What would you do

[Ban Hammer 13,342]

be nice santa is watching you to!!!

and i've filed a restraining order against santa for stalking me

[brnidokiegurl 0]

lump of coal for u then

[Ban Hammer 13,342]

lump of coal for u then

lol i have so much coal i can heat the house for the next 10 years

i see you down there alex

Edited December 19, 2006 by charlesandnessa

[Alex+R 0]

Juuuuuust checking out the thread

[peezey 0]

i think anyone would have the right to post what they think of any topic. that being said, my initial reaction was similar - there are people who have experienced this and throwing adjectitives such as lazy and loser when referring to people in this situation isn't exactly "helping" if thats what this thread is for.

i hardly think rebecca is "patrolling" the freaking MENA forum

No one threw these words around. They were used to describe one kind of person amongst many. There are losers, there are lazy people. There was never a blanket statement made that all men who come here and don't find work immediately are losers and/or lazy.

[noura 0]

i think anyone would have the right to post what they think of any topic. that being said, my initial reaction was similar - there are people who have experienced this and throwing adjectitives such as lazy and loser when referring to people in this situation isn't exactly "helping" if thats what this thread is for.

i hardly think rebecca is "patrolling" the freaking MENA forum

No one threw these words around. They were used to describe one kind of person amongst many. There are losers, there are lazy people. There was never a blanket statement made that all men who come here and don't find work immediately are losers and/or lazy.

I *did* use those words and was *not* throwing them around.... they thoroughly describe my exhusband (American, not foreign). This is by no means descriptive of my soon-to-be husband. His morals and values are far higher than that. Just putting my 2cents in b/c I'm the one who did indeed use those words.

[sarah and hicham 3]

Look, people don't usually ask such a question for no reason. It's a sensitive subject you have to admit. So my mistake if I don't get why the question is here.

Do you think I am upset because my husband won't work? He legally cannot work right now but once he gets his EAD he'll be back at it. Thank you for your concern.

My question is asking those who have their fiances/husbands coming what they would do if their husband wouldn't work. I know it has happened to some so I think my question is a legitimate one.

Sara, I didn't know if you were upset or not. I thought your question had to be out there for a reason though. Either you are upset or you know it has happened to others.

Since you say you're not upset, then it has to be that it's happened to others. In which case I think it's up to them to post the question IF they want to know what other people would do.

Soooooo....that being said.....my only 'issue' would be the 'legitimacy' (as you put it) of your question.

I don't really understand why out of all the threads on this forum you came after me about legitimacy issues with the topic I started. I didn't realize that I wasn't allowed to ask a hypothetical question to the members in thie forum. I am truly sorry to everyone for asking something that doesn't pertain to myself or my husband.

[peezey 0]

Look, people don't usually ask such a question for no reason. It's a sensitive subject you have to admit. So my mistake if I don't get why the question is here.

Do you think I am upset because my husband won't work? He legally cannot work right now but once he gets his EAD he'll be back at it. Thank you for your concern.

My question is asking those who have their fiances/husbands coming what they would do if their husband wouldn't work. I know it has happened to some so I think my question is a legitimate one.

Sara, I didn't know if you were upset or not. I thought your question had to be out there for a reason though. Either you are upset or you know it has happened to others.

Since you say you're not upset, then it has to be that it's happened to others. In which case I think it's up to them to post the question IF they want to know what other people would do.

Soooooo....that being said.....my only 'issue' would be the 'legitimacy' (as you put it) of your question.

I don't really understand why out of all the threads on this forum you came after me about legitimacy issues with the topic I started. I didn't realize that I wasn't allowed to ask a hypothetical question to the members in thie forum. I am truly sorry to everyone for asking something that doesn't pertain to myself or my husband.

I dont' think you have anything to apologize for. If all of us stuck to posting to topics that only had a personal impact on us, this site wouldnt' be as robust as it is.

[Killer_Clown_2009 0]

It would depend on our financial situation.

If we needed money (not wanted, but needed), I would expect him to take a less than desirable job (at least part time), while looking for something that he would really like to do. Otherwise, I would not have a problem with him not working (as long as he was looking), until he found a job he wanted.

[Killer_Clown_2009 0]

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Edited December 21, 2006 by jane2005

[Killer_Clown_2009 0]

If I determined that my husband was a lazy slacker, I would nag him to death and make his life so miserable that he would be happy to get a job just to get away from me.

[mybackpages 0]

It would depend on our financial situation.

If we needed money (not wanted, but needed), I would expect him to take a less than desirable job (at least part time), while looking for something that he would really like to do. Otherwise, I would not have a problem with him not working (as long as he was looking), until he found a job he wanted.

I think you have found the right balance. The needs of the family are priority. He is actively looking. and both are working in a aprtnership for the future. makes sense to me

If I determined that my husband was a lazy slacker, I would nag him to death and make his life so miserable that he would be happy to get a job just to get away from me.

[rebeccajo 14]

Look, people don't usually ask such a question for no reason. It's a sensitive subject you have to admit. So my mistake if I don't get why the question is here.

Do you think I am upset because my husband won't work? He legally cannot work right now but once he gets his EAD he'll be back at it. Thank you for your concern.

My question is asking those who have their fiances/husbands coming what they would do if their husband wouldn't work. I know it has happened to some so I think my question is a legitimate one.

Sara, I didn't know if you were upset or not. I thought your question had to be out there for a reason though. Either you are upset or you know it has happened to others.

Since you say you're not upset, then it has to be that it's happened to others. In which case I think it's up to them to post the question IF they want to know what other people would do.

Soooooo....that being said.....my only 'issue' would be the 'legitimacy' (as you put it) of your question.

I don't really understand why out of all the threads on this forum you came after me about legitimacy issues with the topic I started. I didn't realize that I wasn't allowed to ask a hypothetical question to the members in thie forum. I am truly sorry to everyone for asking something that doesn't pertain to myself or my husband.

I dont' think you have anything to apologize for. If all of us stuck to posting to topics that only had a personal impact on us, this site wouldnt' be as robust as it is.

No you don't have to apologize Sara. You just need to ask yourself why you are posing the question.

[brnidokiegurl 0]

Has anyone ever ask the male side of this question about work? I gave Ahmed the question what do you think of a man (i think i did apply Moroccan man) comes to his woman in the U.S. and wont work. He ask why, and i say for example he doesnt want to start in lower job. His reply i think then there must be something wrong with him that he would not want to take care of his family at whatever job it takes, if it takes to clean toiletts then thats what you do. You take small steps and one day will be to the place of security. He said two things most important to him to take care of me and help his family. He knows U.S. streets not paved with gold, so i think he is online with his expectations.

[Caladan 19]

Look, people don't usually ask such a question for no reason. It's a sensitive subject you have to admit. So my mistake if I don't get why the question is here.

Do you think I am upset because my husband won't work? He legally cannot work right now but once he gets his EAD he'll be back at it. Thank you for your concern.

My question is asking those who have their fiances/husbands coming what they would do if their husband wouldn't work. I know it has happened to some so I think my question is a legitimate one.

Sara, I didn't know if you were upset or not. I thought your question had to be out there for a reason though. Either you are upset or you know it has happened to others.

Since you say you're not upset, then it has to be that it's happened to others. In which case I think it's up to them to post the question IF they want to know what other people would do.

Soooooo....that being said.....my only 'issue' would be the 'legitimacy' (as you put it) of your question.

I don't really understand why out of all the threads on this forum you came after me about legitimacy issues with the topic I started. I didn't realize that I wasn't allowed to ask a hypothetical question to the members in thie forum. I am truly sorry to everyone for asking something that doesn't pertain to myself or my husband.

I dont' think you have anything to apologize for. If all of us stuck to posting to topics that only had a personal impact on us, this site wouldnt' be as robust as it is.

No you don't have to apologize Sara. You just need to ask yourself why you are posing the question.

Maybe 'cause she's interested in the answer? It hardly implies she's worried about it personally, unless all the posts in off-topic about news items in Iraq mean the people posting it are s3kritly Iraqi.