For those who met online/telephone

[babybunny 2]

I knew I loved my Javed before we met. thats because, I am a hopeless romantic he said something to me that told me " he is the one". it was not like instant love.

[KEN's ROSE 0]

Remember it LUST at first. You cannot love someone if you all you did was chat on Yahoo or talked to on the phone. Though that lust can be overshadowed by love once you been with them for a while!

Think of it this way, You do care for and have feeling for that far-away person but you cannot learn your trust until you are together. Then there are somethings a that may block love from intensifying, e.g: he may bath once a week, she will never put on a dress, or he works 18hrs a day, and she spends 90% of time to friends 10% to me. Its those type of compatiability things that amounts to love.

[Angel7422 0]

My answer is : YES

When I first met my now husband I wasn't looking for a relationship only friendship, he said he knew that I was meant to be his wife, but with me it took a little more time. But in the end I think I knew from the beginning but I didnt want to admit it.

[balmytigeress 0]

We met online at islamic matrimony site. First you week out the people who are just there on a lark. No playing, it was obvious what we were looking for. That makes it easy at first, it's all logical and maybe a little cold, but you can make certain judgments. His religious belief helped convince me he was serious and did not have bad motives (fraudulent ones). And I fell. Resisted a bit at first. But then we went thru the "I love you"s.

By the time it was time to meet I couldn't pretend I was holding out to see what would happen when we met face to face. I enjoy thinking back on the first days we spent together, that ultra blissfulness.

I was married once before. Trust me, it really was abnormal between me and that first guy. After I knew I had his interest I think I lost mine. The Pity Card was in play, also the Save Him From Loneliness card. Not the type of guy most girls are attracted to, and I wasn't one to get much male attention so I took what I could get. I hear each relationship is different...but this one I am in now really IS different from the first one. If something happened to this one it would...deeply effect me. It would feel like...I don't want to think about that. I say 'I love you' and I mean it, there is feeling behind it. I could go on and on about how this is different. This runs deep. It's not just deeper in contrast to the first husband, which literally was a surface relationship and if I had a clue at the time, I would have stopped seeing him after I didn't really care one way or another. I didn't ask myself if I was happy. I think I was with him to just not be alone. I could have been almost anyone and as long as she gave my ex attention, he would have fallen. This one, he gave me chances to change my mind and I really do think he would have been just fine, so I didn't feel pressure to stay because "poor poor lonely man." I can contrast the two relationships against each other in this way. But not in the easy "this love is so much stronger" way. The first one I sort of tacked onto the edge of my life. This one I make room for and I want to integrate with the rest of my life concept. With this one, I am willing to go through the ups and downs of life.

Being introduced in real life, and then meeting and courting face to face. There is no guarantee that it is love, real love. So that is why I think it is possible to love someone before you meet them face to face. People make mistakes in relationships no matter how or where they start. You can't go by one bad experience, or one unfortunate story.

BT

[Dan J 277]

Before Dan's visit, some of my friends had an opinion about my relationship with Dan, they said it wasn't a real relationship because we hadn't met each other in real life, in flesh. At some point it kind of broke me down. They just don't understand that sometimes to have a relationship with someone is not always about holding hands or sloppy kisses. Sure they perk up a relationship but can't maintain it without good communication. This world is so random sometimes, so are the people. I don't care about what people think about our relationship anymore because those who said negative things about it finally ended up in a bad relationship because they only worked on physical attraction instead of a good communication.

[Saddle Bronc 124]

Yes, you can.

[aya*abouelnasr 0]

I had known several people who had met their husbands or wives online, and my opinion was NO WAY. I thought there was no way you could actually fall in love with someone without having ever met them in real life.

Then one day somene popped into my instant message and we started talking. Getting to know someone online can be the best way to get to know them. You spend more time really talking and getting to know one anothers likes and dislikes. You get to know the person behind the face on the web cam. How many times do we really get to know the person we are interested in without our surrounding influencing our actions and reactions? Online you don't have the distractions of everyday life intruding, it is just you and him and the web cam and computer.

Of course you reserve final judgment for the real life meeting.

I fell in love with my husband online. I knew the type of person he was, what would make him angry, what made him laugh, what made him happy.

When I met him face to face, I watched him for days. I watched his interactions with friends and family. I watched how he conducted himself in public and in private. I paid close attention to how he treated me in different situations. On the day that he asked me to marry him, I had absolutely no doubts about our feelings for each other. I married him knowing that it could be a long long time before we would be together again.

So, yeah, I believe you can fall in love with someone you meet online. It may not be for everyone, but that is their choice. As long as it worked for me, I am content.

[homesick_american 1]

I met my wife in person.

Somehow, I find it difficult to imagine falling in love without an actual "in person" relationship. Otherwise, You would only get 50% of the picture, or less.

Can you have a great deal of affection for that person? Sure.

Love? No way.

I agree. I knew my husband from the internet originally, but we did not actually fall in love until we met in person. We met in person as friends, nothing more.

[lirachadsbaby 0]

Yes. Me and my fiance are the living proof. Seein each other would just make you love each other more and more.

[silviake 0]

YES !!!

But I do have to say that I have always been real skeptical about when I heard someone fell in love online untill it happend to myself !

[Cassandra+Yuibi 0]

Yes. Yuibi and I loved eachother very much before meeting face to face.

The irony of it is that I was very set against a relationship with someone online until I met him- and would have previously said it was impossible to love someone you met online.

[Jason-Sasha 1]

No way! You might think you love them, but there's so much more to learn once you've met. so many other layers. We met in person and I'm very grateful for this...

[Marilyn. 340]

Yes. Yuibi and I loved eachother very much before meeting face to face.

The irony of it is that I was very set against a relationship with someone online until I met him- and would have previously said it was impossible to love someone you met online.

same here

part of me knew I loved him, but I knew I had to meet him first before I let myself fall completely in love with him which I did the minute I saw his back leaning against that pole in the airport I guess I just needed to know that he was in fact a real person....

Edited August 21, 2007 by MarilynP

[Marilyn. 340]

it is funny that a lot of the people who say love over the internet isn't possible, met their SO's in person... .... so how would they now? ...lol

[~*Maria*~ 1]

YES. I met my husband online. Soon as i met him in person i just knew we were meant for each other and he felt the same way about me. We'd talked online for 5 years got to know each other very well, each other's likes and dislikes. He still finds it hard to understand my accent even though i have softened it alot. Now he's down to 30 huh's per day from 100

I wouldnt trade him for a scotsman thats for sure!!