Is there any way to stop unhealthy VJ-mob scapegoating?

[Harpa Timsah 13,258]

It seems every year another group of frustrated new filers does some "secret research" and finds some group to hate en masse.

A couple years ago, everyone was mad at the Haitians. Haitian TPS because of the earthquake was ruining everything and making everyone's case slow! Damn their death and pestilence! Outrage!

Then some time later it was DACA! Everyone hated on DACA and blamed that for making their files slow! Damn illegals! Outrage!

Now I have seen everyone is hating on spouses of LPRs. F2A is going too fast and needs to be slower! Damn those foreigners! Outrage!

There is a hive mind of thing going on, and without any proof, these groups, and I am sure others before these, get chosen to be the object of hate.

It seems like a horrible mob mentality based on rumor and "secret analysis" of USCIS's website. I know it is hard to wait, and that the difficulty makes people vulnerable and liable to believe whatever they hear, but it doesn't seem right, to me.

Is there anything to say that would stop this or is it going to happen no matter what? Any thoughts?

[RGinWA 816]

Humans will first find a group to blame for their angst in life. If no group is available, they'll settle for a religious reason.

It's human nature to band together when faced with adversity.

I can only assume it's because misery loves company?

[immihelp99 21]

This is a tough journey and if blaming someone else for it makes it seem easier then why not let it be. Not like it's going to change anything

[Jawaree 717]

People seem to forget its just a privilege

and not a right.

[immihelp99 21]

Privilege or not, it's still a hard journey

[Jawaree 717]

Agreed its hard on all parties especially those with kids

but still a previlge

[vkrishn 97]

Every one has is frustrated waiting for something to happen but they themselves aren't ready to put in the effort or at least try to do something. I don't think they are playing the blame game but just using this forum to vent out their frustration. :-)

I like your statement that they don't have any proof. I would love to see some statistical data and want them to see it as well before they start throwing some tantrums.

Edited September 29, 2013 by vkrishn

[KayDeeCee 4,893]

I do not think there is any way to stop it from it happening. Some people just need to believe that they are being 'stepped on' and 'held down' and that is why they cannot progress as quickly as others through the immigration process. I think it makes them feel better about having to wait when they are blaming others for their 'misfortune'.

I have watched all those groups being blamed for the slow downs at the service centers over the last few years. It seems like knowing that sometimes things move along slower for various periods of time(and sometimes faster) is just not enough. There must be outrage and someone to take the blame. I have never noticed any group of people being praised when there are surges of quick approvals though. I chalk it up to the flaws of human nature.

Edited September 30, 2013 by Jay-Kay

[AmyWrites 593]

I think this process is one of those horrible life reminders that we are not as important as we think we are. So people get frustrated.

[I & B 273]

DACA was a regulatory directive, not a group of people. And DACA was the reason a great many people experienced an extra two to three months of I-129F processing time at the CSC.

[mrsfrisbey 6]

It seems every year another group of frustrated new filers does some "secret research" and finds some group to hate en masse.

A couple years ago, everyone was mad at the Haitians. Haitian TPS because of the earthquake was ruining everything and making everyone's case slow! Damn their death and pestilence! Outrage!

Then some time later it was DACA! Everyone hated on DACA and blamed that for making their files slow! Damn illegals! Outrage!

Now I have seen everyone is hating on spouses of LPRs. F2A is going too fast and needs to be slower! Damn those foreigners! Outrage!

There is a hive mind of thing going on, and without any proof, these groups, and I am sure others before these, get chosen to be the object of hate.

It seems like a horrible mob mentality based on rumor and "secret analysis" of USCIS's website. I know it is hard to wait, and that the difficulty makes people vulnerable and liable to believe whatever they hear, but it doesn't seem right, to me.

Is there anything to say that would stop this or is it going to happen no matter what? Any thoughts?

very well said, harpa.

[Hollyday 122]

Every one has is frustrated waiting for something to happen but they themselves aren't ready to put in the effort or at least try to do something.

What kind of effort are you talking about exactly?

PS: not blaming anyone, just wondering.

[iawait 9]

I personally think that the chain of command is to blame. Every time there is any change the chain of command dictates what needs to move first. In Haiti, natural calamity calamity was claiming US derivatives and so has been every other time. Now, in DACA, children who were being brought into the country were in desperate need to be saved from deportation due to no fault of their own. Do you want to blame them? I don't. I think my needs can wait a couple of months more if that means that someone else can be helped who needed it more than me. For me it is a couple of months while it could be a lifetime for the other. Check out mundonarco.com to see what can happen to some people. Be thankful and grateful for what we have and what the couple of months' wait has maybe helped someone else with. Be grateful to GOD and be patient. You cannot change your future but you can always be content that your wait has helped someone else in their time of need. Pray for everyone and be happy in their good also. They may be the lucky ones butt you helped them in their success. i hope this can settle you down a bit. Good luck all and my GOD be with us.

[Sarah Elle-Même 660]

Those angry threads to me always read as "RABBLE RABBLE RABBLE RABBLE"!

So much to vent but no one important will listen. Better to find other things to do while waiting. Life isn't fair and whether or not special treatment is indeed given, it's not right to blame the people themselves who are just out there pounding the pavement trying to obtain some of the same things we are.

I try not to throw a pity party all the time but I've been waiting a lot longer than most do just for the damn petition approval because my fiance's home country warrants "special" treatment IE: all petitions sit in a heap in a back office at USCIS for 2 years for NO logical reason. It makes me angry, yes, but there is nothing to be done but wait. As if living in this country is somehow a golden heaven of magic gumdrop trees. Oh, what a privilege indeed. SMDH.

[nobbie 105]

Dunno what you are on about Haitian TPS, whats TPS, whats DACA anyway.

You will get much response if people cant understand what you are talking about.

Do you suggest forming a group to moan about the moaners