A sensitive topic/question.....

[jace5869 9]

I've seen my wife go #2 here in the Philippines and she stands/squats on the seat and uses the shower head, or bidet to constantly have a flow of water. She uses soap afterwards.

I tell her "Please do not stand on the toilet here..it is not safe.", but mostly "Do not stand on the toilet in the US...it will break, or loosen seal, or whatever..just sit". I just feel like it is not safe to stand on the seat...especially here where it is wet in the Cr most of the time. I'm debating a bidet or tabo when we get to the US this month....of course, it's my aunts house we will be living in so it's ultimately her call, I guess.

When I use here...and I've gotten use to not using TP, I poop, and then grab the tabo and use my left hand to wash clean WITH soap. I don't just wipe with my bare hand..I'm constantly flushing my butt with water and using soap. I have to admit it feels a lot better and cleaner.

My only complaint is I'm totally dumbfounded on what to do in public CR's here. They sometimes don't put the TP in the stall, but at the sinks instead, and I couldn't just wet my butt and then button up..Would feel way too uncomfortable to me. I usually try and just not go in public though. Hold til I get home..which is not uncommon, I do this in US, too....Although my weakness is bookstores...something about them just makes me want to poop.

[Crashed~N2~Me 970]

1) I am guessing you think tampo is just fine..

2) If you don't THINK that this kind of negative action is not "harming"....at what point would you draw the line that it is too much

3) This action is certainly not loving....and it is NO WAY to treat the most important person in your life

4) One of the problems in the world is.....everyone feels THEY HAVE THE RIGHT.....to do and act in whatever way they want.....with the attitude..."DONT TELL ME WHAT IS ACCEPTABLE OR NOT ACCEPTABLE BEHAVIOR"

5) I won't tolerate it.....I won't get angry......but what I will do....is show her what it feels like...I will do it as well...and maybe I will hold out LONGER than her...so she gets the point

6) You want to defend this kind of action....it's your right my friend......enjoy it....NOT ME

This is one of those "time traveler" moments which the traveler may do something which completely alters the future. On one hand - the TT could help the cave man evolve by changing ignorance to understanding or...the TT could just walk away and let evolution do it's job. (choices - choices)

I choose to help coz - I likey to help & this might be fun.

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1) Sulking is a common behavior. (be honest & reflect) How have you reacted to (past) offense or disappointment...? (both) Sulking & "fine" are subjectively qualified.

2) (if) The behavior hurts or harms another - then it's not "sulking". It's an act of aggression. It's your choice to allow another's sulking to hurt you. (let that sink in a moment)

3) When I read this...I got this image of you in my head....

Have you ever considered = Sulking is an act of self restraint & could sometimes be a demonstration of respect...?

4) Hank already answered this 1 effectively.

5) Okay...or you could...

or...my personal favorite...

& find yourself quickly hanging...

6) (if) You can't realize I'm handing you the recipe for the...

Then ...just be you....

& good luck with that.

Edited September 28, 2013 by Crashed~N2~Me

[Crashed~N2~Me 970]

Although my weakness is bookstores...something about them just makes me want to poop.

[The Nature Boy 4,224]

I've seen my wife go #2 here in the Philippines and she stands/squats on the seat and uses the shower head, or bidet to constantly have a flow of water. She uses soap afterwards.

I tell her "Please do not stand on the toilet here..it is not safe.", but mostly "Do not stand on the toilet in the US...it will break, or loosen seal, or whatever..just sit". I just feel like it is not safe to stand on the seat...especially here where it is wet in the Cr most of the time. I'm debating a bidet or tabo when we get to the US this month....of course, it's my aunts house we will be living in so it's ultimately her call, I guess.

When I use here...and I've gotten use to not using TP, I poop, and then grab the tabo and use my left hand to wash clean WITH soap. I don't just wipe with my bare hand..I'm constantly flushing my butt with water and using soap. I have to admit it feels a lot better and cleaner.

My only complaint is I'm totally dumbfounded on what to do in public CR's here. They sometimes don't put the TP in the stall, but at the sinks instead, and I couldn't just wet my butt and then button up..Would feel way too uncomfortable to me. I usually try and just not go in public though. Hold til I get home..which is not uncommon, I do this in US, too....Although my weakness is bookstores...something about them just makes me want to poop.

You watch your wife go number 2 and like to poop in book stores...Bachelor number 2 also enjoys reading, cooking.and football

LOL Sorry could not pass it up Peace

Carry TP with you in the PI..

[The Nature Boy 4,224]

Although my weakness is bookstores...something about them just makes me want to poop.

So it wasn't just me LOL

I can honestly say of all the bizarre stuff I have done, I have never intently watched my wife make poo poo

The bookstore thing..Certain places can trigger the urge Vicotiras secret always makes me want to go

[Hank_ 9,174]

Those wipes are not sewer/septic friendly... causing more and more issues all the time. Might and well use a hand towel and give that a flush...

[DavenRoxy 1,073]

Those wipes are not sewer/septic friendly... causing more and more issues all the time. Might and well use a hand towel and give that a flush...

Yup. Those things are he!! on septic systems. I am becoming more and more a fan of tabo, at least at home.

[bgamb 3]

I've seen my wife go #2 here in the Philippines and she stands/squats on the seat and uses the shower head, or bidet to constantly have a flow of water. She uses soap afterwards.

I tell her "Please do not stand on the toilet here..it is not safe.", but mostly "Do not stand on the toilet in the US...it will break, or loosen seal, or whatever..just sit". I just feel like it is not safe to stand on the seat...especially here where it is wet in the Cr most of the time. I'm debating a bidet or tabo when we get to the US this month....of course, it's my aunts house we will be living in so it's ultimately her call, I guess.

When I use here...and I've gotten use to not using TP, I poop, and then grab the tabo and use my left hand to wash clean WITH soap. I don't just wipe with my bare hand..I'm constantly flushing my butt with water and using soap. I have to admit it feels a lot better and cleaner.

My only complaint is I'm totally dumbfounded on what to do in public CR's here. They sometimes don't put the TP in the stall, but at the sinks instead, and I couldn't just wet my butt and then button up..Would feel way too uncomfortable to me. I usually try and just not go in public though. Hold til I get home..which is not uncommon, I do this in US, too....Although my weakness is bookstores...something about them just makes me want to poop.

after some of the comments and doing some research....this certainly is a bit more hygenic (since soap is involved....I was not sure at first)

But....I think someone said you have to completely remove your pants and hang them.....long cumbersome process....how to do it n public cr?

Squatting on the toilet seat?? wow....interesting sight.....

the filipinos must have powerful thigh muscles

I dont think I could do it...(switch from TP)

I dont ever want to have to explain this process to any of my american friends or family (should my wife continue to use tabo)

The initial reaction is......kinda shocking...even for me

Although my weakness is bookstores...something about them just makes me want to poop.

haha...hilarious....I did not get the bookstore thing either

[bgamb 3]

This is one of those "time traveler" moments which the traveler may do something which completely alters the future. On one hand - the TT could help the cave man evolve by changing ignorance to understanding or...the TT could just walk away and let evolution do it's job. (choices - choices)

I choose to help coz - I likey to help & this might be fun.

---------------------------------------------------------------------------------

1) Sulking is a common behavior. (be honest & reflect) How have you reacted to (past) offense or disappointment...? (both) Sulking & "fine" are subjectively qualified.

2) (if) The behavior hurts or harms another - then it's not "sulking". It's an act of aggression. It's your choice to allow another's sulking to hurt you. (let that sink in a moment)

3) When I read this...I got this image of you in my head....

Have you ever considered = Sulking is an act of self restraint & could sometimes be a demonstration of respect...?

4) Hank already answered this 1 effectively.

5) Okay...or you could...

or...my personal favorite...

& find yourself quickly hanging...

6) (if) You can't realize I'm handing you the recipe for the...

Then ...just be you....

& good luck with that.

The baby pic should be for the one sulking and pouting and making her husband pay for some minor offense...haha

2) (if) The behavior hurts or harms another - then it's not "sulking". It's an act of aggression. It's your choice to allow another's sulking to hurt you. (let that sink in a moment)

It sunk in...and its the dumbest thing u have said thus far

if she starts throwing knives...but i dodge them (thus I dont let them hurt me)----is this FINALLY considered aggression? By your standards...NO...

Where did you learn anything about loving relationships..? How can you say that a wife....giving her husband the silent treatment for a day or 2 is healthy?..or okay?

The profound answer is...IT IS NOT

It is not the way mature people handle issues in a marriage

ITS THE WAY A 5 YEAR OLD HANDLES A PROBLEM......

I am amazed that you try to justify this...I would love to sit down and pick your brain as to why u feel this way

Maybe your wife talks way too much? and when she pulls the tampo punishment thing on you...you finally find relief to have silence? or it gives you the excuse to go out with the guys?

I am guessing here......I just dont get it

But if u like it....more power to ya fella..........i an not going to insult u if it works for u

If my girl does it with any regularity.....I will do it in return ...and I will double the time she took

Knowing my woman...she is NOT going to like it....not one bit

And thus she will learn how unpleasant it is,,,,,to be on the receiving end of tampo

Best of luck to you

[altonbebe 48]

I wanted to chime in on this.

1) baby wipes are not flushable even when the cartons indicates they are. If your using a septic tank system, call your local sanitation company and confirm this. They (baby wipes) DO NOT break down like toilet paper. They are causing major damage and expenses to city sewers and sanitation departments.

http://expertspages.com/2012/12/disposable-wipes-damage-municipal-sewers-home-septic-systems/

http://consumerist.com/2013/08/06/15-ton-fatberg-lodged-in-sewer-system-is-disgusting-reminder-not-to-flush-baby-wipes/

http://www.buffalonews.com/news-wire-services/flushable-wipes-clog-damage-aging-sewer-systems-utilities-say-20130908

http://www.sfgate.com/news/article/Flushable-wipes-clogging-sewage-systems-3231233.php

2) I have to hand it to the Japanese. If you have ever flown through the airport in Tokyo. Man, do they have nice stand up urinals and toilets.

Their toilets AND stand up wall urinals have built in bidets with variable temp AND pressure on water. Man, talk about nice when your of fire from diarrhea.

3) Used toilet paper in waste baskets is a NO NO NO. It is unsightly, unnecessary, and extremely unsanitary. yes, even in 3rd world countries it is safe to flush it down the toilet.

[DavenRoxy 1,073]

3) Used toilet paper in waste baskets is a NO NO NO. It is unsightly, unnecessary, and extremely unsanitary. yes, even in 3rd world countries it is safe to flush it down the toilet.

I agree with your assessment, but used TP in a Philippine trash can is the NORM, not the exception.

And Korea has great toilets, too. Warm seats, warm water, warm air to blow dry after that fresh wash. It's a shame they cost around $300 here in the USA.

[Crashed~N2~Me 970]

1) The baby pic should be for the one sulking and pouting and making her husband pay for some minor offense...haha

2) (if) The behavior hurts or harms another - then it's not "sulking". It's an act of aggression. It's your choice to allow another's sulking to hurt you. (let that sink in a moment)

It sunk in...and its the dumbest thing u have said thus far

3) if she starts throwing knives...but i dodge them (thus I dont let them hurt me)----is this FINALLY considered aggression? By your standards...NO...

4) It is not the way mature people handle issues in a marriage

5) when she pulls the tampo punishment thing on you...you finally find relief to have silence? or it gives you the excuse to go out with the guys?

6) If my girl does it with any regularity.....I will do it in return ...and I will double the time she took

Knowing my woman...she is NOT going to like it....not one bit

And thus she will learn how unpleasant it is,,,,,to be on the receiving end of tampo

Best of luck to you

Just finished reading & I'm smh = you prefer to be micro managed. Well...I shouldn't be surprised - you started a thread seeking "potty training" advice. Perhaps your next thread could be a thought provoker like = "Urination - Standing for gravity assist or sitting to go hands free".. or maybe a mind bender = "how to remove a sticky booger".

Okay...b4 response....

Clarification - The "time traveler" reference = Been there done that. Duh. "Tampo" (aka) Sulking - has been a VJ discussion many times. & As adults - I am sure every human has either sulked or been exposed to sulking at various times throughout life.

Now to your points....

1) You are in denial. The way I read you = You cry & cry when you don't get your way. Waaaaa. Be mature! Waaaaaa. It hurts me! Waaaaaa. You are punishing me!....waaaaa. waaaaaa. waaaaaa.

2) Do some research = Codependent relationships. Specifically seek out articles discussing unhealthy codependency. Get back & tell me how "dumb" my statement is after you've done some reading. Frankly - your posts reveal you have codependency issues.

3) (Please do not twist my words or embellish) "throwing Knives" is not Sulking. That's Domestic Violence. Please make yourself clear. Are we discussing domestic violence or sulking...? You seriously experience "knife throwing"? That ain't sulking dude. That's Norman Bates - Psycho.

4) Communication is best = No brainer. (but) You're mistake = You try to dictate when another communicates. Some people need a "cool down" phase. Some prefer to talk it out immediately. What gives you the right to define & dictate "maturity" & an individuals right to process thought & emotion at their own pace? You don't see your hypocrisy? = You cry foul at one & yet you want to impose your POV on another.

Now...recognizing this next statement is important for your self esteem, recovery from unhealthy codependence & eventual freedom = When she is sulking & giving you the "silent treatment" - You are not patient. You feel victimized. You want immediate gratification coz you are afraid of failure & out of control. You in control makes you feel safe.

2 frank & serious questions - Were you physically / verbally abused as a child? Do you fear a conflict might or will lead to divorce? (Those questions are not sarcastic)

5)

a) My wife is my very best friend ever. Seriously. We do almost everything together. Our marriage = I've never been happier my entire life.

b) Why do you think sulking is punishment? Please provide 2-3 ways sulking hurts you.

I don't view the "silent treatment" as "punishment". I view it - my wife taking the time she needs to gather her thoughts. I am a "talk it out immediately"...my wife is a "think before you speak". We have learned how to meet in the middle = I give my wife adequate space & time for her to think through the issue & my wife tries to not leave me hanging on too long waiting to talk it out and move on. &...(if) I really need to get it off my chest - I go ahead & express myself & then...I shut up. When my wife is ready to present her POV verbally. She does.

6) IMO - you need to throw away the score card. What a little Napoleon you are. Seriously? I hear your waaaaa. waaaaa. waaaaa. in my head again. I think you need a big brother around so he can frog your shoulder every time you start playing ####### for tat. SMH.

BTW - I do need to be accountable = I should not have stated "THE antidote". I should have phrased it - "An antidote". It is arrogant of me to project my reality as a "be all" for every couple. I apologize.

Oh..b4 I go ..(for your next thread of enlightenment)...Peyton Manning uses his "flick a sticky booger" technique...check it out...

Edited September 29, 2013 by Crashed~N2~Me

[bgamb 3]

Just finished reading & I'm smh = you prefer to be micro managed. Well...I shouldn't be surprised - you started a thread seeking "potty training" advice. Perhaps your next thread could be a thought provoker like = "Urination - Standing for gravity assist or sitting to go hands free".. or maybe a mind bender = "how to remove a sticky booger".

Okay...b4 response....

Clarification - The "time traveler" reference = Been there done that. Duh. "Tampo" (aka) Sulking - has been a VJ discussion many times. & As adults - I am sure every human has either sulked or been exposed to sulking at various times throughout life.

Now to your points....

1) You are in denial. The way I read you = You cry & cry when you don't get your way. Waaaaa. Be mature! Waaaaaa. It hurts me! Waaaaaa. You are punishing me!....waaaaa. waaaaaa. waaaaaa.

2) Do some research = Codependent relationships. Specifically seek out articles discussing unhealthy codependency. Get back & tell me how "dumb" my statement is after you've done some reading. Frankly - your posts reveal you have codependency issues.

3) (Please do not twist my words or embellish) "throwing Knives" is not Sulking. That's Domestic Violence. Please make yourself clear. Are we discussing domestic violence or sulking...? You seriously experience "knife throwing"? That ain't sulking dude. That's Norman Bates - Psycho.

4) Communication is best = No brainer. (but) You're mistake = You try to dictate when another communicates. Some people need a "cool down" phase. Some prefer to talk it out immediately. What gives you the right to define & dictate "maturity" & an individuals right to process thought & emotion at their own pace? You don't see your hypocrisy? = You cry foul at one & yet you want to impose your POV on another.

Now...recognizing this next statement is important for your self esteem, recovery from unhealthy codependence & eventual freedom = When she is sulking & giving you the "silent treatment" - You are not patient. You feel victimized. You want immediate gratification coz you are afraid of failure & out of control. You in control makes you feel safe.

2 frank & serious questions - Were you physically / verbally abused as a child? Do you fear a conflict might or will lead to divorce? (Those questions are not sarcastic)

5)

a) My wife is my very best friend ever. Seriously. We do almost everything together. Our marriage = I've never been happier my entire life.

b) Why do you think sulking is punishment? Please provide 2-3 ways sulking hurts you.

I don't view the "silent treatment" as "punishment". I view it - my wife taking the time she needs to gather her thoughts. I am a "talk it out immediately"...my wife is a "think before you speak". We have learned how to meet in the middle = I give my wife adequate space & time for her to think through the issue & my wife tries to not leave me hanging on too long waiting to talk it out and move on. &...(if) I really need to get it off my chest - I go ahead & express myself & then...I shut up. When my wife is ready to present her POV verbally. She does.

6) IMO - you need to throw away the score card. What a little Napoleon you are. Seriously? I hear your waaaaa. waaaaa. waaaaa. in my head again. I think you need a big brother around so he can frog your shoulder every time you start playing ####### for tat. SMH.

BTW - I do need to be accountable = I should not have stated "THE antidote". I should have phrased it - "An antidote". It is arrogant of me to project my reality as a "be all" for every couple. I apologize.

Oh..b4 I go ..(for your next thread of enlightenment)...Peyton Manning uses his "flick a sticky booger" technique...check it out...

I cannot read your diatribe...its too boring...haha

I take back my comment previously....you're a putz....

Your warped reasoning doesn't bother me one iota....

I am THRILLED...my baby will be here in about a week

[Crashed~N2~Me 970]

Well...then like I said...

Then ...just be you....

& good luck with that.

I cannot read your diatribe...its too boring...haha

I take back my comment previously....you're a putz....

Your warped reasoning doesn't bother me one iota....

You asked...I answered. it's pretty obvious which of us is really the "putz" with warped thinking = You.

[The Nature Boy 4,224]

I wanted to chime in on this.

1) baby wipes are not flushable even when the cartons indicates they are. If your using a septic tank system, call your local sanitation company and confirm this. They (baby wipes) DO NOT break down like toilet paper. They are causing major damage and expenses to city sewers and sanitation departments.

http://expertspages.com/2012/12/disposable-wipes-damage-municipal-sewers-home-septic-systems/

http://consumerist.com/2013/08/06/15-ton-fatberg-lodged-in-sewer-system-is-disgusting-reminder-not-to-flush-baby-wipes/

http://www.buffalonews.com/news-wire-services/flushable-wipes-clog-damage-aging-sewer-systems-utilities-say-20130908

http://www.sfgate.com/news/article/Flushable-wipes-clogging-sewage-systems-3231233.php

2) I have to hand it to the Japanese. If you have ever flown through the airport in Tokyo. Man, do they have nice stand up urinals and toilets.

Their toilets AND stand up wall urinals have built in bidets with variable temp AND pressure on water. Man, talk about nice when your of fire from diarrhea.

3) Used toilet paper in waste baskets is a NO NO NO. It is unsightly, unnecessary, and extremely unsanitary. yes, even in 3rd world countries it is safe to flush it down the toilet.

Toilets in the KAL in Seoul are the same way. More buttons than a 747