Need some advice and insight from those who have, or are, doing this..

[Ghoul 0]

I'm sorry if I am posting in the wrong section, I have been reading through VisaJourney for a long time, but only new to posting.
Initially, I did have a lot of hope and excitement at filing for the CR-1 visa, or marrying within the US and doing the AOS..
But looking at all of the fine print, there are so, so many delays, and so, so many reasons why you can be denied...
I'm starting to lose hope.. and I havent even started this..
We have a lot of things that can be used against us, such as our age difference, he is 19, I am 29.. I have been married and divorced once, and have young kids.. he doesnt work, nor has he, he is very close with his family and still lives at home.. I have been told their home is mine and I am always welcome, and I do have others who are close US friends of mine who would gladly sponsor me.. but I'm beginning to realize that all of this seems so negative and will be frowned upon.
If I'm living at his family home with him, and his parents are not going to be sponsoring me, are they still required to provide all of their income, earnings, mortgage, tax info? The reason I dont want them to sponsor me is because they are very private people and I wouldnt want them to feel violated.
Or would it be best to live with one of my friends who is going to sponsor me?
Sorry for all of the questions..
I feel so sick to my stomach with stress and worry thinking that this is all an impossible dream...

[saddlepatch 6]

According to what I read on here, they RARELY deny the petition....if you have good proof that your marriage is solid, you should have no need to worry. If they base on age, thats discrimination, you are also of legal age to decide who you date and who you're with. I wouldn't worry about the age difference.

Also further from what I read, having direct family members of your spouse are the best co-sponsors you can have. He still has to show his taxes from the last three years etc, but his parents can be the joint sponsors. You will need these since he is not employed. In the meantime, he should probably find a job while you are processing so once you go to the interview, you can tell them that he is in search of employment or is now employed.

My wife is unemployed and has been for a year due to burning herself out with a full time job and college. She stopped half way through to give herself a year to relax and de-stress. I don't see any negative outcomes on this site regarding the primary sponsor having no income. It seems as long as direct family is willing to sponsor/co-sponsor (keep in mind your husband still as to file the sponsorship form), it looks good to NVC. I mean why wouldn't it? It shows that your spouses family likes you and wants you close to them as well. I wouldn't think that would look odd at all or be used to call out fraud.


Another thing you should submit is letters from family and friends that know your relationship well and send that in with any other evidence you have of a bonafied marriage. The more you can send, the better it looks. Honesty is the best policy.

Im going through this too and its scary...I'm sending out the package this week....very nervous but excited at the same time!

[Ketsuban 1,034]

Australia isn't a high fraud country. You'll be fine

And as far as I'm aware, they won't have to sponsor you if they choose not to. Any US legal resident/citizen can sponsor you, as long as they make the 125% poverty rate for their current household size + you.

Edited November 3, 2013 by Ketsuban

[aleful 1,905]

hi,

that's not a big age difference so don't worry, the joint sponsor can be any LPR or USC, they don't have to live with you, they don't have to be family, they can even live in a different city or state.

[Ketsuban 1,034]

If they base on age, thats discrimination, you are also of legal age to decide who you date and who you're with. I wouldn't worry about the age difference.

Some consulates around the world have been known to deny based on age differences and even based on inter-racial relationships. Discrimination doesn't come into it, they can and will deny if they think it is contrary to the beneficiary's country's customs. However, Australia is a lot more accepting of older women dating younger men, so it doesn't matter in OP's case.