Not sure what to do

[FaithfulandTrue 6]

I was divorced last year. I am trying to give him the things he left back to him, but I don't know where he is. One looks to be very important. Any suggestions?

[SingleDad2usc 71]

Seems simple: lawyers were involved.

I'll piggyback your topic: I've had no divorce, and spouse is hiding from Child Support. How do you trace such spouse: I suspect not only full name change, but also SSN change (which might have been accomplished by using DV evidence). Never dealt with DMV, because of inability to drive. I suspect only USCIS might have that parent-in-hiding updated information

Edited October 19, 2013 by SingleDad2usc

[VanessaTony 3,567]

I was divorced last year. I am trying to give him the things he left back to him, but I don't know where he is. One looks to be very important. Any suggestions?

Aside from his divorce lawyer, you could trying contacting his parents? His friends? Maybe his previous employer?

Another idea is if you have his passport info you might be able (though I really have no idea) to return it to his countries embassy... I wouldn't think this was possible but just throwing it out there.

[Harpa Timsah 13,258]

Didn't this guy abuse and scam you? I wouldn't try to return his things at all. If it makes you feel better, put them in a box and keep them: if he ever wants them they are there. Have the police do the exchange if he ever shows up (they escort him to get the box while you are away). But I wouldn't put any effort into finding him to give him his stuff back. He can try to get it from you if it is important to him. It's not your problem. Good luck.

[Brian1967## 119]

Put the stuff in boxes and store it for six months after that give to goodwill.

[SingleDad2usc 71]

It is clear OP is asking HOW TO TRACE the spouse, and so do I.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

It is clear OP is asking HOW TO TRACE the spouse, and so do I.

You could try hiring a PI (or process server) to do a skip-trace but honestly, I doubt it's easy for a regular person to do that given the risk of abusers stalking their victims.

If it was required for legal reasons your attorney would have methods such as the PI, but most likely you wouldn't be advised of her location for reasons previously mentioned.

[belinda63 3,038]

T conduct a skip-trace, which is finding a person, there are a variety of methods. If you google skip trace it will give you some links to sites that you can use in an attempt to find the person. For example searching US white pages for the name, searching court records for the area you believe they live in, etc. As a person and not an agency you don't have access to certain databases such as credit bureaus which could help in the search.

Without a name or social security number there is no way to find the person. What could you search for?

[Hollyday 122]

I was divorced last year. I am trying to give him the things he left back to him, but I don't know where he is. One looks to be very important. Any suggestions?

If it is as important to him as it appears to you, i think he'll find you himself when (if) he needs it. I wouldn't put effort into actively searching till then. As some other posters suggested - store it somewhere, so you know where it is, if needed.

[Harpa Timsah 13,258]

It is clear OP is asking HOW TO TRACE the spouse, and so do I.

No, it appears to me the OP feels bad that the guy doesn't have his stuff, and so is trying to find him to give him back his "important" things so she feels like a good person. Trying to find a lost abuser is not a good plan. I don't think the OP should trace her spouse. That was not her question, per se. That was your question.

[SingleDad2usc 71]

Again, suggestions about storing a box will not help OP or anyone...

Of course there is nothing to search if new name is unknown, SSN possibly changed and spouse never dealt with DMV. USCIS does possess more current information; after all, they approved my self-petition and EAD even though the only info I had was spouse's A-number on a letter of over a decade ago. Can OCSE search same databases as USCIS? Last time (about 5 years ago) OCSE just used LexisNexis, got nothing and closed their support case

Edited October 20, 2013 by SingleDad2usc

[Hollyday 122]

Again, suggestions about storing a box will not help OP or anyone...

That's your personal opinion. Why should she invest resources and time if this thing only matters to him (so if he needs it he should find it himself)?

[SingleDad2usc 71]

My opinion was not about telling OP "what to do or not to do", about risks of tracing, etc. My opinion was that any advanced tips on "safe legal tracing of spouse" is what will be of benefit to many a reader, including OP

[Darnell 8,478]

I was divorced last year. I am trying to give him the things he left back to him, but I don't know where he is. One looks to be very important. Any suggestions?

IMO,

Make a shipping box, weigh it, and if it seems that the cost to ship it back to his Mom doesn't break yer bank,

then

ship it back to his Mom.

or having a 'burning party'.

[belinda63 3,038]

If it appears to be important legal documents I would not destroy them. Photos, sentimental items, etc. well if he hasn't been back to get them because he chose not to come back then get rid of them. If he hasn't been back because he can't come back, ship them to a family member or friend of his. Or place them in storage. No sense in spending money trying to track him down to return his things to him.