I need opinions for my case.. .

[jm25 0]

Been together for 6 years, closeted, long-distance same-sex relationship. Got married when California Prop 8 was struck down. USC Partner lives in NY, I live in CA.

We currently don't live together, so no shared bills, accounts, etc. What we have for proofs are our airline tickets to see each other and trips we went together - we see each other at least every 3 months (so in over 6 years we have about 40-50 cross-country flights and I have every single airline ticket) and the last 18 months of phone records showing we talk almost everyday an average of 30 minutes. (18 months is the farthest I can retrieve online) and pictures through out our relationship. We keep our relationship hidden from our families and friends for fear of coming out - so no pictures with families and friends.

We are not ready to move in together just yet because we both want to be able to equally contribute for bills and expenses and I, having no sustainable job, it's something I don't want to impose on my partner. We will live together as soon as I find a job.

Any opinion on our case? Is this kind of relationship common enough in the eyes of USCIS?

[Pitaya 2,577]

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What type of visa do you have?

Edited October 25, 2013 by A&B

[jm25 0]

Expired H4.

[kzielu 1,149]

Expired H4.

So how do you want to find job being unable to legally work ?

[aaron2020 11,651]

Been together for 6 years, closeted, long-distance same-sex relationship. Got married when California Prop 8 was struck down. USC Partner lives in NY, I live in CA.

We currently don't live together, so no shared bills, accounts, etc. What we have for proofs are our airline tickets to see each other and trips we went together - we see each other at least every 3 months (so in over 6 years we have about 40-50 cross-country flights and I have every single airline ticket) and the last 18 months of phone records showing we talk almost everyday an average of 30 minutes. (18 months is the farthest I can retrieve online) and pictures through out our relationship. We keep our relationship hidden from our families and friends for fear of coming out - so no pictures with families and friends.

We are not ready to move in together just yet because we both want to be able to equally contribute for bills and expenses and I, having no sustainable job, it's something I don't want to impose on my partner. We will live together as soon as I find a job.

Any opinion on our case? Is this kind of relationship common enough in the eyes of USCIS?

Two potential problems with your plan.

First, you are not authorize to legally work in the US. Until your spouse files to adjust your status and you get a EAD card, you can not legally work.

Second, keeping your relationship hidden may be a problem. How can USCIS or anyone determine if the relationship is real if no one except the two of you know about it? Not a single friend knows about your relationship?

Gay relationships are normal. Hidden relationships are not. Especially when USCIS is looking at you to provide proof that you have a bona fide relationship.

[jm25 0]

I couldn't find a job. That's why I said I'm not ready for us to live together just yet --- thus the reason we don't have shared bills and accounts.

[aaron2020 11,651]

You stated, "we will live together as soon as I find a job."

You can't legally work, so what are you going to do? Never live together since you cannot legally work?

The only way you can legally work is to get an EAD or a green card. To get one of those, your spouse has to file to adjust you.

So how are you going to adjust based on a bona fide relationship when you don't live together, share no expenses, and others don't even know you are in a relationship?

What are you going to do to help yourself? What are you plan on filing for that would allow you to legally work?

Edited October 28, 2013 by aaron2020

[kzielu 1,149]

I couldn't find a job. That's why I said I'm not ready for us to live together just yet --- thus the reason we don't have shared bills and accounts.

Your statements make little sense. Also, if you are here on expired H4, it means you either are or were married (unless you are a child of H-1B holder) - which - in addition to your posts making very little sense, will be another problem.

[jm25 0]

Your statements make little sense. Also, if you are here on expired H4, it means you either are or were married (unless you are a child of H-1B holder) - which - in addition to your posts making very little sense, will be another problem.

I think you are misunderstanding me somewhere. What does not make any sense to you?

I came in as a child of H1B. My h4 expired 7 years ago.