MODERATORS MODERATE TOO MUCH???

[spookyturtle 9,465]

Just look at TBone's post.,.,.,,how would an average person take comments said to them like that.,.,..he is the exact attitude I refer to that a very few moderators have, moderator or not!

If you think TBone was rude, I can't imagine how you survive in real life.

[TBoneTX 45,287]

And, raven52, you're always free to use the "report" button (toward lower right of posts) if you think that someone is being excessively rude.

[raven52 233]

TBoneTX,

If you think I sit around taking notes about when I was insulted, or ridiculed by someone on this site, then YOU do need a life! I am far more worried about the status of my fiancé/wife than taking notes to send to people like you, to prove my point, read the thread, many people feel the same as I do about "you over-seers" .,.,.,., I have no idea who said what and when, I just totally agree with the original post, as do many others!

This site is the best, with out doubt.,.,, HELP US, not stupid posts asking for times and dates, as we that are going through K-1 and AOS, have far more to do than take notes on who said what and when! BUT, it is happening, maybe not to you as you were approved and finished long ago.,.,,...2007 I think.,.,,.,maybe try a different hobby if you cannot HELP US, or explain to us..,.,your condescending asked for "groceries list" are JUST WHAT WE ARE TALKING ABOUT!

[KayDeeCee 4,893]

TboneTX,

Your itemized list of items, proves all of our points, with you being rude, which happens so many times here. Your list of

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and so on just proves the point,

We all know VJ is the class of the immigration sites, it is why we put up with the moderators that are rude and very opinionated, and a very few, have no tact to their remarks at all! Your ranting's proves the point!

What made his post rude? What moderators do you have to put up with being rude? What is it the mods have done that was so rude? I am genuinely curious because I have not personally come across a mod being rude to anyone. True I do not read all the posts here, but it seems like if it happens as much as others say it does, I would have seen it at least once. The question of who the power-hungry mods are has still gone unanswered.

By the way, you mentioned something about posts just being moved around, and you seem to take offense to that. It is not rude or 'power hungry' for the organizers to move posts to their proper forums. It is what they are supposed to do. It helps keep the many posts here on VJ organized and laid out in a way that people can find the topics/answers they are looking for that fit their particular immigration situation. If someone posts something that belongs in another forum section, then the organizers move the post to the appropriate place.

[spookyturtle 9,465]

TBoneTX,

If you think I sit around taking notes about when I was insulted, or ridiculed by someone on this site, then YOU do need a life! I am far more worried about the status of my fiancé/wife than taking notes to send to people like you, to prove my point, read the thread, many people feel the same as I do about "you over-seers" .,.,.,., I have no idea who said what and when, I just totally agree with the original post, as do many others!

This site is the best, with out doubt.,.,, HELP US, not stupid posts asking for times and dates, as we that are going through K-1 and AOS, have far more to do than take notes on who said what and when! BUT, it is happening, maybe not to you as you were approved and finished long ago.,.,,...2007 I think.,.,,.,maybe try a different hobby if you cannot HELP US, or explain to us..,.,your condescending asked for "groceries list" are JUST WHAT WE ARE TALKING ABOUT!

There you go being rude again. And speaking of stupid posts, why don't you go back and read your last few.

[KayDeeCee 4,893]

TBoneTX,

If you think I sit around taking notes about when I was insulted, or ridiculed by someone on this site, then YOU do need a life! I am far more worried about the status of my fiancé/wife than taking notes to send to people like you, to prove my point, read the thread, many people feel the same as I do about "you over-seers" .,.,.,., I have no idea who said what and when, I just totally agree with the original post, as do many others!

This site is the best, with out doubt.,.,, HELP US, not stupid posts asking for times and dates, as we that are going through K-1 and AOS, have far more to do than take notes on who said what and when! BUT, it is happening, maybe not to you as you were approved and finished long ago.,.,,...2007 I think.,.,,.,maybe try a different hobby if you cannot HELP US, or explain to us..,.,your condescending asked for "groceries list" are JUST WHAT WE ARE TALKING ABOUT!

He did not ask for any lists, times, dates, or anything of the sort. He simply stated that if you feel a post was rude, you can click the 'Report' link to report that post to the mod team. Every post has that link at the bottom of it. You do not have to remember times and dates, just click the 'Report' link.word at the bottom of a post you feel is rude.

[TBoneTX 45,287]

1. If you think I sit around taking notes about when I was insulted, or ridiculed by someone on this site, then YOU do need a life!

2. I am far more worried about the status of my fiancé/wife than taking notes to send to people like you, to prove my point, read the thread, many people feel the same as I do about "you over-seers" .,.,.,., I have no idea who said what and when, I just totally agree with the original post, as do many others!

3. This site is the best, with out doubt.,.,, HELP US, not stupid posts asking for times and dates, as we that are going through K-1 and AOS, have far more to do than take notes on who said what and when! BUT, it is happening, maybe not to you as you were approved and finished long ago.,.,,...2007 I think.,.,,.,maybe try a different hobby if you cannot HELP US, or explain to us..,.,your condescending asked for "groceries list" are JUST WHAT WE ARE TALKING ABOUT!

1. Your entire argument implies that you are keeping score. Thanks for your concern about my life.

2. If you have no idea who said what and when, why do you let it bother you?

3. We finished the immigration process itself in January 2013. Reading accurately, and interpreting literally what you read, will go the longest way toward your success throughout this visa journey. That's the "HELP US" and "explain to us" that I have to offer to you tonight. Ask me where I got it from.

Edited August 21, 2013 by TBoneTX

[raven52 233]

spookyturtle,

His "grocery list" asking for such stupid documentation, was just as I said, rude! I AM NOT HERE TO FILL HIS QUESTIONAIR'S, I am here for help and information, I have read his "list" 6 times, and it gets worse every time I read it.,.,.,I see where you are one of the "elite" also.,.,so I would expect something like this from you.,.,.,.,.,are you a liberal? No doubt!

[Calypso 464]

TBoneTX,

If you think I sit around taking notes about when I was insulted, or ridiculed by someone on this site, then YOU do need a life! I am far more worried about the status of my fiancé/wife than taking notes to send to people like you, to prove my point, read the thread, many people feel the same as I do about "you over-seers" .,.,.,., I have no idea who said what and when, I just totally agree with the original post, as do many others!

You seem quite antagonistic towards someone who said nothing wrong. You also have issues about threads being moved. Is VJ your first forum experience? I can recommend a few posters who can efficiently give you an initiation and lead you to the path of, um, righteousness.

[spookyturtle 9,465]

spookyturtle,

His "grocery list" asking for such stupid documentation, was just as I said, rude! I AM NOT HERE TO FILL HIS QUESTIONAIR'S, I am here for help and information, I have read his "list" 6 times, and it gets worse every time I read it.,.,.,I see where you are one of the "elite" also.,.,so I would expect something like this from you.,.,.,.,.,are you a liberal? No doubt!

You wanna play? You're rude. You don't know jack about me. Name calling? You're a sore loser. Be careful what bridges you burn here, you may need help some day and not get it.

Edited August 21, 2013 by Kathryn41
to remove inappropriate language

[Ozz777 23]

I like the fact that the organizers keep VJ so organized and orderly.

I'm personally not one for too much moderation, and I've never used a report button in my life. If someone pisses me off, I just don't bother with them any longer. But, I can understand that VJ is here to serve a larger population than myself, some of whom are more sensitive and need the "protection" that moderators provide.

I also prefer blunt and to the point responses, and I find plenty of that here, so I'm happy.

[TBoneTX 45,287]

I also prefer blunt and to the point responses, and I find plenty of that here, so I'm happy.

This is a productive attitude. Too often, and sadly, new members don't know what they don't know. There can be a string of threads with bad advice in an upper forum, and someone has to step in bluntly to dispel the misinformation.

Allowing misinformation to "stand" can be perilous to anyone's visa journey. One misstep can cause months or years of delay and possibly the end of the entire journey, all accompanied by deep regret. That outcome is not the purpose of this website. If some members decide to be offended, and their attitudes cloud their intake of the objective advice, then their attitudes could end up being responsible for partial or complete failure in the immigration process.

And Spooky's reaction above is blunt, but his last sentence is 100% true and possible.

Raven52, you've been given several pieces of usable advice in just the last few posts. It's hoped that you'll take them to heart. Now, what are you doing to prepare for ROC in a couple of years?

Edited August 21, 2013 by TBoneTX

[Penguin_ie 5,993]

***** You may have different points of view, but please argue your points politely and civilly. NO bickering or name calling or thread bans will follow ****

[Vanitas 310]

Remember that people's definition of "rude" varies wildly. Some have thick skin and a lot of stuff just bounces off, some have thin skin and take offence at every little thing that's said. Plus there is no such thing as tone on the internet.

That being said? I've only seen one rude/inflammatory post on this page (Page 4). The rest have been direct and to the point and nothing more.

[Teddy B 17,252]