Older American woman Younger Algerian man

[Nasturtium 500]

And where in my posts did I inflict violence onto my sisters. It's not okay by any means in MY family to say such things about marrying any man just as a means to quit working, etc.

In the post you yourself quoted there.

But anyway, just out of curiosity-- so you don't think Islamicaly it is a husband's duty to support his wife or men to care for their unmarried female relatives?

Edited October 17, 2013 by Kathryn41
to remove personal attack in quote

[sandinista! 1,816]

At 645 pm last night, my husband was losing to me at putt putt golf with our kids. No need to mention this, I just feel like randomly bragging about something.

[sparkles_ 456]

At 645 pm last night, my husband was losing to me at putt putt golf with our kids. No need to mention this, I just feel like randomly bragging about something.

[MouadsWife 161]

At 645 pm last night, my husband was losing to me at putt putt golf with our kids. No need to mention this, I just feel like randomly bragging about something.

Your post is duely noted and the "read between the lines meaning" and innuendo is really quite sleezy. You feel better for putting that our there?

[Madeinmorocco2 15]

Your post is duely noted and the "read between the lines meaning" and innuendo is really quite sleezy. You feel better for putting that our there?

Hey, no fair, you read between the lines faster than I did MouadsWife.

[MouadsWife 161]

Hey, no fair, you read between the lines faster than I did MouadsWife.

Check your mail box.

[R and F 34]

I really don't think anyone is trying to change your mind. I've read the whole 7 pages over the last couple of days. I don't remember every post, but I didn't notice anyone degrading him either. I think most people were sincerely trying to offer their best advice. I'm going to do my best to offer mine without offending anyone.

The first few replies after your original post offer the most important advice for you at this stage. Slow down. Spend as much time together in person as you possibly can before you file.

Save everything: chat logs, emails, pictures, boarding passes, receipts...the list goes on and on. You can search these forums and find hundreds of threads discussing the evidence people send with their petitions and/or bring to the interview.

Before I answer that, I wanted to say that a denial is not supposed to be based on age difference alone, even though it seems people are denied for that reason often. So, again, take your time. Build a strong case. Don't let them find another reason.

Anyway I don't have numbers for you, but I've heard/read about plenty of approvals for MENA couples with similar age gaps. A few of those couples got through the process without a hiccup. Most of them, however, didn't have it so easy. Some of the couples faced a denial the first time around. Some of them waited two or three years or longer, and dealt with multiple denials. In the end though, they got what they were fighting for. If you search the MENA forum for denials, refusals, 221g's, age gaps, etc you'll find loads of information. I won't tell you it will be fast or easy, but I do think your chances are pretty good if age difference is the only issue.

Like the others have said, if by "happy endings" you mean the visa was issued, then there are plenty.

If you mean still together after citizenship and financial independence, there are some, but not too many. I think some of those ladies already shared their stories with you.

Personally, I don't know any. I've stayed in touch online or in person with some of the couples that went through the immigration process around the same time as I did. They are American women married to Algerians or Moroccans. I could probably remember more, but right now I can think of 12 couples. Of the twelve, five are still married and seven are divorced. In 5 of those couples the woman was ten or more years older. All five of the younger man/ older woman couples are now divorced. All of them say the age difference was not the reason for the divorce. Anyway, those are just the people I know, I'm not implying in any way that those numbers mean a damn thing.

Honestly, I do hope that this man is everything you think he is. I do believe that it's possible for a couple with your age difference to have a successful marriage.

Yes, most Algerian guys are great. They love their country. They don't want to leave their home. But here's the thing...there are tons of Algerian guys online looking for women to marry as a way out of Algeria. They look for Europeans, Americans, Canadians...wherever they think they will be happier, and find more opportunities. They tend to look for older, divorced women who they think will be more financially stable. More desperate for a man. Easier to fool. Most likely to come to Algeria and believe their silly love stories. These guys exist. And they do think like that. And they will tell you anything you want to hear. How on earth can you logically dismiss the possibility that this guy might be one of them? It makes no sense to me at all. You've got all of these little red flags waving at you. Please, don't ignore them. Investigate them first and then hopefully you can dismiss them. Just stop pretending they are not there. He could very well turn out to be everything you think he is, but what if he isn't? People keep telling you "eyes wide open", "blinders off"...and I agree with them. This is not the time to "follow your heart", you've got to let your brain do some of the work here. Be happy, be in love, but don't be a fool.

Whatever Maubola says. Smarty pants.

Edited October 16, 2013 by R and F

[Shiobhan 235]

OP if doing this out of kindness Be true to U

An Algerian kid will fall in love and say whatever

just to get the break of the American dream.

Demi got fame, money and somewhat of a youthful look

but Ashton moved on, his new chickie is 26 yrs old,

Got no prob with an older woman dating a younger

man, as men do it all the time, U just don't take

them home...it is what it is..Y not ask him to move

U to live in Algeria with him, and see how much MIL

& family will treat U, including him...lady wake up

[sandinista! 1,816]

Putt putt is strictly about putt putt

[Nasturtium 500]

At 645 pm last night, my husband was losing to me at putt putt golf with our kids. No need to mention this, I just feel like randomly bragging about something.

I keep trying to get my husband to go to do mini golf with me. I think he would like it!

Lolol.. that was a JOKEEE between Me and Madeinmorocco2... hhhhhhh. If you would have read the entire post of his you would have seen that it was a statement that his wife had made in a joking manner to him off the board.. I repeat... a joke, a joke. Lolol. Once again we are presuming.

I presumed what, exactly? He asked where it was, I told him. Presumption doesn't mean showing someone something.

Your post is duely noted and the "read between the lines meaning" and innuendo is really quite sleezy. You feel better for putting that our there?

LOL your talking about presumption when you take a post which obviously is face-value and then try to make it dirty. The fact that you did that in a post talking about putt putt with children tells us more about you than the OP.

[Nasturtium 500]

Hey, no fair, you read between the lines faster than I did MouadsWife.

Annnnd you too.

[Madeinmorocco2 15]

Gonna take my wife to play putt putt now.

[sandinista! 1,816]

I keep trying to get my husband to go to do mini golf with me. I think he would like it!

.

Yeah! I think it's almost as fun as croquet.

[Madeinmorocco2 15]

Dosent croquet require a continuous stroke like when you were playing putt putt.

[sandinista! 1,816]

Vocab fail, so a fallback into inane ad hominem. Ok then.