What would you do

[peezey 0]

No you don't have to apologize Sara. You just need to ask yourself why you are posing the question.

What is your problem? Now you are Sarah's moral compass, instructing her on what she needs to do? It's a question. It's not the first time this has been discussed in this forum, and based on the number of replies, obviously is a topic people care to discuss.

[rebeccajo 14]

No you don't have to apologize Sara. You just need to ask yourself why you are posing the question.

What is your problem? Now you are Sarah's moral compass, instructing her on what she needs to do? It's a question. It's not the first time this has been discussed in this forum, and based on the number of replies, obviously is a topic people care to discuss.

I'm hardly anyone's moral compass. But my point certainly seems to be annoying you.

[rebeccajo 14]

Maybe 'cause she's interested in the answer? It hardly implies she's worried about it personally, unless all the posts in off-topic about news items in Iraq mean the people posting it are s3kritly Iraqi.

Caladan, my experience is that people don't usually ask questions for no reason. They may participate in a discussion because they have opinions, but they usually don't start a discussion unless they have some reason. Especially when it comes to sensitive questions, which I believe this one was. The example you give of a political discussion doesn't compare apples to apples.

I was raised in a conservative, polite somewhat southern community. Asking this type of question in public, where I come from, would be considered somewhat catty. A question designed to 'round up the troops' so to speak against the person who has the embarrassing social problem.

Edited December 21, 2006 by rebeccajo

[Ban Hammer 13,133]

No you don't have to apologize Sara. You just need to ask yourself why you are posing the question.

What is your problem? Now you are Sarah's moral compass, instructing her on what she needs to do? It's a question. It's not the first time this has been discussed in this forum, and based on the number of replies, obviously is a topic people care to discuss.

I'm hardly anyone's moral compass. But my point certainly seems to be annoying you.

queen becca, i respectfully submit that it seems some here are annoyed by someone posting in mena when they don't have a mena SO...........

your humble servant

charles.

[sarah and hicham 3]

Look, people don't usually ask such a question for no reason. It's a sensitive subject you have to admit. So my mistake if I don't get why the question is here.

Do you think I am upset because my husband won't work? He legally cannot work right now but once he gets his EAD he'll be back at it. Thank you for your concern.

My question is asking those who have their fiances/husbands coming what they would do if their husband wouldn't work. I know it has happened to some so I think my question is a legitimate one.

Sara, I didn't know if you were upset or not. I thought your question had to be out there for a reason though. Either you are upset or you know it has happened to others.

Since you say you're not upset, then it has to be that it's happened to others. In which case I think it's up to them to post the question IF they want to know what other people would do.

Soooooo....that being said.....my only 'issue' would be the 'legitimacy' (as you put it) of your question.

I don't really understand why out of all the threads on this forum you came after me about legitimacy issues with the topic I started. I didn't realize that I wasn't allowed to ask a hypothetical question to the members in thie forum. I am truly sorry to everyone for asking something that doesn't pertain to myself or my husband.

I dont' think you have anything to apologize for. If all of us stuck to posting to topics that only had a personal impact on us, this site wouldnt' be as robust as it is.

No you don't have to apologize Sara. You just need to ask yourself why you are posing the question.

first of all, my name is Sarah, with an H as it is spelled in my ID.

Secondly, the question I asked has a lot to do with men from ME/NA. This is the ME/NA forum. I asked this question because I am interested in knowing the answers, but not because I am in that position. I have heard from some people that this can be an issue for some who come to the US thinking everything is easy as pie. I wanted to know what people's reactions would be if their husband decided he didn't want to work. Once again, my husband has worked since the day he legally could and is waiting for his EAD now to continue. He never complains about working and I know he enjoys it.

I just don't get why I need to ask myself why I posted this question Rebecca. I think my explanations should suffice. I am asking a question that effects a lot of the people in this forum in order to start a discussion.

Once again, I apologize for asking a question that has nothing to do with my husband or myself.

[peezey 0]

No you don't have to apologize Sara. You just need to ask yourself why you are posing the question.

What is your problem? Now you are Sarah's moral compass, instructing her on what she needs to do? It's a question. It's not the first time this has been discussed in this forum, and based on the number of replies, obviously is a topic people care to discuss.

I'm hardly anyone's moral compass. But my point certainly seems to be annoying you.

No, you're just annoying me, I don't see your point. I have no idea what the motives were for this post, but I participated quite a bit and I didn't see Sarah post much at all.

[rebeccajo 14]

No you don't have to apologize Sara. You just need to ask yourself why you are posing the question.

What is your problem? Now you are Sarah's moral compass, instructing her on what she needs to do? It's a question. It's not the first time this has been discussed in this forum, and based on the number of replies, obviously is a topic people care to discuss.

I'm hardly anyone's moral compass. But my point certainly seems to be annoying you.

queen becca, i respectfully submit that it seems some here are annoyed by someone posting in mena when they don't have a mena SO...........

your humble servant

charles.

That could be it Charles. As my husband is not from the Middle East, I couldn't possibly have any clue about marriage, real life, or common courtesy as it relates to message boards.

No you don't have to apologize Sara. You just need to ask yourself why you are posing the question.

What is your problem? Now you are Sarah's moral compass, instructing her on what she needs to do? It's a question. It's not the first time this has been discussed in this forum, and based on the number of replies, obviously is a topic people care to discuss.

I'm hardly anyone's moral compass. But my point certainly seems to be annoying you.

No, you're just annoying me, I don't see your point. I have no idea what the motives were for this post, but I participated quite a bit and I didn't see Sarah post much at all.

Pardon me.

.... I wanted to know what people's reactions would be if their husband decided he didn't want to work.

Why?

Edited December 21, 2006 by rebeccajo

[sarah and hicham 3]

No you don't have to apologize Sara. You just need to ask yourself why you are posing the question.

What is your problem? Now you are Sarah's moral compass, instructing her on what she needs to do? It's a question. It's not the first time this has been discussed in this forum, and based on the number of replies, obviously is a topic people care to discuss.

I'm hardly anyone's moral compass. But my point certainly seems to be annoying you.

queen becca, i respectfully submit that it seems some here are annoyed by someone posting in mena when they don't have a mena SO...........

your humble servant

charles.

That could be it Charles. As my husband is not from the Middle East, I couldn't possibly have any clue about marriage, real life, or common courtesy as it relates to message boards.

No you don't have to apologize Sara. You just need to ask yourself why you are posing the question.

What is your problem? Now you are Sarah's moral compass, instructing her on what she needs to do? It's a question. It's not the first time this has been discussed in this forum, and based on the number of replies, obviously is a topic people care to discuss.

I'm hardly anyone's moral compass. But my point certainly seems to be annoying you.

No, you're just annoying me, I don't see your point. I have no idea what the motives were for this post, but I participated quite a bit and I didn't see Sarah post much at all.

Pardon me.

.... I wanted to know what people's reactions would be if their husband decided he didn't want to work.

Why?

Why not?

[rebeccajo 14]

Well Sara, as your friend peezey said today....just because you can do something doesn't mean you have to.

Oh...answering a question with a question is just...well...pathetic.

[sarah and hicham 3]

Well Sara, as your friend peezey said today....just because you can do something doesn't mean you have to.

Oh...answering a question with a question is just...well...pathetic.

Once again, my name is SARAH with an H. Sad how you are replying to a person however you can't quite seem to get the name right still.

I am asking you why not because your question "why" is pathetic enough to start with and doesn't deserve a reply at this point. I have already explained myself several times even though I shouldn't have because you can't quite seem to understand.

You are right, you can post wherever you want whenever you want as can I. I still don't understand though why you are so adament on making my question into some kind of problem.

[sarachid 0]

Well Sara, as your friend peezey said today....just because you can do something doesn't mean you have to.

Oh...answering a question with a question is just...well...pathetic.

Once again, my name is SARAH with an H. Sad how you are replying to a person however you can't quite seem to get the name right still.

I am asking you why not because your question "why" is pathetic enough to start with and doesn't deserve a reply at this point. I have already explained myself several times even though I shouldn't have because you can't quite seem to understand.

You are right, you can post wherever you want whenever you want as can I. I still don't understand though why you are so adament on making my question into some kind of problem.

I think he is trying to get you to admit something.....

[sarah and hicham 3]

Well Sara, as your friend peezey said today....just because you can do something doesn't mean you have to.

Oh...answering a question with a question is just...well...pathetic.

Once again, my name is SARAH with an H. Sad how you are replying to a person however you can't quite seem to get the name right still.

I am asking you why not because your question "why" is pathetic enough to start with and doesn't deserve a reply at this point. I have already explained myself several times even though I shouldn't have because you can't quite seem to understand.

You are right, you can post wherever you want whenever you want as can I. I still don't understand though why you are so adament on making my question into some kind of problem.

I think he is trying to get you to admit something.....

This is what I don't understand. What is she trying to get me to admit? I think I have said several times that THIS IS NOT THE CASE FOR MYSELF OR MY HUSBAND and also Hicham started working the first day that he could here.......

so what should I admit to?

[rebeccajo 14]

Sarah I apologize for continually getting the spelling of your name wrong. I've known more Saras spelled the other way.

Now, since you seem to think I don't understand your explanation, I'll break things down for you....

I clearly understand that the scenario you presented doesn't pertain to your marriage. I've got that.

I clearly understand that your question is posed because you have seen other women in the scenario you describe. You stated that.

I clearly understand that you are not involved in an occupation for which you might be doing statistical research. I clearly understand that you aren't writing some sort of thesis for your doctorate in Human Behavior.

Given these understandings, tell me why your question has any value beyond being able to peer down from sort of self-perceived notch on a societal rung while you watch the peasants scurrying about?

[~Jackie~ 30]

Still some life in this thread? I had to go back to the beginning to refresh my old, abnormal freaky mind how this discussion started. It was post #5 that called out Walmart workers. Sooooooooooo glad my husband is KFC.

Jackie

[Killer_Clown_2009 0]

My God,

I don't want to get involved in arguing with anyone, but someone needs a reality check and it isn't Sarah.