withdraw petition

[clairegie 265]

Being a Filipina and knowing what kind of reputation we had regarding visas, I made it my absolute rule not to accept anything from my fiance, except for the normal birthday or anniversary gifts. I wanted to really show him I am not like "those girls" that he heard about. This frustrates him until now because he wants to give me lots of things. They are right, her asking for monthly food allowance and all is a major red flag. Unless the guy forced himself into her home and stole her phone and he hacked her facebook, you should be worried why they still have contact.

Edited September 4, 2013 by iammrsregi

[David & Diana R 1,005]

Being a Filipina and knowing what kind of reputation we had regarding visa's, I made it my absolute rule not to accept anything from my fiance, except for the normal birthday or anniversary gifts. I wanted to really show him I am not like "those girls" that he heard about. This frustrates him until now because he wants to give me lots of things. They are right, her asking for monthly food allowance and all is a major red flag. Unless the guy forced himself into her home and stole her phone and he hacked her facebook, you should be worried why they still have contact.

iammrsregi,

I want to make one thing perfectly clear. I was not singling out Filipina's as far as lies go. I found a woman just like you that never asked for money and was always refused to allow me to send her more money than was absoultely necessary. I have to say that Filipina's are probably 95% or more legitimate. Unfortunately, there are a few bad apples that make everytone look bad. I hope I did not insult you as a Filipina, if I did I apologize.

God Bless

Aloha Ke Akua

[clairegie 265]

iammrsregi,

I want to make one thing perfectly clear. I was not singling out Filipina's as far as lies go. I found a woman just like you that never asked for money and was always refused to allow me to send her more money than was absoultely necessary. I have to say that Filipina's are probably 95% or more legitimate. Unfortunately, there are a few bad apples that make everytone look bad. I hope I did not insult you as a Filipina, if I did I apologize.

God Bless

Aloha Ke Akua

Oh, no! not at all hun I wasn't saying it in response to your post. You didn't say anything insulting at all! In fact, I agree with everything you said. It's just that after reading what happened to this guy, I remembered how disappointed I was that there are people from my country who take advantage of others just to have money.

[chaingang 7]

dude , a simple advice , Don't waste your time now , i know its painful but it would be more painful if she is here in US and than cheat on you , u better be Thankful to God , he has shown you the true colors , if he has control on everything that simply means she is back with that guy and onething more , if you can;t call her , She can call you , when there is a will there is a way , Guess what bro She is cheating on you , you have to accept it ,

Regards to with draw the application , if it is in USCIS you need to write them written , if it is in NVC , write a letter to them or if it is in embassy do the same thing .

When trust is lost everything is lost ,

[madtownguy 164]

It's just the drama of a relationship man, if you don't want to play the game stay out of the kitchen. I feel for you though it can catch some of guard. I had a similar situation happen once, with out the visa part. Fortunately for me the one ex she was seeing got trumped by the 3 ex's I was seeing. She, to this day, torments over her decision because unlike her I didn't use drama to push a relationship forward, I could have been a child and thrown back in her face that I was already cheating on her but then I would have already lost the game. Keep your head up, certainly you kind find a faithful girl who wants to start her life with you and not bring baggage from another relationship. Philippines is a great place to meet a really great person, but it's also a place you can meet a really bad person. I hope you learn from this and get stronger, it is the only good thing that can come from it.

[Girl from Celebes 588]

Sending someone money for food is not the norm. How did she support herself before you met, did she not eat? Never at any point before my husband arrived here did I send my him money, nor did he send me money.

I am absolutely agree with you. I never took money from my fiance though he wanted to send me some. I told him, I am working now and have a good paycheck and send me money it doesn't show how much he loves me. All I want is his love, not his money. But I guess, to each their own. Some guys think," oh I have to send her money because it shows how much I love her". It doesn't apply to me. Money can't buy " a true love".

To OP: Better to stay away from the problem now before it getting worse in the future. Good luck for finding "your true love".

[Khan.usman 1]

I met her in Sept 2012 and filed for her in Feb . She came and told me she was pregnant from an old boyfriend . Cheated on me which we worked out our problems . So I thought , so I went ahead with the petition . Then this last month things went downhill quickly . The closer we got to the interview stage she got cold feet . If she was going to scam me why not take my $480 for the interview fees ? Take the $500 for the medical ?

are you serious bro. she got pregnant and cheated on you. And you worked it out.!?!?

STOOOP it right now.

You can never turn a H*e into a house wife.

Get out and withdraw.

You are too good for her if she could not wait for you.

HAve faith and everything happens for a reason.

[Robb&Ann 101]

I just found out my fiancee is now married in the Philippines . How do i cancel and ####### do i say ??? It gets worse I filed a K2 for a baby which name was a lie

omg.. just a few months ago, i read some of ur posts and now.. ughh.. stay strong and soon u will be able to find the one and only for u.

[Loveforever143 13]

A True relationship needs 100% honesty. & when it breaks so are you. From my point of view you should be jumping out of happy to find out such thing about her before its too much late. and try to say (A)hug Thanks to that boy to save your life from this girl. I would give credit to God and second to that guy to saving your life.

God Bless you and your family

[Shenzhen 34]

Hi sorry to hear about this, you will have to send 3 withdraw letters 1 to the NVC, USCIS and US Embassy in Manila. Include your full name address and birth date and case number. Include her full name birthdate and address. State the reason for withdrawing your petition keep it brief. Make copies of each letter that you send to all of them. Save them, send USCIS and NVC certified mail return reciept. Keep everything. I don't think you will need your social securtiy number included just the WAC#.

[julitathomas0810 30]

At this point I do not even know if I want to meet another woman from the Philippines . This would be my second time had 1 CR1 and the I129F ? What if I was to meet the right one and this comes back to ruin everything . I don't know if i could go through it again .

[TBoneTX 45,090]

Just get things withdrawn, close the chapter, and look ahead and not back.

[NicholasNissel 2]

aww man im so sorry to hear that and its so bad to hear another filipina ruining someones life im a filipina but so honest and loyal to my fiance as i love him so much and my world evolves around him and im he feels the same way too.wish this was the same as yours.

im getting a feeling she just wanted her way out of the philippines but why the hell would she give you a false name of a baby for applying a k2.But thats just my views base on what you stated here.But it wout be best to talk o her ask the reasons why and whats the truth but it wouldnt be nice if its true and youd still want her cause the fact that she has been and lying to you since the beginning.she might not be marrried but in the philippines some people call their partner a wife and husband if they have been living in toogether or have kids together even not married.

Feel better and be strong.so sad to hear your story.

[julitathomas0810 30]

aww man im so sorry to hear that and its so bad to hear another filipina ruining someones life im a filipina but so honest and loyal to my fiance as i love him so much and my world evolves around him and im he feels the same way too.wish this was the same as yours.

im getting a feeling she just wanted her way out of the philippines but why the hell would she give you a false name of a baby for applying a k2.But thats just my views base on what you stated here.But it wout be best to talk o her ask the reasons why and whats the truth but it wouldnt be nice if its true and youd still want her cause the fact that she has been and lying to you since the beginning.she might not be marrried but in the philippines some people call their partner a wife and husband if they have been living in toogether or have kids together even not married.

Feel better and be strong.so sad to hear your story.

Everything is so messed up now . I really feel that the guy stole her phone . he claimed she was there , but she was always out or he was . Then he said she is here now but is quiet . So i said just have her give me any personal things only she would know . Like our room number we stayed in or anything for that matter and it was never said . He claims she is his wife and has been for a year at least . That gets past the USCiS NVC or Embassy ? I guess if they did not do a back round check on her maybe . That would mean she was out for my money , but ignores my many pleas for us to set the interview . Thus paying nearly $500 for the 2 fees . Then the nearly $500 for the medical . Other then that I gave her nothing barely $50 maybe every 2 months . Also just last week this guy sent me messages on my facebook telling me I can have her I do not want her .With no talk about her being his wife ! I contacted someone on her facebook and she called her and claims she spoke to her . She said to me she said this " I am with my BF " what happened to the Husband ? Now I have had her facebook account passwords and I checked it out once and she had my name blocked to a few people and that person I contacted was one of them . I do not know if that person has ties to the BF/Husband or not . Also while this guy has been contacting me non stop tonight . He sends me a message " OK babe I will be right home " and then says oops wrong txt sorry . They are visyan wouldn't it be in Visyan language ? Nothing seems to fit at all . If this is all just BS him trying to break us up or keeping his baby from coming here . I would hear from her at some point . I don't think this is me trying to grasp a hold of her still . It really makes no sense at all . Oh and the baby's name . She told me Isabel the guy says Cybell . Said Cybell Pernito Domus . Now my fiancee middle name is pernito , but don't they use the mothers maiden name for the middle name . Pernito being her moms maiden name . Tambis is my ex fiancee middle name , so would it be Cybell Tambis Domus ? OK if they are not married I thought the father name would not appear on the birth certificate nor his last name for the child .

What does make sense to me is that this is way way way too much for me now . BS or not I can not do this anymore . A year of just stress of waiting for Vermont then the transfer . Then she want to delay the visa interview . I just had enough and I am going to withdraw it this week .

[Vic20r 14]

I'm sorry but i have been reading your posts and there was a time u were asking about some Visayan translation..then comes your fiancee being pregnant with other guy..I had this feeling that your relationship was not right and may end up to break up or divorce in the future..