if you fail the ROC interview what happen?

[Faycel and Renee 30]

@ churawan

He is not saying what you think - I totally get what he is saying becasue I was married before and brought my husband here, only to see he had changed the moment he got off the plane. Within 2 months we separated and I filed for divorce. My divorce was granted (which took a year to finish). We were married in 2008, I filed in 2009 for his petition, he arrived in August of 2011 and divorce was finalized this year. Now I am petitioning for my current Fiance and so far everything is going quite fast for us. We just got word today that the NVC/Consulate have gotten our petition and are ready for Packet 3. Since he has his green card for the next 10 years and he is working and living on his own and supporting himself I have NO obligations and I am free to marry again. I think that this gentleman is going thru what I went thru and should not be criticized unless there is wrong doing.

[Cathi 5,771]

Are you for for real??? So let me get this right... You are at poverty level or just above?!?!? You find a wife in Asia and bring her here to "take care of you"?!?!?! She get here and finds out life isn't what she thought it would be, for what ever reason, money being high on the list?!?!?!? You now want to return her to sender like a bad purchase?!?!?!? Then you want a "new model" to try out?!?!?! You are exactly the type of person that causes issues in the system with real true love and relationships!!!!!!! You can barely write in English to be understood, lucky for you most of us on here speak "broken English".... The good or sad part of this is that she is a human being with feelings and rights... You don't get to decide to have her removed at will, she can go forward without you and sounds like she should get on to that pronto (fast).... She can show that she came here with the idea of a happy life and relationship, you have decided it isn't working out.. That is fine not every relationship works out regardless of 2 USC's or folks in a visa type relationship.... Money is usually the number 1 or 2 reason for failed relationships... I think you need to think long and hard about this relationship first, salvage it if at all possible... If not assist her in getting through an amicable divorce, then assist her in gathering info for her own filing of the ROC process.... Then you need to look in the mirror and decide what to try to do next... As stated above you are still on the hook for her I485 so with your low income I doubt you could petition another unsuspecting woman to take care of you.... Good Luck with your journey from here!!! Just make sure you do the right thing here for her well being.... From what you wrote, she hasn't done anything fraudulent yet and shouldn't going forward!!!!

No where in any of his posts did he say he brought his wife here to "take care of him" or because he is"at the poverty level or just above" or that they are divorcing because of money. He said that after she arrived they didn't get along well and they want a divorce. Why are you putting words in his mouth? He simply asked what will happen if they don't remove conditions if she lives with him until the time comes to remove them, will they deport her. He also asked if he decides in the future to marry another women from his country will she be denied? Totally hypothetical question..Many couples, immigrants or not, marry every day and find soon after the marriage that it just isn't going to work. And if it doesn't work out, it is normal for someone to want to remarry someone from their own country and culture. Why are you jumping all over the OP's shiat? Seriously some people need to chill.

Edited October 9, 2013 by mimolicious

[Cathi 5,771]

Exactly.

exactly what? The OP never said for one moment that his marriage wasn't entered to in good faith or that he wants to discard her because of money or anything else. What is wrong with some people on this site? Jumping to conclusions and making accusations that are totally false

[Faycel and Renee 30]

@ churawan

He is not saying what you think - I totally get what he is saying becasue I was married before and brought my husband here, only to see he had changed the moment he got off the plane. Within 2 months we separated and I filed for divorce. My divorce was granted (which took a year to finish). We were married in 2008, I filed in 2009 for his petition, he arrived in August of 2011 and divorce was finalized this year. Now I am petitioning for my current Fiance and so far everything is going quite fast for us. We just got word today that the NVC/Consulate have gotten our petition and are ready for Packet 3. Since he has his green card for the next 10 years and he is working and living on his own and supporting himself I have NO obligations and I am free to marry again. I think that this gentleman is going thru what I went thru and should not be criticized unless there is wrong doing.

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

@ churawan

He is not saying what you think - I totally get what he is saying becasue I was married before and brought my husband here, only to see he had changed the moment he got off the plane. Within 2 months we separated and I filed for divorce. My divorce was granted (which took a year to finish). We were married in 2008, I filed in 2009 for his petition, he arrived in August of 2011 and divorce was finalized this year. Now I am petitioning for my current Fiance and so far everything is going quite fast for us. We just got word today that the NVC/Consulate have gotten our petition and are ready for Packet 3. Since he has his green card for the next 10 years and he is working and living on his own and supporting himself I have NO obligations and I am free to marry again. I think that this gentleman is going thru what I went thru and should not be criticized unless there is wrong doing.

No where in any of his posts did he say he brought his wife here to "take care of him" or because he is"at the poverty level or just above" or that they are divorcing because of money. He said that after she arrived they didn't get along well and they want a divorce. Why are you putting words in his mouth? He simply asked what will happen if they don't remove conditions if she lives with him until the time comes to remove them, will they deport her. He also asked if he decides in the future to marry another women from his country will she be denied? Totally hypothetical question..Many couples, immigrants or not, marry every day and find soon after the marriage that it just isn't going to work. And if it doesn't work out, it is normal for someone to want to remarry someone from their own country and culture. Why are you jumping all over the OP's shiat? Seriously some people need to chill.

I agree with you Guys. Not sure how people are taking his post totally the wrong way.

@ churawan

He is not saying what you think - I totally get what he is saying becasue I was married before and brought my husband here, only to see he had changed the moment he got off the plane. Within 2 months we separated and I filed for divorce. My divorce was granted (which took a year to finish). We were married in 2008, I filed in 2009 for his petition, he arrived in August of 2011 and divorce was finalized this year. Now I am petitioning for my current Fiance and so far everything is going quite fast for us. We just got word today that the NVC/Consulate have gotten our petition and are ready for Packet 3. Since he has his green card for the next 10 years and he is working and living on his own and supporting himself I have NO obligations and I am free to marry again. I think that this gentleman is going thru what I went thru and should not be criticized unless there is wrong doing.

I think you're still on the hook for the I-864. He has to have 10 years of work or 4 quarters I think.

[xXJay_DXx 1]

Thank you for those who support me, and I'm so sorry if some of the thing I say is offending some people. I still love my wife alot, and would really want thing to work out. However thing didn't go as plan she want a higher life she expect too much from me. Alot of stuff I don't have the ability to do it foe her, but I'm trying to. She just change her thinking and personality. She barely know anything about me or Even bother talking to me long enough to know me better

[Josh and Grace 1]

Wooww dude... not cool. I can't believe you even posted this question.

[xXJay_DXx 1]

@ m225318

What do you mean not cool? What is wrong with the questions?

[Darnell 8,478]

I just got married and we still have one more year to go before they send us stuff for the ROC but right now me and my wife are not in a good term in our relationship. Our relationship is currently in a bad shape, so when we go to the ROC interview and we got denied with not a lot of evidence to show them that we are a real couple. Then will I be able to remarry and will it be harder next time for me to bring my wife over? That if our interview didn't went so good with the ROC and my curtent wife get deported back to

Vietnam.

Yes, 5 Cylon Centurions from BattleStar Galactica will come take her away and put her on the next plane back to Vietnam.

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But, seriously, she's the foreigner, not you. If you two divorce, it's on her to prove up stuff for the RoC Interview, not you.

Edited October 9, 2013 by Darnell

[BastillaShan 30]

She barely know anything about me or Even bother talking to me long enough to know me better

This is a little bit sad. I'm curious why you would marry someone who you feel doesn't know you- or why you would even be thinking about future plans (to marry another lady from abroad)in the middle of what is likely a very upsetting time.

[xXJay_DXx 1]

This is a little bit sad. I'm curious why you would marry someone who you feel doesn't know you- or why you would even be thinking about future plans (to marry another lady from abroad)in the middle of what is likely a very upsetting time.

It was a hook up marriage and at that time we both was very happy and in love. Even though at that time she didn't bother asking anything about me because she was happy to see me due to long period of time. Now however she come over here and she all change. I was disappointed in her

@ churawan He is not saying what you think - I totally get what he is saying becasue I was married before and brought my husband here, only to see he had changed the moment he got off the plane. Within 2 months we separated and I filed for divorce. My divorce was granted (which took a year to finish). We were married in 2008, I filed in 2009 for his petition, he arrived in August of 2011 and divorce was finalized this year. Now I am petitioning for my current Fiance and so far everything is going quite fast for us. We just got word today that the NVC/Consulate have gotten our petition and are ready for Packet 3. Since he has his green card for the next 10 years and he is working and living on his own and supporting himself I have NO obligations and I am free to marry again. I think that this gentleman is going thru what I went thru and should not be criticized unless there is wrong doing.

Thank you and yes I would say I'm in the same situation as you did before

[B_J 2,752]

Okay. I have to ask. What's a hook up marriage?

[JRF 117]

exactly what? The OP never said for one moment that his marriage wasn't entered to in good faith or that he wants to discard her because of money or anything else. What is wrong with some people on this site? Jumping to conclusions and making accusations that are totally false

OP stated the following: "I thought maybe just let her stay for another year and then just don't file the ROC and let the USCIS take her back to Vietnam.". Let the USG "take her back to Vietnam". What? If he doesn't think the marriage will work out divorce her and be done with it (except for the pesky issue of the 864 and all that).

You are correct...none of us know what really has happened, we only know what the OP stated. My problem is the idea that he would "let" her stay here. He doesn't "let" her stay here...that is up to the USG. Who knows what will happen...if she can get thru ROC he's on the hook for her financially. Presumably it was a bona fide marriage at the time she entered the country, proving fraud is difficult at best. From the perspective of the USG I would prefer they not waste resources trying to figure that out.

[JRF 117]

Yes, 5 Cylon Centurions from BattleStar Galactica will come take her away and put her on the next plane back to Vietnam.

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But, seriously, she's the foreigner, not you. If you two divorce, it's on her to prove up stuff for the RoC Interview, not you.

lol...assuming the Centurions are considered essential.

[QueenE 174]

whatever decision you make, people need to learn you don't marry people after a couple good dates/nights together. Because you will never have any idea what the person is really like. We are all in our perfect behaviors during that phase of a relationship. From what you are saying I don't really see what she is doing wrong, or why its such a big deal to end a marriage, but its your life not mine. I don't know that she changed or you yourself just didn't get to know her well in the first place. Just divorce her if that's what you think is best. You will not be effected if you do all your paperwork correctly ( making sure divorce is finalized, etc).