need help !

[brenkim 0]

Hi everybody,

i have a question ! Hopefully i get some answers, my friend is the US petitioner who sponsored his wife who entered the US by CR1 visa last august,

here is the history : my friend and his wife had serious problems during the visa process witch it takes more than 1 year , the wife asked for a divorce a lot of times ,she asked to don’t move on USA while they works together to Save the marriage , she needed more time to stay to her country before she move on, my friend was much excited to bring her to live with him, so he insisted to don’t just lose time and to better continue what they wanted from the beginning to have a happy married life together he accepted to works on the relationship and the marriage while they are together, like she wanted Due to a variety of problems that occurred and broke her heart as my friend was saying, in the end they took one decision to save the marriage and find solutions to everything while they are together and not separated ,they had a small party at her home country before they moved to USA. my friend called me last week to tell me he may contact USCIS to let them know his wife don’t let him 'makes love with him' and she is still virgin, he surprised me , he was mad, she do what she needs to do at home; she is cool with his family with everybody she is quit ,nice more than ever , she wake up in the morning she prepare the breakfast for him, she clean the house she do everything except being cool in the bedroom she does not exceed certain limits in her relationship with him, this is exactly what my friend told me , he said he didn’t expect she will keep saying "we still need time " after 2 months living together , i feel what my friend feels ,i know he loves her and am not sure if this is exactly what he will do 'contact USCIS'

my question is : if my friend contact USCIS they may take off the 2 y green card from her ? What my friend can do in this situation to cause any 'immigration' problems to her? am curious to know what can the us spouse do in this situation at least to let his wife know the consequences of what he want to do , thanks

Calling would do no harm she has done no wrong but remember after two yrs he still must file for permanent if not she then would be considered illegal so maybe it would be best for both if she would just give in.

Edited November 5, 2013 by Ryan H

[sara82 4]

Did you guys even ask where was she from ? ...Well ..Since am Arabian am going to tell you this...Virginity for Arabian Muslim girls is something very very important and sensitive and it isn't that easy to just give it away..I know everyone is thinking but she is his wife...I understand and thats why i think there is more behind it...If she is Arabian..she prob told him that she wasn't going to do that unless she makes sure that he takes marriage seriously and he sees her as a wife....because if she get divorced, It would be so bad because of the virginity thing.

On the other hand...I need to be fair...I also need to ask the question..What if she is USING him and is going to marry someone else from her country and she doesn't want to lose her virginity because of that person and she is just waiting for her 10 years GC then she will get a divorce and she will marry the other guy and apply for him.

Am not going to judge any of them...But we would like to know more about whats going on.

hi, yes she is from arabic country, she is musulmane , i don't think she is looking for her 10 year green card, she is the wife of one of my best friends, from what my friend he was telling me years ago , i gurantie she is not bad woman, i just think she is mad , her heart is broken from some issue she had before she came here, my friend, is my friend, but i know he has a lack of communication with his wife, when he knows for ex she is mad, he dont try to makes her feel better, to communicate with her ,she was the one who try always to comunicate and discuss , i think this time she insisted to don't do anything

[Ryan H 3,812]

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[RightClicK 17]

hi, yes she is from arabic country, she is musulmane , i don't think she is looking for her 10 year green card, she is the wife of one of my best friends, from what my friend he was telling me years ago , i gurantie she is not bad woman, i just think she is mad , her heart is broken from some issue she had before she came here, my friend, is my friend, but i know he has a lack of communication with his wife, when he knows for ex she is mad, he dont try to makes her feel better, to communicate with her ,she was the one who try always to comunicate and discuss , i think this time she insisted to don't do anything

Aha..well...then you should tell him about the first part of my previous post....thats what usually happens and how they think...its a matter of time before they get a long and be a real husband and wife...tell him to be good to her and she will make his life a paradise since she is treating him that good according to your original post.

[Jon and Krissy 452]

This is crazy. And I have to stand on the woman's side. She did not do any fraud, she simply was not prepared to leave for the US, or did not feel prepared to have intimate relationship with her husband. If this husband really loves her he would be patient. Some people have an easy time, others have a hard time to leave their home, to get into an intimate relationship etc. I think this husband is very cruel, selfish and mean person. He does not deserve a sweet lady like his wife. Poor woman!

Well, it's nuts to not have sex with someone before you marry them. Sex is a huge part of marriage, and anyone who would marry without any idea of sexual compatability is a fool. On one hand, no one is entitled to sex with a person against their will, being married doesn't change that fact. On the other hand, no one is obligated to stay in a marriage where the other person refuses to be intimate with their supposed partner.

Time to either get counseling or get a divorce.

[AnotherLostSoul 167]

I agree with you...

Well, it's nuts to not have sex with someone before you marry them. Sex is a huge part of marriage, and anyone who would marry without any idea of sexual compatability is a fool. On one hand, no one is entitled to sex with a person against their will, being married doesn't change that fact. On the other hand, no one is obligated to stay in a marriage where the other person refuses to be intimate with their supposed partner.

Time to either get counseling or get a divorce.

[Ontarkie 14,227]

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