What's the Difference Between Flirting and Cheating?

[Thingee 0]

If you don't want your SO to know about it, it's cheating.

[mawilson 2,133]

When he told his fiancee that he decided not to go, she told him she appreciated that.

Man, I just love those mind games.

"Oh no, honey, I don't mind"

"Ok, I'll go then"

Bzzzzzt! Wrong answer.

[JaJo 1]

Yikes. I guess if the fiancee appreciated it then he must have done the right thing, by Yodrak's definition above, but seriously... how are you going to sustain a relationship that prohibits all social contact with the opposite sex? Sounds a little psycho to me.

Man, I just love those mind games.

"Oh no, honey, I don't mind"

"Ok, I'll go then"

Bzzzzzt! Wrong answer.

[Yodrak 7]

Alex+R,

Declining an invitation to a basketball game is hardly prohibiting all social contact with the opposite sex, and the fiancee in question did not prohibit the outing - the guy made the decision to decline the invitation on his own.

But assuming for the sake of discussion that all social contact with the opposite sex is prohibited by one's spouse, it's but one of many compatibility factors that affect the sustainability of a relationship. Some people might be able to accept it, some might not. DIfferent people have different sensibilities.

Yodrak

Flirting or Cheating? Hanging out with the women at work?

.....

I think that once you're in a committed relationship, it changes the rest of your relationships. For example, a co-worker of mine who has been divorced for many years but recently got engaged, he was invited the other day to a Laker's game with two of his female friends. They'd go to games together all the time before and he initially was going to go - even his fiancee said she didn't mind, but he later declined the invitation. He said he just didn't feel it was the right thing to do. When he told his fiancee that he decided not to go, she told him she appreciated that.

Yikes. I guess if the fiancee appreciated it then he must have done the right thing, by Yodrak's definition above, but seriously... how are you going to sustain a relationship that prohibits all social contact with the opposite sex? Sounds a little psycho to me.

Edited December 12, 2006 by Yodrak

[Alex+R 0]

But assuming for the sake of discussion that all social contact with the opposite sex is prohibited by one's spouse, it's but one of many compatibility factors that affect the sustainability of a relationship. Some people might be able to accept it, some might not. DIfferent people have different sensibilities.

Yodrak

Yeah, and the people who are able to accept it are completely insane.

[Hilarious Clinton 452]

Penetration.

Or licking.

Good point. But seriously it's about intentions. A hug or kiss on the cheek is fine but when that is used as a way of getting something more it could be crossing the line.

[Jasman0717 9]

They both can get you in trouble

so true..so can a harmless titty twister at a party

No parties for us this year

[Sinergy 3]

They both can get you in trouble

so true..so can a harmless titty twister at a party

No parties for us this year

[KarenCee 3]

But assuming for the sake of discussion that all social contact with the opposite sex is prohibited by one's spouse, it's but one of many compatibility factors that affect the sustainability of a relationship. Some people might be able to accept it, some might not. DIfferent people have different sensibilities.

Yodrak

Yeah, and the people who are able to accept it are completely insane.

Maybe...but have you thought that it could be consideration for the other half of the relationship? I would never put such stipulations on my husband, but if he were uncomfortable with me being out with male friends, then I would honour his feelings about that, just as I know he would do the same for me. Not sure I'd call that insane though.

[JenT 0]

Cindy&Kev,

Whatever your spouse thinks it is.

Yodrak

What you think???

Enuf said....

[Alex+R 0]

But assuming for the sake of discussion that all social contact with the opposite sex is prohibited by one's spouse, it's but one of many compatibility factors that affect the sustainability of a relationship. Some people might be able to accept it, some might not. DIfferent people have different sensibilities.

Yodrak

Yeah, and the people who are able to accept it are completely insane.

Maybe... but have you thought that it could be consideration for the other half of the relationship? I would never put such stipulations on my husband, but if he were uncomfortable with me being out with male friends, then I would honour his feelings about that, just as I know he would do the same for me. Not sure I'd call that insane though.

There would be no other reason than consideration for the other half of the relationship. I just think it would be pretty suffocating to be in a relationship with someone who would make those demands, and that the person making those demands has to be highly insecure or a bit off in some other way.

[arwensun1965 0]

Different people take things different ways, say I looked at someone and said oh he has a nice #######, that would be a kind of flirty remark, if Jon said baby that woman has a nice body that too could be thought of as flirtatious, both remarks about other people but well within the bounds of normal behavior. Now if I were to actually go up to a guy and said you have a nice ####### then that would be overstepping the bounds. There is a line to be drawn, be careful not to appear to be over possessive, know what your partners limits are before you get married.

[KarenCee 3]

But assuming for the sake of discussion that all social contact with the opposite sex is prohibited by one's spouse, it's but one of many compatibility factors that affect the sustainability of a relationship. Some people might be able to accept it, some might not. DIfferent people have different sensibilities.

Yodrak

Yeah, and the people who are able to accept it are completely insane.

Maybe... but have you thought that it could be consideration for the other half of the relationship? I would never put such stipulations on my husband, but if he were uncomfortable with me being out with male friends, then I would honour his feelings about that, just as I know he would do the same for me. Not sure I'd call that insane though.

There would be no other reason than consideration for the other half of the relationship. I just think it would be pretty suffocating to be in a relationship with someone who would make those demands, and that the person making those demands has to be highly insecure or a bit off in some other way.

I agree. It would be suffocating. Still, I would think if one half of the relationship has some insecurities that would be a reason to be considerate. That's not to say that half would always be insecure, it could relate back to past hurts and a former spouse that cheated, yanno? There again, it could be a case of needing to be in absolute control (i.e. control freak) then that's where I would say it's a bit off.

[Nikita2Charles 32]

There's this Asian girl at work, she always dress up really nice, the only problem she likes to attract attention as such

always wear really sexy, tight clothes, tight pans, push up bra that goes right on your face. So most of the time you try to keep your head in another direction so as not to seem you are looking or bring attention to her. So is she flirting, cheaping, or just pure sexual harrassment>???? None of they guys mind i should say the word right after she passed by out of ear

Danmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

[KarenCee 3]

There's this Asian girl at work, she always dress up really nice, the only problem she likes to attract attention as such

always wear really sexy, tight clothes, tight pans, push up bra that goes right on your face. So most of the time you try to keep your head in another direction so as not to seem you are looking or bring attention to her. So is she flirting, cheaping, or just pure sexual harrassment>???? None of they guys mind i should say the word right after she passed by out of ear

Danmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

I might get flamed for this but the word "tease"comes to mind here.....