I think my beneficiary is a fraud

[Tati618 10]

Trust me I'm not trying to judge you so I apologize if I offended you in any way, that's not my intention. What flags did you miss from the beginning?

And not knowing from too long isn't nessesarily a mistake there are many relationship that just bloom from the beginning. In my case I met my fiancé from DR and things just started flowing quickly and we ended up as boyfriend and girlfriend quite fast. I went to meet him 4 months after our online relationship started. I spoke to him about coming and he said he never had plans to come, he has a great job out there and so on. Eventually we just couldn't be away from one another and here we are with the k1 process.

Have you spoken to him again? You should have a long talk ask him to be honest.

Again my apologies to you bc yes DR has many stories as many other countries do as well. I know so many stories of ppl that met their love of their life in DR while on vacay.

I did not think that you were offending me. I just notice people keep asking why I am making a whole country bad...which I was not.

And I say to soon because we never really dated. Just one day through text he said he always dreamed of a woman like me. How I treated my last bf like a king. He always wanted that. And that he would pay everything for us to be married and then go to the states make money have nice cars, etc. he said he had never done the process but knew so much when I asked what I had to do.

I was very much heartbroken after ending my last relationship and he even asked me why I have my daughter her dad's last name. And could I change it so the process will go smooth. Just little thing like that I didn't bother to question.

However, like I said from reading other topics people here are in love, they talk to each other every night, they know history of their love.

I can't say that. I admit I was probably very vulnerable and should not have gone from one relationship to another but I also know that he should not have taken advantage of my weakness. Both our faults both our mistakes

It is indeed over. I will enjoy my mommy time and working on being happy with myself.

Will I go back to DR? In a heartbeat!!! :-)

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

We are from one of the highest fraud areas in the world. Fraud in all respects . And there are many of us that following the postings on here from Nigerian and just shake our heads seeing the signs that there is something wrong. So many of the USC's are blind to this and so "in love/lust" that nothing would convince them that they have anything other than a perfect relationship. When you deal with anyone from a place that is much poorer , more repressed or just a broken country any USC should step back and really look at the why me aspect of the relationship. Half the Nigerian's that come here on a marriage based visa will NOT be with their spouses in 3 years, and most of those will have filed for someone back home before the end of 7 years. Other countries are as bad as this but almost every one will have bad apples and the internet allows these bad apples easy access to lonely love needy USC's Be glad you saw what was up before he made it here and mde you mental and financial life hell

[kayleighanddanny 7]

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Don't be ashamed or embarrassed, be proud of yourself for being strong enough to realize you made a mistake and to get out of a bad situation before it could get worse. There are so many WONDERFUL men in the DR, mine being one of them!! I really hope if you try to find love again in the DR you will know the signs to watch out for. There is a facebook support group for men and women who have been "sankied". It's called Dominican Sankies. I'm on there and so are tons of other women who have gone through the same things, and some men too! It's a good place to vent and to realize tons of others have gone through the same thing.

[Happytobe 164]

Don't be ashamed or embarrassed. My ex from many years ago, was using me as well. Fortunately for me, the Consulate was able to see the fraud and they denied him. Hopefully that does not have a negative effect on my husbands case, but I understand that it may. It is difficult, I can't say that it's not. Be thankful that he didn't take more than a couple years from you. Concentrating on being a great mom. as you said, is the best thing that you can do. You'll make it and your thread may help some one else "see the light" and that's a great thing. Everything happens for a reason, and now you can move on. Best of luck to you!!!

[ANJOS 27]

So sorry for this misfortune!! Stay strong and at least you realized his true intentions before he was here.

[Brian1967## 119]

Op Please read my link on how to report fraud to USCIS if you have not been to the interview for the green card, then write (send letter certified mail with proof of delivery to USCIS)Then make a info pass appointment or walk in if the interview is due any day, you can also walk in, I offer you my support as I was scammed also PLEASE follow up on this, I want tell of the folks here on VJ, support the person I REFUSE to believe that ALL people from a country into a "certain Group" of scammers, there are places where scamming is high Ukraine being one of them please everyone do not make blanket statements let us give the OP support and let her go the best coarse of action for her and her case, OP please read my like on how to report fraud to USCIS. And to everyone, it is kind of funny was I scammed yes, was the OP more than likely if her gut is telling her, then yes, the side part if I had to adjudicate another applications for a woman from Ukraine would I do it again...yes, I will not condem nor should any one person group people by the actions of one person...sorry for the rant

Edited September 29, 2013 by Brian1967##

[Tati618 10]

Op Please read my link on how to report fraud to USCIS if you have not been to the interview for the green card, then write (send letter certified mail with proof of delivery to USCIS)Then make a info pass appointment or walk in if the interview is due any day, you can also walk in, I offer you my support as I was scammed also PLEASE follow up on this, I want tell of the folks here on VJ, support the person I REFUSE to believe that ALL people from a country into a "certain Group" of scammers, there are places where scamming is high Ukraine being one of them please everyone do not make blanket statements let us give the OP support and let her go the best coarse of action for her and her case, OP please read my like on how to report fraud to USCIS. And to everyone, it is kind of funny was I scammed yes, was the OP more than likely if her gut is telling her, then yes, the side part if I had to adjudicate another applications for a woman from Ukraine would I do it again...yes, I will not condem nor should any one person group people by the actions of one person...sorry for the rant

I would never condem a whole country. And would definitely give any dominican a chance. But if there is a next time, I will just take a little while longer to get to know them and their past.

I thank you Brian1967, I will take a look at the link. I thankfully just started the process so the I29f hasn't even been approved/denied yet.

[Tu chikita 0]

DR is high in fraud and also prostitution. how we know? Statistics it is right up there with China and Nigeria... The numbers talk for itself.. Do not try shooting me... I am also married to a Dominican and know first hand how it work. We just have to keep our eyes open to everything going around.. Like I tell hubby.. I trust you.. NOT THE WOMEN... LMBO>....

[Aztec&Taino 144]

"please please do this favor, he can help his family a lot by being in the states, he has friends in NY that he can stay with and then pay me money for the divorce"

:-( I am already a single mom...so to add divorce and a fraudulent marriage is definitely not how I want my daughter to view me. No respect for my feelings or anything

If he is already thinking about the divorce when you are not even married yet it is clear that he doesn't have long-term plans with you in mind. From reading your other posts it does seem clear that his intentions are not authentic. Most fraud cases happen as you describe; a friend or family member of an authentic friend somehow develops "interest" in the American citizen. The citizen then petitions this person out of niceness or out of what seems like love. Trust your gut and stop the process before you let more time pass and waste more of your time and money.

Best wishes!

[QueenE 174]

We are from one of the highest fraud areas in the world. Fraud in all respects . And there are many of us that following the postings on here from Nigerian and just shake our heads seeing the signs that there is something wrong. So many of the USC's are blind to this and so "in love/lust" that nothing would convince them that they have anything other than a perfect relationship. When you deal with anyone from a place that is much poorer , more repressed or just a broken country any USC should step back and really look at the why me aspect of the relationship. Half the Nigerian's that come here on a marriage based visa will NOT be with their spouses in 3 years, and most of those will have filed for someone back home before the end of 7 years. Other countries are as bad as this but almost every one will have bad apples and the internet allows these bad apples easy access to lonely love needy USC's Be glad you saw what was up before he made it here and mde you mental and financial life hell

It's just so annoying the USC don't take responsibility or some type of label! Fraudsters wouldn't succeeded most of them time if it wasn't for people not using their brains, which thankfully OP seems to exhibit before things got even worst. There are countless resources available to the USC to show them of very obvious signs of fraud ( and yes they are always very very obvious). Op I'm glad you are starting to pay attention to the obvious signs, that so many chose to ignore before they honestly think some young man has fallen in love with them over the internet for no good reason.

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

It's just so annoying the USC don't take responsibility or some type of label! Fraudsters wouldn't succeeded most of them time if it wasn't for people not using their brains, which thankfully OP seems to exhibit before things got even worst. There are countless resources available to the USC to show them of very obvious signs of fraud ( and yes they are always very very obvious). Op I'm glad you are starting to pay attention to the obvious signs, that so many chose to ignore before they honestly think some young man has fallen in love with them over the internet for no good reason.

What is even more annoying is Nigerians that support this kind of behavior as a valid immigration path. I find it morally disgusting and wish that they would toughen up the requirements for permanent residence based on marriage and invoke lie detectors as part of the interview process.

[Jawaree 718]

I read so many instant love scenarios here, where they'd move mountains

to get someone in after eyeballing them once or twice, there are a few genuine

ones, but one constantly see thru the BS , but its not ones place to critique.

There should be a requirement that USC sit and watch the horror stories B4

signing affidavits...maybe a few would be helped

[QueenE 174]

What is even more annoying is Nigerians that support this kind of behavior as a valid immigration path. I find it morally disgusting and wish that they would toughen up the requirements for permanent residence based on marriage and invoke lie detectors as part of the interview process.

Very very true! Some nun ( Nigerian ) co signed a car for my then 22 year old brother, then a few months later invited him over to ask him if he would marry one of her relatives so she could come here ( YES A NUN!). My mother found out she asked him this and lost it! and lets just say the catholic church will not be welcoming my mother to any functions anytime soon lol.

[Predilecta10 1]

I'm sorry for the way you feel but I'm an American Citizen born in Boston and my parents are Dominicans which makes me Dominican as well,and we have to be real here Dominican is one of the largest fraud countries when it comes to finding a way to enter US it is sad but the painful truth, I myself have gotten several offers to get marry for money and obviously I have denied such offer,I once made the mistake of falling for a guy who showed me one good personality and once we got married I started noticing he was just interested in my papers and I was smart in-off to dump him before even thinking of submitting him papers ,During that moment I met my now fiance which is Dominican as well "yes you guys I have a debility for my Dominican negros" but this guy did not have interest what so ever to come to US and and was always there for me as my friend giving me feedback on working out my marriage, but I ended falling in in love with my now fiance and we were inseparable once we met in person we had to stay living together because neither of us wanted to separate , we stayed living together for almost 2 yrs happily no problems at all and never planned to reside in US ,until god open my eyes that I couldn't stay leaving in this country where i'm not safe at all ,I got robbed twice in one day different thief and to top it all we had a 8 wks miscarriage do to medical negligence.

Me and my fiance agreed that if we wanted our baby we cant raised them in this country ,so we decided to get married here in US and start making babies and being happily ever after ,but to be truthful I have been told not to bring a guy from DR because his gonna leave me once he gets to US etc,and to be honest with you those comments to me are nothing because I feel secure for what I have,I know my fiance, the way he thinks- when his lying- when his insecure of something-etc I'm just happy I have him for proving me wrong that not all Dominican guys are the same.

good luck on your decision,but keep in mind that yes mostly everyone in DR will tell you,I need to help my family etc because DR has its bad sides as well , Just ask yourself "is it worth it bringing him" or "does he love me" trust your instinct I trusted mine and it was truth my ex husband just wanted me to take him out of DR but I didn't give him the opportunity for being vivo and god always have punishment for those who play with others heart and this guy received his,he tried to enter US illegally and got arrested and deported and he will no longer have the option to enter US

[Nette_Valdi 4]

Wow as i read this i feel for u it must really suck i mean this is such a long, stressful and hectic process and to go thru it all for someone that is just using you...... Its just not right. I really hate it when people play around with others emotions its JUST NOT COOL. i don't understand how some people sleep at night SMH. Be grateful you caught up to it early though and Be strong girl he'll get his ! Karmas a B!!!