Would you feel the same if your SO's religious beliefs changed?

[luvaLimey 0]

I don't think I would. If he suddenly became ultra-religious, his entire personality would change, and his personality is one of the reasons I love him. I was married to someone who was ultra-religious once, and was raised in that kind of household, and I really don't want to do that ever again.

I hope he doesn't change. I love him as he is.

[Alex+R 0]

Curious.

Hey Alex,

I would like to clarify the difference between understanding Truth and how it is experienced, celebrated or expressed. For example, if my SO fervently believed in an ever-loving God - that Truth is not confined to one specific religion.

The reason I think that it's important distinction is that, IMO, part of the growth process of a lifetime commitment is spiritual. I think that all loving relationships have a spiritual aspect of them, so what you and your SO understand as Truth is significant to the relationship. I don't think, however, that it necessarily means the two of you must experience, celebrate or express that Truth in the same way.

But we both passionately feel that we are not on any kind of spiritual quest or anything. We are not particularly interested in religion. If one of us became even particularly spiritual, I think it would put a strain on the relationship. There's no "Truth" with a capital T for us.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

There's no "Truth" with a capital T for us.

To many of the people who believe that, that is the 'Truth' with a capital T. Is it for you?

[boboroad 0]

I feel in love with the person. If thier beliefs, did not change them for the worse, then yes I sould stay with them, but if thier beliefs changed for the worse, then who knows.

[Alex+R 0]

There's no "Truth" with a capital T for us.

To many of the people who believe that, that is the 'Truth' with a capital T. Is it for you?

I won't speak for Rey, but to me, no, it's not. I recognize the possibility of any number of truths being THE truth, and the complete absence of any type of god-figure is just one of them.

But honestly, I just don't care. It has no bearing on my personal code of ethics and morals and having a firm belief would not make me feel more connected to the world around me.

The pursuit of that 'Truth' is a huge waste of time I'm not interested in (this is for me; I recognize a lot of people can devote their whole lives to this).

[TracyLuis 0]

Our spiritual/religious beliefs are a huge common denominator for us and our entire relationship. I couldn't connect to someone who didn't share that part of my life. It's one of the things that brought us together, and one of the things that keeps us strong as a couple.

[riblet 0]

I honestly feel like it would be a betrayal in a way - if he became extremely religious. Mild religion I would be willing to tolerate because I love him, but I wouldn't like him. I've really thought about this because his mother and brother are really out there, practically cult style. I think it would be such a fundamental change in his personality, that that would be the problem.

[Nancy2015 2]

"Opposite" is totally open to interpretation.

Thanks for responding!

religion means nothing. So.....no.

We are both very non-religious. If one of us became religious, I think there would be a rocky path in our future. So in that sense, I think religion is very important to our relationship, in that we need it to not be there...if that makes sense.

I hear you. We are both non-religious, and that was one of the things that brought us together. I'm confident that he won't become religious, but if that ever happened, it would totally ruin us. I wouldn't be able to deal with it

[Henia 11]

Hmm I am not totally satisfied with the options given, but if my husband were changed his religious beliefs then our relationship would not end, but I would want to know what made him change... and if I was not convinced then maybe we would drift apart alittle, but still I donnow... I never thought about this ....hard question.

[mawilson 2,133]

I honestly feel like it would be a betrayal in a way - if he became extremely religious.

Totally! It would be like cheating on you, with God

[Ladylethal 12]

I'm agnostic leaning towards atheism, he's catholic but doesn't practice, although he believes in God, angels, heaven, and all of that. We simply don't care.

[cartaverde 12]

We are both non-religious on the same way.

It's sort of funny to live in a Catholic country, and everyone was asking if we would have a religious wedding ... err no. I signed off any religion on the day I was 18 (even before going to school on that day), and my thinking has been more Buddhist influenced than christian since I was a child. And he considers himself a recovering jew ... so what kind of religious ceremony would two people who would be classified as buddhist and jew and who don't care of ANY religion select in a country where you can select between a religious and a religious .. I mean between catholic and catholic? (well the choice was another country to get it done).

I don't like anyone who tries to force the others their religious beliefs. If the religious belief change would be becoming any sort of fanatic, judgemental and telling others what is right and what is wrong .. I don't think it would do any good.

But I don't really see how either of us would turn that way.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

There's no "Truth" with a capital T for us.

To many of the people who believe that, that is the 'Truth' with a capital T. Is it for you?

I won't speak for Rey, but to me, no, it's not. I recognize the possibility of any number of truths being THE truth, and the complete absence of any type of god-figure is just one of them.

But honestly, I just don't care. It has no bearing on my personal code of ethics and morals and having a firm belief would not make me feel more connected to the world around me.

The pursuit of that 'Truth' is a huge waste of time I'm not interested in (this is for me; I recognize a lot of people can devote their whole lives to this).

You don't feel you experience anything between the two of you that is beyond expression? I don't think you need religion to recognize that element in your relationship. There are just too many life experiences that cannot be expressed...that to me is spiritual.

[Savanphil 3]

We would drift apaprt it could really cause problems, we already discussed what religious beleifs that we are going to raise our children.

It would be a huge confusing adjustment.

[Vipul and Jamie 0]

Well, I guess it depends on what religion. I think probably I would have the hardest time if he converted to Islam. No offense to anyone here by saying that, but it would just be hard for me to deal with. It would not end our relationship though.

-Jamie