Need to break it off, but how?

[jetset55 0]

Just a quick post.

This forum is a great resource, THANKS for those who make it happen.

My girlfriend has been in the US without a visa for 3 years, she is controlling and borderline violent, and combined with my good-heartedness, I was never able to end the relationship until now. She is finally back in her home country, the petition for the K1 visa is approved and the interview is on the 18th.

I need to stop the process, but would like some advice:

Is there a way the process could simply be put on hold to buy time? I am afraid she may get violent if I simply cancel, maybe I could tell her it was only on hold and wait it out.

If I do cancel the petition, is there a way to do this so with prejudice, in case of any threats to my person? She has been known to do this, even though she always apologizes later...

Thanks for the help and God bless.

Jetset55

[heishe 2]

Is she likely to be able to get back into the country to come find you?

[joeyjoey 1]

jetset55,

Breaking it off is the easy part! To kill the Visa petition requires some effort from you.

Contact the Embassy in Bolivia. I would call and talk to a person (remember their name) and also, you need to follow up with a letter stating that you want "to abandon the petition without predjudice". Make certain to list both your names and the number assigned at NVC. Date the letter and sign it in front of a Notary. Send that to your Consulate ASAP via USPS, FedEx, DHL, UPS so that you can track it. When it arrives, call the Embassy and talk to the person you spoke with the first time. HURRY!

Best of luck to you

JoeyJoey

[edsperfect 25]

Just a quick post.

This forum is a great resource, THANKS for those who make it happen.

My girlfriend has been in the US without a visa for 3 years, she is controlling and borderline violent, and combined with my good-heartedness, I was never able to end the relationship until now. She is finally back in her home country, the petition for the K1 visa is approved and the interview is on the 18th.

I need to stop the process, but would like some advice:

Is there a way the process could simply be put on hold to buy time? I am afraid she may get violent if I simply cancel, maybe I could tell her it was only on hold and wait it out.

If I do cancel the petition, is there a way to do this so with prejudice, in case of any threats to my person? She has been known to do this, even though she always apologizes later...

Thanks for the help and God bless.

Jetset55

It sees unusual thatsomeone could be in this country without a visa and illegally for three years and get a K1 approval but then again who knows with immigrations.

Just write them and cancel the appointment and visa appliction. Then hire a bodyguard

[heishe 2]

Unless they're lying her previous illegal stay on the paperwork, she'll have to file for a waiver, won't she?

[Cindy&Kev 0]

It sees unusual thatsomeone could be in this country without a visa and illegally for three years and get a K1 approval but then again who knows with immigrations.

She did not have the K1 approved but the I-129F. The K1 will be approved or not at the interview. For what I know, because of her illegally stay she would have the visa denied and be able to file the I-601 waiver.

[heishe 2]

Really though, don't lie to her. Just man up and do what you gotta do.

[Ken_Maria 0]

Just a quick post.

This forum is a great resource, THANKS for those who make it happen.

My girlfriend has been in the US without a visa for 3 years, she is controlling and borderline violent, and combined with my good-heartedness, I was never able to end the relationship until now. She is finally back in her home country, the petition for the K1 visa is approved and the interview is on the 18th.

I need to stop the process, but would like some advice:

Is there a way the process could simply be put on hold to buy time? I am afraid she may get violent if I simply cancel, maybe I could tell her it was only on hold and wait it out.

If I do cancel the petition, is there a way to do this so with prejudice, in case of any threats to my person? She has been known to do this, even though she always apologizes later...

Thanks for the help and God bless.

Jetset55

Are you sure your fiancee is not my X-wife. Break it off now and be up front honest. If she has you doubting urself now and you are this afraid of her, it will only get worse. Cancel the petition and if she makes threats towards you, I would let teh embassy know that too. WOW! Payato

[mrc 0]

Can you take her or will she put you down?

Honestly, if she threatens you and can't get back into country, so what? If you don't want to be involved in the relationship then let her know.

[jetset55 0]

Thanks for the posts.

You are all right, just need to get it done.

She is simply "emotional", and I had never experienced anything like this in the past (relationships).

One minute she's screaming and wants to cut your **** off, and the next minute she is crying and begging you not to leave her.

If the cutting part that worries me more, I simply want to let her down easy but don't see any other way than to just DO IT.

If she ever came here and tried anything I am sure I could "take her", but why involve myself in that conflict in the first place. That is why I thought of asking to have the visa denied, would make it harder for her to come back to the US.

Well, have some searching and letter writing to do, thanks for all and for the understanding, this is indeed a GREAT community.

JetSet55

[nathmc31 0]

Thanks for the posts.

You are all right, just need to get it done.

She is simply "emotional", and I had never experienced anything like this in the past (relationships).

One minute she's screaming and wants to cut your **** off, and the next minute she is crying and begging you not to leave her.

If the cutting part that worries me more, I simply want to let her down easy but don't see any other way than to just DO IT.

If she ever came here and tried anything I am sure I could "take her", but why involve myself in that conflict in the first place. That is why I thought of asking to have the visa denied, would make it harder for her to come back to the US.

Well, have some searching and letter writing to do, thanks for all and for the understanding, this is indeed a GREAT community.

JetSet55

Mate there is 1,000,000,000,000 fish in the sea that wont bring physical harm to you. Tell the loonatic that she is history and to enjoy here life in Bolivia. lol

You sound like a nice guy, dont waist your time on a waist of time, ok.

If she returned to the US to harm you CALL THE COPS. She will be shipped back to crappsville in no time.

Good luck buddy.

[kitkat1 5]

It sees unusual thatsomeone could be in this country without a visa and illegally for three years and get a K1 approval but then again who knows with immigrations.

She did not have the K1 approved but the I-129F. The K1 will be approved or not at the interview. For what I know, because of her illegally stay she would have the visa denied and be able to file the I-601 waiver.

This is correct. I'm not one for lying, but could you tell her that you've just learned that due to her previous overstay, her visa will be denied? Depending on the country, approval of the 601 waiver is in no way a sure thing, so it's not a total lie . . .

[sarah and hicham 3]

You might just want to go ahead and fake your own death.

Juuuust kidding.

Good luck to you,

Sarah

[Jenn! 918]

Is the only reason she went back to Bolivia because of your K1 petition?

[jetset55 0]

It sees unusual thatsomeone could be in this country without a visa and illegally for three years and get a K1 approval but then again who knows with immigrations.

She did not have the K1 approved but the I-129F. The K1 will be approved or not at the interview. For what I know, because of her illegally stay she would have the visa denied and be able to file the I-601 waiver.

This is correct. I'm not one for lying, but could you tell her that you've just learned that due to her previous overstay, her visa will be denied? Depending on the country, approval of the 601 waiver is in no way a sure thing, so it's not a total lie . . .

KitKat1, that is EXACTLY what I am looking for. Something plausible to explain why she wouldn't get the visa but not make me the bad guy. I even thought of calling the embassy and asking that they deny her, but then I thought they would think I'm a total idiot, and I don't want a denial to be on her record either.

You might just want to go ahead and fake your own death.

Juuuust kidding.

Good luck to you,

Sarah

Some days I wished I could have...

Is the only reason she went back to Bolivia because of your K1 petition?

Yes, she is a person that cannot accept the truth and let go. This was the only civil way that she would leave.