both.

[christeen 966]

Wow... A responsible couple that actually think about future and consequences and the reality of what it takes to start a familynon the right footing.... and put what is best in the long run (as opposed to immediate wants)... I congratulate you guys for the wisdom, strength and maturity such a decision like this takes. I hope this will give you the good karma for a good job! I wish you the best and this will make you both stronger and hopefully be a positive step for you both. Things happen for a reason...

[Ilovemyman 147]

God blees you, i hope you find a job soon.

Pray to God all the time he is powerfull he is going to help you

[ella7883 2]

Good afternoon all and thank you for all of the advice and positive responses. I'm sorry to keep everyone in suspense but I needed some quiet time after an emotional past couple of days. As I said the reason I delayed bringing Kelly to the United States was I lost my job during the visa process. I still haven't found work (I'm surviving on unemployment and savings) but I decided at the end of October to bring Kelly to the US so the visa wouldn't expire. Kelly has been very supportive throughout my ordeal (she has been out of work as well). When I arrived in Colombia and Kelly told me the visa expired earlier than I thought my first instinct was to get on VJ and ask you guys for help. As I was on the internet trying to change our flights I started thinking about the life in America I was bringing Kelly into and how my father told me a long time ago to get your financial situation straightened out before bringing a woman into your life. I'm not working and I'm living in my parents house until I find a job. My parents said it was alright for Kelly to stay there but it's not an ideal situation. After much thought I decided it would be best to not bring Kelly to America and figure out our best option to bring her when things get better in my life. I knew this decision would be risky because Kelly would have every right to break up with me after being so patient and supportive throughout this process we started in August, 2012. When Kelly arrived at the hotel I tearfully told her in my best Spanish my plans and expected her to be angry and end our relationship. To my surprise she said even though it's a last minute decision and she's disappointed, she understands my reasons and she said she wouldn't leave me and she'll wait again through another process. She knows how hard I've been trying to find a job and she is not the type of woman to walk away from a man she loves and treats her so well. We both cried and I thanked God for blessing me with such a special woman. I won't let her down again! This morning we discussed the benefits of the spousal visa and talked about me returning in a few months and getting married in Colombia. I have 2 job interviews this week so maybe we'll receive the blessing we've prayed for. Of course, I will keep VJ updated on our immigration journey.

Wow almost like my story. My bf visited me here back in 2008 but sadly, we had to postpone our plans because he wasn't making enough for two. let's just say reality kicked in. so, he went back to school to finish his degree, bought his own house, found a better job, straigthened out his life and almost 5 years later we saw each other again in Singapore and had the best time of our lives. now he has a great job and we couldn't be more ready to tie the knot. I'm so glad I waited for him. best decision i've ever made. I'll have my medical exam and interview next month then fly there in the US in April then get married in June (hopefully on our 6th year anniv.)

Good luck to you and your girl. Stay strong and remind her all the time that you love her and you're doing everything for you to be together. You'll make it as long as that's what you both wanted.

[clairegie 265]

You made the best decision. And the way your fiancee reacted? She's a gem.

Did she have her hair done anyway? She should. She deserves to be pampered for being a wonderful lady.

Edited November 25, 2013 by iammrsregi

[JayJayH 546]

Best of luck to you Kevin. This one's a keeper.