withdraw petition

[juja 0]

That is so terrible! Im so sorry to hear that.. Rich and Wen is right you have to talk on one of her family member to know the truth..because some people just wanted to ruin the relationship of others because they are envious. And also you can ask her to show her Certificate of No Marriage.Good Luck.

[julitathomas0810 30]

That is so terrible! Im so sorry to hear that.. Rich and Wen is right you have to talk on one of her family member to know the truth..because some people just wanted to ruin the relationship of others because they are envious. And also you can ask her to show her Certificate of No Marriage.Good Luck.

All i have is a friends FB and I do not know if i can trust them or not . I took myself off her fb so i cant message any family members . I will just have to wait and see if she contacts me somehow . I told him to tell her to miss call me and I will speak to her directly to hear it from her . His reply I am out of load can not miss call . When I know it does not cost to miss call if i do not pick up . His facebook has all old pictures and trust me if he had new ones he would want me to see them . Sent me texts in visyan saying I can have her and that all he wants is his daughter . It just does not add up . What do i care if the petition sits for another month I am not going anywhere . I can just cancel later .

[Darnell 8,478]

I just found out my fiancee is now married in the Philippines . How do i cancel and ####### do i say ??? It gets worse I filed a K2 for a baby which name was a lie

I suggest you email the IV unit, over at

http://manila.usembassy.gov/wwwh3023/contact-us.html

http://manila.usembassy.gov/wwwh3023/contact-us.html

http://manila.usembassy.gov/wwwh3023/contact-us.html

Put the biodata in on you and her, the MNL casefile number, and request a withdrawal of petition.

Remember, she has to present your I-134 at the interview, so if you never sent that, she can't come to the USA [that's a stop-gap measure].

[julitathomas0810 30]

I suggest you email the IV unit, over at

http://manila.usembassy.gov/wwwh3023/contact-us.html

http://manila.usembassy.gov/wwwh3023/contact-us.html

http://manila.usembassy.gov/wwwh3023/contact-us.html

Put the biodata in on you and her, the MNL casefile number, and request a withdrawal of petition.

Remember, she has to present your I-134 at the interview, so if you never sent that, she can't come to the USA [that's a stop-gap measure].

No i never sent it thank God . I was worried about that though and did think that since I did not send the I134 I was OK .

[David & Diana R 1,005]

Death threats?? Not sure if you can prosecute someone in the Philippines for making death threats to you but if I were you I would do this for sure: SAVE ANY AND ALL COMMUNICATIONS YOU HAVE GOTTEN AND MAY GET FROM HIM IN THE FUTURE. Save them to cd and take photos of them if they are phone texts, etc... I know of a case exactly like yours. It involves a distant relative of my spouse. She had a fiance in US and was running around with a male friend from college. They were just "friends". Of course the US citizen was paying for her college. Long story short, she ends up getting pregnant from her "FRIEND". At least in this case she had the integrity to inform her fiance of the situation. He wisely broke off the relationship even though he still loves her. They are done and now it is the responsibility of the Pinoy to support her. No more dreams of America for her. All that is gone now. She is destined to live out her life now in the Philippines....not something that she wanted. Of course what has happened to you could have happened to you regardless where the girl is from. Even if she lived around the corner from your house these things happen. In your case it is difficult to know what to do. Were you not paying for her phone and load? You know this guy might be the father of the baby, that is assuming she even is pregnant. The pregnancy could be part of the scam. Perhaps she thought you would give up when she told you???

Just remember...there are literally thousands of wonderful Filipina girls out there. I found one and she is with me here in the US now. She has made me happier than I have ever been in my life. She is devoted to taking care of me. Not due to my insistance...she just does this on her own. She is beautiful inside and out. If your fiance cheated on you you proably are looking at trouble anyway so maybe God is ginving you a sign. I say, Filipinas are raised to respect their husbands and my wife has been a testament to that. I am sorry American woman but I find it hard to believe that I could have found a woman as loving and caring as my Filipina wife. God bless the Philippines.

Aloha Ke Akua

Edited September 3, 2013 by David & Zoila

[julitathomas0810 30]

Death threats?? Not sure if you can prosecute someone in the Philippines for making death threats to you but if I were you I would do this for sure: SAVE ANY AND ALL COMMUNICATIONS YOU HAVE GOTTEN AND MAY GET FROM HIM IN THE FUTURE. Save them to cd and take photos of them if they are phone texts, etc... I know of a case exactly like yours. It involves a distant relative of my spouse. She had a fiance in US and was running around with a male friend from college. They were just "friends". Of course the US citizen was paying for her college. Long story short, she ends up getting pregnant from her "FRIEND". At least in this case she had the integrity to inform her fiance of the situation. He wisely broke off the relationship even though he still loves her. They are done and now it is the responsibility of the Pinoy to support her. No more dreams of America for her. All that is gone now. She is destined to live out her life now in the Philippines....not something that she wanted. Of course what has happened to you could have happened to you regardless where the girl is from. Even if she lived around the corner from your house these things happen. In your case it is difficult to know what to do. Were you not paying for her phone and load? You know this guy might be the father of the baby, that is assuming she even is pregnant. The pregnancy could be part of the scam. Perhaps she thought you would give up when she told you???

Just remember...there are literally thousands of wonderful Filipina girls out there. I found one and she is with me here in the US now. She has made me happier than I have ever been in my life. She is devoted to taking care of me. Not due to my insistance...she just does this on her own. She is beautiful inside and out. If your fiance cheated on you you proably are looking at trouble anyway so maybe God is ginving you a sign. I say, Filipinas are raised to respect their husbands and my wife has been a testament to that. I am sorry American woman but I find it hard to believe that I could have found a woman as loving and caring as my Filipina wife. God bless the Philippines.

Aloha Ke Akua

I do not know what do now . I keep calling back and he picks the phone up and she has been at the market now for 1 hour and 40 mins . The last known message I got from her was 24 hours ago . I saved the messages from him . When I do cancel I will write in detail everything that happened . For some reason I feel this is BS and he is trying to get me to leave her . I just do not want this to come back to haunt me if I even decide to do this again .

[David & Diana R 1,005]

I do not know what do now . I keep calling back and he picks the phone up and she has been at the market now for 1 hour and 40 mins . The last known message I got from her was 24 hours ago . I saved the messages from him . When I do cancel I will write in detail everything that happened . For some reason I feel this is BS and he is trying to get me to leave her . I just do not want this to come back to haunt me if I even decide to do this again .

I can understand that you want this to be all the fault of the guy answering her phone. And it might be...you will just have to take a wait and see approach. I would suggest you take a deep breath and wait at least 24 hours before attempting to call her again. Or maybe try every 7 or 8 hours, perhaps this douche bag has to go to work and she will get access to her phone again. But you must remember this whole thing may have been a setup from the beginning. I have heard about live in boyfriends that "allow" their girlfriends to go and stay with other men to perpetuate their scam. While I cannot fathom how a man could do that it does happen, more often than we would like to admit. She might be supposting him for all we know. Whatever you do don't go out and get drunk or do anything crazy. It's not worth it. Find your best friend or family member, confide in them what is happening to you right now. Ask for their moral support. Be strong. I know this is easier said than done but pray, pray, pray. Whatever happens is happening for a reason. I will also pray for you right now.

Aloha Ke Akua

[julitathomas0810 30]

Every time I would call her on the phone . The signal sucks so bad cause she lives in the mountain area of Ipil Ormoc City . Now when I call its perfect rings every time when it used to take me like 10 tries to get through to her phone .

[julitathomas0810 30]

I can understand that you want this to be all the fault of the guy answering her phone. And it might be...you will just have to take a wait and see approach. I would suggest you take a deep breath and wait at least 24 hours before attempting to call her again. Or maybe try every 7 or 8 hours, perhaps this douche bag has to go to work and she will get access to her phone again. But you must remember this whole thing may have been a setup from the beginning. I have heard about live in boyfriends that "allow" their girlfriends to go and stay with other men to perpetuate their scam. While I cannot fathom how a man could do that it does happen, more often than we would like to admit. She might be supposting him for all we know. Whatever you do don't go out and get drunk or do anything crazy. It's not worth it. Find your best friend or family member, confide in them what is happening to you right now. Ask for their moral support. Be strong. I know this is easier said than done but pray, pray, pray. Whatever happens is happening for a reason. I will also pray for you right now.

Aloha Ke Akua

This girl I used to talk to out of the blue 2 weeks ago sent me a facebook message . I told her all about my fiancee and even told me she is out for my money . She has been a big help during this time . The strange this is I used to talk to her with the intentions of meeting her . She went away from me way back in 2012 and I never knew why . I just assumed she was out to scam me and I left her in the dust . Come to find out her son was in the hospital for those months and tried to contact me , but her phone was shut off and she spent all her money on her son bills . By the time she came back I had already met my fiancee and we lost our connection .

Oh yes i am done with my fiancee . True or not its just way too much for me . I just want to get out of this without hurting or being accused of any kind of fraud . I will just be honest in my letter to NVC and the Embassy simply telling the truth . I actually feel good now and it's strange maybe knowing the truth was what I needed to know . Sure I am sad , but of what a dream that was exactly that a dream ?

[Cathi 5,744]

She must be really good at this . It did not seem like a lie at all . Looking back on it I can not really see anything that was a red flag . Well the cheating yes , but that happens in a lot of relationships . How do i get a hold of her ? It could be a lie from him the guy is nuts . Sent me death threats a week ago . I have messages that I know were from her . Telling me how she hated him and that these emotions she needed to clear from her self to be able to be true to me . I did not send a lot of money just normal each month for food . I made a point to save my money for my expected trip there to be at the interview . Glad I did that !

The guy told me she was at the market at 6am ? That he is running out of load last message but keeps sending me messages . Asked me I still love her and if i will leave her now .

Sending someone money for food is not the norm. How did she support herself before you met, did she not eat? Never at any point before my husband arrived here did I send my him money, nor did he send me money.

[iLoveYouForever 4]

Im so sorry.... U'r too good for her...she'll never a good man here!!!!

[iLoveYouForever 4]

Im so sorry.... U'r too good for her...she'll never FIND a good man here!!!!

[fantonledzepp 159]

Yea, I don't understand how people send money on a monthly basis for food. How did she eat before? Makes no sense.

Dude, withdraw and move on with your life. You don't need crazy in your life, be it from her or her ex-boyfriend.

[David & Diana R 1,005]

Sending someone money for food is not the norm. How did she support herself before you met, did she not eat? Never at any point before my husband arrived here did I send my him money, nor did he send me money.

I would agree. If a prospective mate starts asking for money that is a sign. Usually bad. I had smany girls on line prior to meeting my one true love that asked for money on the first or second chat. Guess what I did with those contacts??? I deleted them and blocked them. And BEWARE of the my baby, grandma, granpa, uncle, mom, dad, aunty, cousin, sister, brother.....is in the hospital. This is a commonly used ploy. It seems this scenario has been passed from one generation to the next. In my case I visited my girl before I ever sent her any money. She never asked me for money, even after my first visit. Believe it or not there is a web site that Filipinos often use. It is a site where you can learn lies and stories that work. You can cut and paste one lie after another. You can make up a whole person that does not exist. I am not saying that the Filipino girls are the only nationality that have a site like this. I am sure they are available in many countries and languages. Sad really. I am serious, I have seen the site...I will not mention it here because as far as I am concerned it is evil. I mean people share their stories and excuses like it is a joke. It's really horrible.

Aloha Ke Akua

Edited September 4, 2013 by David & Zoila

[kambingaso 9]

Wow! Be strong! I really feel for you. I agree about taking some time to make a decision. Speak with her and find out what's going on. Maybe he highjacked her phone. . . .sounds like it would be hard to stay together even if this whole thing could be worked out. Best of luck to you in your decision. God bless.