not etting married and returning to phils. in k1 visa with my u.s citizen baby

[LongRX7 6]

That is tough one, since you two never married. Being a USC, I would never let my 17 month daughter leave the country without me, BUT I do provide, raise, care, and love her dearly. However, I wouldn't want her to be deprived of her mother either. In my opinion "some" USC, think marrying a foreigner is like trying different flavors of ice cream. If you don't like this one send them back and get another one. But then on the other hand, "some" foreigners think marrying a USC is like hitting the jackpot/lottery.

As for me, I take the relationship and marriage seriously. I knew that I would have to care for her and her son. I know it's my responsibility to take care of them for taking them out of their previous home and country. I treat her son as I would if he were my son. lol, however, that's were we differ, but I do explain to her my ways and reasoning. I'm pretty strict, and expect certain behaviors, I was raised that way. Which I think is a little hard for my filipina wife, I think filipinos are laid back and it's not big a deal. But I did tell her I was strict. Long story short, I am trying to raise a productive, morally ethical, and responsible future USC.

Good luck with your situation is all I can say. Hope it works out for both of you. All I can say it's not fair to either to be without their baby, unless one or both agree and arrangements are made.

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

That is tough one, since you two never married. Being a USC, I would never let my 17 month daughter leave the country without me, BUT I do provide, raise, care, and love her dearly. However, I wouldn't want her to be deprived of her mother either. In my opinion "some" USC, think marrying a foreigner is like trying different flavors of ice cream. If you don't like this one send them back and get another one. But then on the other hand, "some" foreigners think marrying a USC is like hitting the jackpot/lottery.

As for me, I take the relationship and marriage seriously. I knew that I would have to care for her and her son. I know it's my responsibility to take care of them for taking them out of their previous home and country. I treat her son as I would if he were my son. lol, however, that's were we differ, but I do explain to her my ways and reasoning. I'm pretty strict, and expect certain behaviors, I was raised that way. Which I think is a little hard for my filipina wife, I think filipinos are laid back and it's not big a deal. But I did tell her I was strict. Long story short, I am trying to raise a productive, morally ethical, and responsible future USC.

Good luck with your situation is all I can say. Hope it works out for both of you. All I can say it's not fair to either to be without their baby, unless one or both agree and arrangements are made.

King Solomon tinzs.

[Cathi 5,771]

But it's okay to deny a Fathers love?

Why would you even want to deny this child the better lifestyle in the US?

whose to say the child's life will be better in the US? Do you know the OP personally and what her living situation will be like when she goes home? Living in the US does not always equal a better life

[Brens47 1]

there's no better place than a hand of a loving parent to mold a child..not because it's the u.s soil my daughter would have a quality life..i myself would love to give her the complete family she deserves but with a father who would in some other way broke his own family in almost always verbal abuses..then it's better for us not to get married at all..anyway when my daughter would reach her mature age she will learn to find her real dad..i wouldn't deprive her of her father..

thank you aaron for this link..hope i could find help.with.it sooner..

If this is true, you have rights it doesn't matter your legal status. so, if there is any kind of abuse, you win.

[Cathi 5,771]

If this is true, you have rights it doesn't matter your legal status. so, if there is any kind of abuse, you win.

win what? If she wants to take her child back home she needs to have a custody agreement, she cannot simply take the child with her.

[khmerheart 2]

win what? If she wants to take her child back home she needs to have a custody agreement, she cannot simply take the child with her.

Legally she can't, but they won't stop her if she has a passport for the child. It'd be nice if airports did require something when a child is traveling with one parent, but they don't.

[Brens47 1]

win what? If she wants to take her child back home she needs to have a custody agreement, she cannot simply take the child with her.

Let's say she seeks professional help, and explain she came on a K1, and that she aint get married because of "any kind of abuse", they won't allow him to stay with the baby. They would find the way to proof it'll be better if the baby stays with her mom.... That's what I was thinking, but she better find professional advice.

And do not take the baby with you without his agreement, it could become a problem.

[NikLR 13,228]

Legally she can't, but they won't stop her if she has a passport for the child. It'd be nice if airports did require something when a child is traveling with one parent, but they don't.

My ex can't take my daughter in or out of Canada without a signed notarized consent letter from me. Many airports do ask for such a thing. I had a friend who used to have to travel with her first husband's death certificate whenever she went across the border with her son.

The OP needs to get this figured out soon.

[doug/sherry 26]

Every State has an organization of free legal services. The attorney's get paid through

a fund set up by this organization. Go online and search free legal services from what

every state you reside in and go from there.....thats what I would do. Sorry to hear

that you wont be getting married. I'm thinking that your in better shape than you think

but just don't do anything ilegal....and overstaying your visa for 6 months to solve

this issue certainly isn't going to hurt your either.

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

whose to say the child's life will be better in the US? Do you know the OP personally and what her living situation will be like when she goes home? Living in the US does not always equal a better life

Gowon was one of those and he stands by his "suggestion".

Do I know the OP personally? You know I don't.

Most, and, I can't say this strongly enough, foreigners put themselves through the rigamoral (sp) of the immigration process because indeed there is a better lifestype and opportunity in the US that they can develop with their loved ones. Again I say most and thus since I don't know the OP personally then she can ignore my suggestion.

Good luck to the child and I think the child needs to have a social advocate assigned by the court to do a home life study to decide the best living environment for the child.

[khmerheart 2]

My ex can't take my daughter in or out of Canada without a signed notarized consent letter from me. Many airports do ask for such a thing. I had a friend who used to have to travel with her first husband's death certificate whenever she went across the border with her son.

The OP needs to get this figured out soon.

Canada is different because of agreements between the US and Canada. I've flown with my son to the Bahamas, Mexico and other countries and never once been asked to show consent from his mother, who doesn't live with nor travel with us.

I still don't think it is right for her to just remove the child without consent from the father. And if she ever plans to come back to the US she shouldn't or she could have legal issues if he seeks aid from the authorities.

[bigdog 376]

If she has passports they will not stop her. I would contact legal aid at your local court house.

[vegasbound 83]

whose to say the child's life will be better in the US? Do you know the OP personally and what her living situation will be like when she goes home? Living in the US does not always equal a better life

Amen.

[vegasbound 83]

@ OP:

If you do decide to go ahead with your plan to take your daughter to the Philippines without her father's consent, just be prepared as you might end up on CNN.

http://www.cnn.com/2009/US/06/03/new.jersey.brazil.custody/

[carocaro 22]

If the child has a Philippine passport she won't be stopped "going home to the Philippines". If mother chooses to say nothing else regarding an American father, they won't have any other information. It doesn't make it right, but neither does a woman being forced to live with an abusive man or stay in a country without any family support because of the same man.