A Girl Arrived as K1, Got Married, Now Husband Refused!

[Paps IR5 6]

Hello, Everyone,

This is not for me, a girl that I know need some advice. She got here Last June, 2013 as K1 and got married just last month. Now husband refused to apply her Adjustment of Status and wants to send her back home.

She gave up everything from her homeland and now this is what she is facing!

Please advice what to tell her.

Thank you.

[Ryan H 3,812]

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Unless she is able to file a VAWA claim, she will not be able to adjust and will have to go back.

[Rebecca616 38]

So, why doesn't she just go back home? I can understand her heartbreak but if she's only been here a short while I cant imagine she'd want to go through a divorce without her family and friends around. If its her plan to try and stay in the US then I think she'd have to prove that she entered the marriage in good faith and possibly try to adjust on her own after the divorce. (which is a whole other can of worms)

Edited October 16, 2013 by Rebecca616

[Paps IR5 6]

She is fighting for her love for him as she love him dearly and wants to keep the marriage. Divorce was not mention in this situation.

[aaron2020 11,651]

What love is there to fight for when he refuses to give her legal status in the US by adjusting her and wanting to send her back home?

Since her husband doesn't want her, what is the love that she is fighting for?

If she want to stay here legally, her only choice is to show that he abused here. Refusing to adjust her and wanting to send her home by themselves is not abuse.

[Paps IR5 6]

Ok thanks for your input.

[Cliviania 8]

Wow!!

She must have seen the signs that he isn't reliable...He is not a good man for her..she should let him go if he cant be there for her. She deserves better.

[Rebecca616 38]

OH OK!! I didn't read in the original statement that she was trying to keep the marriage together. A word of thought for her.... if her husband is treating her this way now and they've only been married such a short period of time, try to paint a picture of her future. I personally would be scared but hey, maybe he'll remove his head from his ####### and learn how to treat a woman and they can have the life she wants together.

[Boiler 45,482]

Wow!!

She must have seen the signs that he isn't reliable...He is not a good man for her..she should let him go if he cant be there for her. She deserves better.

Agree.

[Darnell 8,478]

If they not wish to divorce (either of them)

then

there really is no rush to file the Adjustment of Status casefile.

There is no reg stating WHEN to file, only an advisory for K-1:

--if married after the 90 day window, file I-130 + I-485 or

--if filing at a point 2 years past the I-94 expiration, file I-130 + I-485 together

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So, do you feel, your friend can reconcile with her husband during the next few months? Then go forward with the AOS? Yes? No ?

[Paps IR5 6]

If they not wish to divorce (either of them)

then

there really is no rush to file the Adjustment of Status casefile.

There is no reg stating WHEN to file, only an advisory for K-1:

--if married after the 90 day window, file I-130 + I-485 or

--if filing at a point 2 years past the I-94 expiration, file I-130 + I-485 together

---

So, do you feel, your friend can reconcile with her husband during the next few months? Then go forward with the AOS? Yes? No ?

They have all the papers ready to be sent out for her adjustments but according to her he can not make up his mind. He is going back and forth of saying he loves her and then want to send her back to Philippines due to he can't afford her. He is living still with his mother and he is 47 years old.

[Harpa Timsah 13,258]

They have all the papers ready to be sent out for her adjustments but according to her he can not make up his mind. He is going back and forth of saying he loves her and then want to send her back to Philippines due to he can't afford her. He is living still with his mother and he is 47 years old.

Why would a person ever marry someone like this?

She should go home and find someone else. This guy is a loser.

Edited October 16, 2013 by Harpa Timsah

[Paps IR5 6]

Why would a person ever marry someone like this?

She should go home and find someone else. This guy is a loser.

I agree with you. I told her she is still young and she can start all over again. She deserve better!

[typo808 11]

Here it is. First, he wants.his.cake.and.eat it, too. He has no idea how.fortunate, and dare I say, LUCKY to.have a.young wife who loves him so. 47 and lives with his Mom?? He took advantage of her naivetee and made it look like.he's a.caring person by living and taking care of his mom. In reality, REALLY???? Red flags!! He's acting like a spoiled kid who doesn't consider others when HIS wants are on the line.

I'm so tired of reading about good Filipinas being treated like this.

Forget it. This one is.not.fighting.for. every person I have ever spoken to, men and women, who have left losers like that, 100% have said it is.the best.thing they have ever done for themselves. It will hurt like hell but worth the pain to.leave a loser like that.

Edited October 16, 2013 by typo808

[Paps IR5 6]

Here it is. First, he wants.his.cake.and.eat it, too. He has no idea how.fortunate, and dare I say, LUCKY to.have a.young wife who loves him so. 47 and lives with his Mom?? He took advantage of her naivetee and made it look like.he's a.caring person by living and taking care of his mom. In reality, REALLY???? Red flags!! He's acting like a spoiled kid who doesn't consider others when HIS wants are on the line.

I'm so tired of reading about good Filipinas being treated like this.

Forget it. This one is.not.fighting.for. every person I have ever spoken to, men and women, who have left losers like that, 100% have said it is.the best.thing they have ever done for themselves. It will hurt like hell but worth the pain to.leave a loser like that.

Thank you typo,

She didn't expect her life would be miserable coming to America!

Edited October 16, 2013 by MsPinay