seperating from my husband

[diadromous mermaid 36]

I just said what everybody else was thinking. I really don't understand why people come to United States in order to get married or be with their spouses and when the marriage/engagement fails wthey want to stay. With the exception of they've been here for a long time, they built a career, had kids that go to school here, then it's completely understandable. Call me ignorant for having this point of view, I call ignorant the question itself.

Sometimes, it is not what the USA offers, but rather what the native land may no longer that comes into play. Many would-be immigrants sever ties to careers, opportunities, leaseholds, homes in order to relocate to be with a beloved, only to find that if things don't work out, it is not only difficult to return, but might also be economically infeasible.

[Nessa 23]

no I didn't get a puppy, Charles is avoiding the subject for now, but he won't escape for too long

[Reynaldo 0]

no I didn't get a puppy, Charles is avoiding the subject for now, but he won't escape for too long

I also think nessa is right, I would also move back to Brazil if my marriage fails. Even though there are a lot of opportunities for me there, I would prefer to stay here, close to all of my family than being in foreign lands.

The only thing that really matters in the us is Alex.

But that is just my opinion.

[girl 37 7]

I also think nessa is right, I would also move back to Brazil if my marriage fails. Even though there are a lot of opportunities for me there, I would prefer to stay here, close to all of my family than being in foreign lands.

Well, that's your preference, but what if you'd left a great job as a professor and took a new one where you were required to start the 4 years+ tenure clock again? Not only would you have lost time and money, but you'd look irresponsible if you applied for jobs back home within such a short time. (Any idea of how long it takes to set up a lab or how long it takes for graduate students to finish up their research?) Or what if you'd spent time and money re-training to become a nurse or doctor or lawyer or whatever and had started up a practice? Some people have such narrow viewpoints that they can't imagine how others wouldn't do the same thing as they'd do. Not EVERYONE thinks that way.

[rising spring 0]

like i said in my original post, we are getting seperated, but are not rushing into a divorce. as of now, we do not know what could happen in 6 months or a year. and so i am not running out of the US just yet. it would certainly be different if i came from an entirely different culture overseas, but i am canadian, and have spent so much time in the US over the last 10 years, including living here the last 2. i am not planning on moving home just yet. i am just trying to figure out the fine print about traveling and even working abroad while you have a green card.

[Reynaldo 0]

I also think nessa is right, I would also move back to Brazil if my marriage fails. Even though there are a lot of opportunities for me there, I would prefer to stay here, close to all of my family than being in foreign lands.

Well, that's your preference, but what if you'd left a great job as a professor and took a new one where you were required to start the 4 years+ tenure clock again? Not only would you have lost time and money, but you'd look irresponsible if you applied for jobs back home within such a short time. (Any idea of how long it takes to set up a lab or how long it takes for graduate students to finish up their research?) Or what if you'd spent time and money re-training to become a nurse or doctor or lawyer or whatever and had started up a practice? Some people have such narrow viewpoints that they can't imagine how others wouldn't do the same thing as they'd do. Not EVERYONE thinks that way.

But I do.

And that was my opinion.

And I described what I would do...

[Pam&Mbaye 0]

Vegan Girl,

When the time comes for you to lift your condition which is 90 days before your temporary green card expires, if you are divorced you can file by yourself to lift those conditions. However, you must prove that your marriage was a good faith marriage, and the best thing I believe is to seek counsel from a lawyer. I can't remember what form it is that you will have to file in order to have the conditions lifted, but I do know you probably would do better if you get a lawyer. My humble opinion only

As for the comments about saying what others are only thinking, actually I wasn't thinking that at all and probably because I know people who have come here because of marriage and liked it so much they didn't want to leave because of the situation back home which have been various i.e. politics, economics,torture. Each person knows their own situation or reasons better then anyone else.

[diadromous mermaid 36]

Vegan Girl,

When the time comes for you to lift your condition which is 90 days before your temporary green card expires, if you are divorced you can file by yourself to lift those conditions. However, you must prove that your marriage was a good faith marriage, and the best thing I believe is to seek counsel from a lawyer. I can't remember what form it is that you will have to file in order to have the conditions lifted, but I do know you probably would do better if you get a lawyer. My humble opinion only

As for the comments about saying what others are only thinking, actually I wasn't thinking that at all and probably because I know people who have come here because of marriage and liked it so much they didn't want to leave because of the situation back home which have been various i.e. politics, economics,torture. Each person knows their own situation or reasons better then anyone else.

The form to be used when self-petitioning under any of the three available waivers of the joint-filing requirement to remove conditions on permanent residency based upon a marriage that is terminated is the same form, form I=751. One correction: A divorced alien does not have to wait until 90 days prior to expiry of the conditional green card to file an application to remove conditions. Once a decree is available the alien can submit the waiver, form I-751.

[Pam&Mbaye 0]

Thanks for the correction

[misa 2]

IMO, if the marriage was in good faith (which in this case it was), there's no reason why she should have to leave just because it didn't work out. She has a life in the US now and should be given the choice to stay if she chooses to.

vegangirl, good luck with whatever happens in the next 6 months or so. I'll be in touch.

Edited December 16, 2006 by misa