Problem with ex

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

If the mother has sole custody per local law then she should be able to get papers for that easily,. Otherwise she needs these because it is a very serious offense in the eyes of the US where she is now residing to deny the other biological parent access to their children ( immigrate with them ) without that parents consent. As soon as the children step foot in the US the other parent can file in US courts that the children have been stolen. What is her defense ?

[Ryan H 3,812]

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[Ryan H 3,812]

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[SoCalMark 49]

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[Ryan H 3,812]

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[Hank_ 9,174]

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"sitting to close to me could get your posts closely watched"

I feel like I need to sing the song "Me and my shadow" ever since I made issue with a topic being moved.

You know that saying - It's hard to soar like an eagle when you're surrounded by turkeys?

Many times before when a person makes comments in a topic that are out in left field and gets called on it the posts don't get removed... but like said... me and my shadow.

[Hank_ 9,174]

If the mother has sole custody per local law then she should be able to get papers for that easily,. Otherwise she needs these because it is a very serious offense in the eyes of the US where she is now residing to deny the other biological parent access to their children ( immigrate with them ) without that parents consent. As soon as the children step foot in the US the other parent can file in US courts that the children have been stolen. What is her defense ?

You comment is totally without merit or fact regarding the OP...

[Kathryn41 3,205]

To elucidate further on what Ryan posted: while Moderators are report driven, that doesn't mean we are ONLY allowed to respond to reports - it means that we don't go around and police the site by reading each and every post, We are also members, however, and as we visit the site for our own use, we may encounter TOS violations or problems. We are encouraged to address those problems if we encounter them in this way as well as by responding to reported problems by other members. Consider it a type of report from 'self' as member to 'self' as moderator. The 'paper trail' is left within the thread and the moderator reports the action to the Moderator team in the Moderators' forum.

All that being said, as Ryan noted, the posts were, in fact, reported.

Edited December 1, 2013 by Kathryn41

[SoCalMark 49]

I guess it's why everyone is supposed to be annonymous in here ...

[Caryh 5,206]

What about the fathers rights??? I don't know the whole story. Was he a good father??? The us has laws that prevent one parent from moving kids out if the country. for very good reasons. just saying.

The father in this case has pretty much all the rights, as in the Philippines, they're still legally married. Under Philippine law, the father's decisions trumps the mother's if they fail to agree. That is her major issue, she can't remove the children from him and move them to the USA. The father is also threatening some things about her green card status to, unless she lied to get to the USA, those threats are baseless. An example of such a lie is using a doctored CENOMAR to come on a K-1, get married, and later divorcing the Filipino husband in the USA. Don't laugh stranger things have happened.

Taking the children from the father without the proper court papers is considered international kidnapping and could affect your green card. ( you would be deported for life no possibility of a waiver) The US takes this very seriously as good number of foreign spouses do the opposite ( take a shred child out of the US and refuse to share access ) Do NOT bring the children over until you straighten this out.

The Philippines does not have reciprocity agreements on child custody with the USA and/or other countries, as they have some rather different laws that are not compatible with the rest of the world when it comes to family matters.

[Hank_ 9,174]

The father in this case has pretty much all the rights, as in the Philippines, they're still legally married. Under Philippine law, the father's decisions trumps the mother's if they fail to agree. That is her major issue, she can't remove the children from him and move them to the USA. The father is also threatening some things about her green card status to, unless she lied to get to the USA, those threats are baseless. An example of such a lie is using a doctored CENOMAR to come on a K-1, get married, and later divorcing the Filipino husband in the USA. Don't laugh stranger things have happened.

The Philippines does not have reciprocity agreements on child custody with the USA and/or other countries, as they have some rather different laws that are not compatible with the rest of the world when it comes to family matters.

Did I miss something? The OP is IR/CR-1 (DCF), she is not still married in the Philippines, she married her USC husband in the Philippines.

The mother has custody of her children, unless a specific document exists stating otherwise.

[Caryh 5,206]

Did I miss something? The OP is IR/CR-1 (DCF), she is not still married in the Philippines, she married her USC husband in the Philippines.

The mother has custody of her children, unless a specific document exists stating otherwise.

I think you missed where she said she divorced her ex here under another user name.

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Octagon

"Hi guys, thanks for the answers. I was married to him and filed divorce here. He can't move on and he keeps giving me hard time with the kids. He was even trying to extort money from me. He really though that people in the US are just picking money everywhere. "

If she's a DCF IR/CR-1, it would have needed to have happened in a third country, not the USA, to be legal. If it was done with funny paperwork in the Philippines, then he ex could create some trouble with her green card. As we both know, a Filipino citizen cannot have a divorce from another person recognized in the Philippines if they are the filer.

Which brings us back to the situation where under Philippine law, the married father overrules the wife in matters with the children, if they disagree.

Edited December 2, 2013 by Caryh

[Hank_ 9,174]

I think you missed where she said she divorced her ex here under another user name.

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Octagon

"Hi guys, thanks for the answers. I was married to him and filed divorce here. He can't move on and he keeps giving me hard time with the kids. He was even trying to extort money from me. He really though that people in the US are just picking money everywhere. "

If she's a DCF IR/CR-1, it would have needed to have happened in a third country, not the USA, to be legal. If it was done with funny paperwork in the Philippines, then he ex could create some trouble with her green card. As we both know, a Filipino citizen cannot have a divorce from another person recognized in the Philippines if they are the filer.

Which brings us back to the situation where under Philippine law, the married father overrules the wife in matters with the children, if they disagree.

Sorry - don't see that.

I don't find anything other than this post listed with Octagon, and I find nothing mentioned about her divorcing him while in the states (or any other country). If that were true how did she complete the DCF which means she was living in the Philippines at the time.

I will leave this one as something "fishy" ...

[Caryh 5,206]

Sorry - don't see that.

I don't find anything other than this post listed with Octagon, and I find nothing mentioned about her divorcing him while in the states (or any other country). If that were true how did she complete the DCF which means she was living in the Philippines at the time.

I will leave this one as something "fishy" ...

Post #9 by Octagon, posting as the OP, although through a second account? Neither account has posted anything else besides this topic.

Can't agree more with the fishy statement Possible troll accounts? Last login by either of them was Nov 14th within 10 minutes of each other, so it probably doesn't matter much.

[Hank_ 9,174]

Post #9 by Octagon, posting as the OP, although through a second account? Neither account has posted anything else besides this topic.

Can't agree more with the fishy statement Possible troll accounts? Last login by either of them was Nov 14th within 10 minutes of each other, so it probably doesn't matter much.

Ahhhh..... two accounts....

(Maybe I should do that.... try and ditch my shadow. )