Criminal charges and deportation question

[Brian1967## 119]

OP ICE does NOTHING... NOTHING without a conviction...NOTHING

SOMETIMES ICE could not find a woman of bad mnorals in a house of ill repute...also knnown as the police could not find a hooker in a whorehouse. And always remeber there is a reason the in the courthouse symbol is lady a holding the scale she has a blindfold on meaning justice is blind and it is up to the lawyers, if you think the law is about right and wrong ...think again, it is about the lawyers and what they can prove....right and wrong went out of style years ago ...fall off the map

Edited October 12, 2013 by Brian1967##

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

I just wanted to ad this comment. Anybody deciding to bring someone here, make sure you keep everything in you name,bank accounts, etc..And watch them like hawks! Not all people are like my ex, their are some goo people out there from other countries. I just trusted mine, cause he came from a wealthy family, his dad was a judge in his country and his mom and dad treated me like a queen. He was the actor, and scammer, and the lier, he was good at it too, everybody believed him , even the courts and police. Always keep evidence of everything. I did! I was smart enough never erase anything,emails, letters etc,, and take photos of everything happening. I finally got to show my evidence when he got arrested recently.

While you meant well, if someone followed your advice then it's likely their foreign spouse would find it difficult or impossible to remove conditions two years after getting their first green card. USCIS relies pretty heavily on evidence of comingling of finances. In their opinion, if you don't trust your spouse enough to give them complete access to your finances then your relationship isn't real. It's true that keeping everything in your name will help protect you from a scammer, but most people's foreign spouses are not scammers. Keeping everything in your name might result in a legitimate and loving spouse being denied a 10 year green card.

The bottom line is that you should be absolutely sure about your mate before you say "I do". Your mistake was not in trying to share your entire life with your husband, including your property and finances. This is what normal married couples do. Your mistake was in marrying someone who was intent on scamming you from the start. Keeping everything in your name would not have prevented you from making that mistake. Knowing beforehand that he was a scammer would have. If you want to help people then don't give them advice that could be disasterous for a legitimate couple. Instead, give them advice that might have helped you if you had received that advice in time. In most of these nightmare cases there were signs early in the relationship that something wasn't right, but the USC spouse often shrugs them off or ignores them. Were there any signs that things weren't completely right before you got married?

[blackrose 0]

While you meant well, if someone followed your advice then it's likely their foreign spouse would find it difficult or impossible to remove conditions two years after getting their first green card. USCIS relies pretty heavily on evidence of comingling of finances. In their opinion, if you don't trust your spouse enough to give them complete access to your finances then your relationship isn't real. It's true that keeping everything in your name will help protect you from a scammer, but most people's foreign spouses are not scammers. Keeping everything in your name might result in a legitimate and loving spouse being denied a 10 year green card.

The bottom line is that you should be absolutely sure about your mate before you say "I do". Your mistake was not in trying to share your entire life with your husband, including your property and finances. This is what normal married couples do. Your mistake was in marrying someone who was intent on scamming you from the start. Keeping everything in your name would not have prevented you from making that mistake. Knowing beforehand that he was a scammer would have. If you want to help people then don't give them advice that could be disasterous for a legitimate couple. Instead, give them advice that might have helped you if you had received that advice in time. In most of these nightmare cases there were signs early in the relationship that something wasn't right, but the USC spouse often shrugs them off or ignores them. Were there any signs that things weren't completely right before you got married?

Hi,

No there were no signs, not one, we were together all the time in his country, living with his parents, happy, loving, trips, like a great family.He was very good to me. 3 weeks after he got to America, BOOOM!! He started his terror! Yes it is great advice! I have talk to other woman and men, who their spouses waited 3 years, they got their green card, had everything joint, and Wammo! The America citizen gets left with nothing! Like I said, not all will do this, but there are more scammers out there, than true love!! And they are sooo good at it!

[blackrose 0]

Hi,

No there were no signs, not one, we were together all the time in his country, living with his parents, happy, loving, trips, like a great family.He was very good to me. 3 weeks after he got to America, BOOOM!! He started his terror! Yes it is great advice! I have talk to other woman and men, who their spouses waited 3 years, they got their green card, had everything joint, and Wammo! The America citizen gets left with nothing! Like I said, not all will do this, but there are more scammers out there, than true love!! And they are sooo good at it!

Too late for me, but everybody saying, 'Why find love in another country, when there are so many people from other countries here who are already citizens, they are so much safer and its cheaper!'

I spent thousands and thousands and lots of work, to not only loose my whole life, home and everything I own, but I lost my trust too.

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

Too late for me, but everybody saying, 'Why find love in another country, when there are so many people from other countries here who are already citizens, they are so much safer and its cheaper!'

I spent thousands and thousands and lots of work, to not only loose my whole life, home and everything I own, but I lost my trust too.

Sociopaths exist in all nations. When I was very young I fell into the grasp of a US bred and born one. Used to clean his guns and point them at my head and explain what brains looked like. Used to time my trips to the grocery store, You to track my car and stalk me. Threatened to murder the children in front of my and then remove my female bits. When life caught up to him he pulled the PTSD card ( Vietnam era service person that never made it out of California) You should beware of stranger no matter where they are from especially if you have had a prior episode ( humans tend to repeat even the worse mistakes )

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

Hi,

No there were no signs, not one, we were together all the time in his country, living with his parents, happy, loving, trips, like a great family.He was very good to me. 3 weeks after he got to America, BOOOM!! He started his terror! Yes it is great advice! I have talk to other woman and men, who their spouses waited 3 years, they got their green card, had everything joint, and Wammo! The America citizen gets left with nothing! Like I said, not all will do this, but there are more scammers out there, than true love!! And they are sooo good at it!

I would say that situations like yours are the exception rather than the rule. Your husband must be exceedingly patient in order to be able to keep up the charade for so long. In addition, either his family was in on the caper or he had them fooled as much as he had you fooled. I've read lots of stories like yours on VJ over the years. Most people say there were signs prior to the marriage, but they wrote them off as cultural differences, etc.

I don't know what the ratio is of scammers to true love. I've heard anecdotally that marriages involving one spouse immigrating to the US end in divorce slightly less often than marriage between US citizens. I don't know how accurate that is because I don't know where that sort of data could be collected. The US government stops keeping track of the marriage after removal of conditions unless the foreign spouse applies for citizenship.

Anyway, I personally know a handful of people with foreign spouses who have followed the IR1 or K1 path to be together in the US. Some of them I've met through this site. They've all had to go through a period of adjustment, just as my wife and I had to, but they got through it. I don't stay in frequent contact with all of them, but they're all still married as far as I know. Granted that's a very small sampling of a very large group of people, but if the ratio of scammers to lovers really was as high as you indicate then I would think that at least some of the people I know would have been involved in situations similar to yours.

Regarding the comingling of finances, I added my wife to my primary checking account, opened a joint savings account with her, added her to my medical and dential insurance, made her beneficiary of my life insurance, and added her to any new bills we acquired. By the time we submitted the ROC we had also filed three joint tax returns. However, the majority of our bills were accounts I had for years before I met her, and I saw no point in adding her to those accounts for no reason other than to have her name on them. I also bought a home a few years before I met my wife. Not surprisingly, the mortgage is underwater. It would have been impossible for me to add her to the deed without the finance company calling in my loan and insisting on a new mortgage. That was out of the question. When we filed the ROC I provided everything I had, and explained what I said above. We got an RFE for two things; copies of our state issued ID cards, and more evidence of financial comingling. The only thing I had that I hadn't already sent was a new car insurance bill - once my wife's car was paid off I dropped the comprehensive coverage on her car and combined our car insurance policies to save a little money. The new bill had both of our names on it. That was apparently enough as they approved her ROC and she got her 10 year green card. I'm quite certain that she would have been denied if we had no evidence of comingled finances at all.