My fiancee does not want to marry me .My brother is US national . Can he apply for my adjustment

[Avery Cates 1,141]

Nothing can be done, you have to go back.

[Paris2012 1]

I am just curious. You came here in the U.S. through K-1 visa, right? Why, all of a sudden she or your fiancee changed her mind? Well, there is no way your brother can adjust your status or petition you. You have to go back to your country and don't overstay or put yourself in dilemma.

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[JoannaV 174]

Just to add to what others have said, even if you were to marry a different woman you would still not be able to adjust your status.

[raven52 233]

Leave well before your 90 days, and be sure to tell your petitioner, ,.. well speak your mind before you leave, you will feel better, but staying beyond the 90 days would deny you entry to this country maybe forever, be smart, cut your losses, and start over, is my thoughts.

[Jayzeee 4]

hi ,

I am in trouble . My fiancee does not want to marry me . She said she loves someone else now .My one month is gone . 2 Months left . My brother is US national , Can he apply for status adjustment ? so that i can stay here . please help ..

Hmm one thing that makes me wonder - i have seen posts like this before, when ppl dont want to get married any more and they are super sad. Your only concern is to stay, not the fact that your girl does not want you anymore? If this was me, i would be more about fixing it with the person, less about staying. Maybe that's what she feels and doesn't want to add more time to this. So start with trying it instead of looking for ways to stay.

And please don't overstay if you don't solve it. You'll only destroy if for everyone, including yourself, who tried to do this legal

[Misha'sgirl 44]

I second this, sounds like OP is only interested in living in the US no matter what it takes. That's not what the K-1 is meant to be for. It's to be with someone you love who happens to live in the US.

I agree. But I am not suprised. People are selfish. But I also have to feel somewhat sorry for this individual. Anyone who is driven THAT MUCH to stay inside the U.S. must have it really bad where they've come from. Or perhaps its just a case of someone tasting how it is to live in the U.S. (in normal conditions) and doesn't want to leave because its (usually) easier living in the U.S. than another Country. That's just my opinion though, after living in other Countries, but always feeling blessed and at home to live in the U.S. However, my feelings of empathy demolish whenever I think about those who are in the K1 process for all the right reasons, and yet, they still end up being separated.

[ZirZai 36]

Well I feel bad for the CO, he was stuck in AP for a whole year and in the meantime his fiance was busy falling in love somewhere else... She should have been honest and saved him the trouble of coming so far just to be sent back.

[shessa 1]

But that is wickedness of her, then let her go back to her country ask the man that she now love to file for her and start another journey

[bigdog 376]

I agree with the postings, but... If you got married? I am not a big fan of attorneys but Marc Ellis Immigration has a great reputation you might google him and make a contact.

[Cathi 5,744]

Well I feel bad for the CO, he was stuck in AP for a whole year and in the meantime his fiance was busy falling in love somewhere else... She should have been honest and saved him the trouble of coming so far just to be sent back.

Why do you feel bad for the consulate officer?

[Cathi 5,744]

You posted an earlier thread that said you were arriving in the US November 5, that means you have been here a week, not a month. Hmmm,m

[ZirZai 36]

haha yeah I meant the OP...

And in regards to the time frame i think he meant the time since his visa was issued, he came a month later and then within the week I suppose the 'lady' gave him the bad news regarding her change of heart.

Why do you feel bad for the consulate officer?

[christeen 966]

OP... Sorry but you will not be able to stay legally... But in some ways I understand and have sympathy for someone not wanting to go back right away... The immigrant spent all this time, money and energy mentally preparing themselves for a life in a new country. All your friends and family have wished you luck. You have said goodbyes and literally closed the door on your old life to start a new one... Suddenly WHAM... You have to give up this dream that you have sp mentally prepared yourself and your family for and are now expected to go home with your tail between your legs, having to hear many of the naysayers at home say "see... we told you so".. It can be pretty devastating and so difficult to do. Like giving up a dream before it even starts... like a failure. Mentally these immigrants are prepared to start their new lives and have so much faith in their significant others, just to have it not work out... I admire all the immigrants who give up their lives and country for a love one and I wish them all the best. Stay strong and reclaim your life back home.

[JayJayH 546]

Don't be so harsh on the OP as in "why don't you just go home?"

Legally, that's his only option. But I do feel bad for him, having been in AP for over a year waiting out an already grueling process, getting mentally prepared to relocate, saying his goodbyes to everyone back home, then for his fiancée to run off with some new guy right at the "finishing line." This is a sad story, and OP, if this relationship was genuine I truly feel bad for you.

Legally however, as stated, there is nothing you can do other than get married to the original petitioner or leave within 90 days. If you do not marry the petitioner, and you do stay beyond 90 days, you will have absolutely no means to remain in the US legally. Your only option at that point will be to leave, trigger a 10 year bar, and maybe return once that 10 year bar is up.

If you want a future in the US, either work things out with your fiancée, or go home, and wait while your brother files an I-130 for you. This will take roughly 12 years, but will be your only legal option.

Edited November 12, 2013 by yang-ja

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OP... Sorry but you will not be able to stay legally... But in some ways I understand and have sympathy for someone not wanting to go back right away... The immigrant spent all this time, money and energy mentally preparing themselves for a life in a new country. All your friends and family have wished you luck. You have said goodbyes and literally closed the door on your old life to start a new one... Suddenly WHAM... You have to give up this dream that you have sp mentally prepared yourself and your family for and are now expected to go home with your tail between your legs, having to hear many of the naysayers at home say "see... we told you so".. It can be pretty devastating and so difficult to do. Like giving up a dream before it even starts... like a failure. Mentally these immigrants are prepared to start their new lives and have so much faith in their significant others, just to have it not work out... I admire all the immigrants who give up their lives and country for a love one and I wish them all the best. Stay strong and reclaim your life back home.

An astute post.