Need to file I-751 / Divorce situation.

[jhonster 23]

Hello all. Was hoping I could get some answers to my specific situation.

Met a girl here in Los Angeles online around Oct of 2010. Dated. Told me she was in the country illegally for 10 years (a Korean national). Fell in love and so the story goes.

We had dated for some 8 months when she was really giving me a hard time about getting married. I landed my dream job as an Electric Station Operator Trainee for the Dept of Water and Power on Jan of 2011. I was working for another dept within the same city municipality. My trainee program got so hectic I literally only had time to eat, sleep & study. Many arguments arose from my being in this program. And guys I knew in the program told me to ditch the girlfriend until the program was over. (yes, it was that difficult to pass the 2 year program). But I stuck with her and tried to continue to make time for her AND do this trainee program. Many many arguments arose from me not spending enough time with her and she kept pushing me for marriage because she was worried about being deported. I spoke with her older sister who had married an American like me 25 years ago, but was now divorced with two kids in Washington. I'm in California. Her sister explained to me that probably your arguments would stop if you married her & moved her in so she could be close to you.

So, I told my girlfriend that we need to get some therapy for the constant arguments BEFORE we get married. And we did. She insisted on a Korean therapist. So I insisted on a licensed Phd Korean therapist. So we found a female Korean Ph'd therapist. And things got marginally better. So I decided to do the deed and marry her. We used a Korean company that was in the same building where we were seeing the Korean therapist. She actually used to work for this company and said we would get a discount to marry and file the Green card paperwork. We literally got married and filed for her legal status on the 10th floor at 6pm and was on the 14th floor for our therapy session at 7pm. Lol. That was June 1st 2011. And by the way, I did not qualify for her financial support because I was on "Injured on duty" for almost a year when I met her, so I didn't show enough financial support (only 36K in taxable income that year). So her boss went on record as being the financial support for her filing for legal status.

Fast forward 4 months and we are fighting like cats and dogs. The therapy isn't as good as I was hoping it would be. It almost seemed like she was starting arguments just to start arguments. I was getting 4 hours of sleep a day between all the study I was doing for this training program. I was struggling because of the poor living conditions at home. My dream job was slipping away.

She literally almost didn't show up for our interview for bonafide marriage. I had to go and find her because she left the house the night before. Said something about "you don't have to worry about me anymore". I took that as she wanted to off herself that evening. Since I work for the Fire Dept, I called my boss & asked for some guidance. He said I should have her put on suicide alert, so I did. I called the therapist/doctor & demanded she get involved and try to call her....that she was not answering my calls.

I was afraid she wouldn't come back or something worse. In hindsight, I guess I missed my chance in getting off the hook for her residency....but I couldn't do that to her. I did love her, even though she was a pistol to handle. She came back at 2am that morning, managed to kiss and make up and showed up to our interview that morning at 8am. We passed the interview and she got her green card in Dec of 2011. Literally the day before Christmas eve......which was the day she told me she was leaving and couldn't live with me anymore. The two months between our interview and when she got her green card was two more months of hell. I threatened divorce a few times because things weren't getting any better. She dared me to get the papers and she would sign them. So at the beginning of December, I went and got the papers and left them in the bedroom on the bed. That week she filled them out and signed them. I figured if she wanted out, then she could sign the papers.

She moved out shortly after New Years Jan 2012 even though I begged her not to leave. At that point, we had a joint checking account that was only 8 months old, a Water and Power bill and gas bill that was joint. No taxes filed jointly. She was on my health insurance, but I did not have her as my beneficiary for my accidental death insurance. My mother was. I still had my old personal checking account as well as she had her own.

She stopped the therapy with the Korean doctor in December of 2011. Told her she was moving out before she told me. So I'm guessing she had already made up her mind that she was going to move out before telling me anything.

I went into therapy myself to try to get my life back together. In August of 2011 I was removed from my dream job training program because of all the turmoil in my living situation. I just couldn't concentrate and give the program all the attention it needed. So I went back to my old job.

I tried "dating" her Jan and Feb of 2012, trying to find any grounds for continuing our relationship. Trying to salvage what was a marriage that had some good qualities, but needed a TON of work. But the more I did therapy with my therapist....the more I was being assured that we were not compatible and there was no salvaging this relationship. So shortly after Valentines Day I filed the papers that she had signed.

The divorce was final in Sept of 2012 and that year (which would have been our 1st year together) I filed married/separate for my 2011 tax return & single for 2012. During that time, we continued to argue about who's fault what was, etc etc. Slowly but surely we lost touch with each other and really didn't speak to each other anymore except for me to tell her she was being removed from my health insurance...since she was no longer my wife.

So.....fast forward to this evening. I come home and get a letter from USCIS addressed to her here at my house. It says, NOTICE OF REQUIREMENT TO FILE A JOINT PETITION TO REMOVE THE CONDITIONAL BASIS OF AN ALIENS PERMANENT RESIDENT STATUS.

It goes onto to say that she entered the U.S. as a conditional permanent resident on 12/07/2011 and that she needs to file form-751.

So. What do I do? She purposely did not want me to know where she moved to, so I have no forwarding address for her. I know where she works and have her cel number. I've texted her several times over the months to say hello. How are you? Are you ok? With no response. I've sent her emails and left her voice messages with no response. Should I go to her work and tell her that she needs to file this? Or what should I do?

I don't want to see her get thrown out of the country, but....she was here illegally for 10 years prior to me meeting her. And I did warn her that if she left, that I would wash my hands of her. I don't know what to do at this point. Any advice is appreciated. Sorry for being so long winded.

[Darnell 8,479]

I suggest sending the letter back to USCIS, with a note that beneficiary is divorced and left no forwarding address.

And leave it at that.

[prettyjackie 16]

I suggest sending the letter back to USCIS, with a note that beneficiary is divorced and left no forwarding address.

And leave it at that.

i agree!!

[Cathi 5,794]

You are divorced, you must send the letter back to USCIS and inform of of the divorce. Anything after that is her problem.

[JP and Tee 13]

agreed with Darnell. You sound like a really nice guy, but if I was in your shoes, I'd leave it at that. Whether she gets into trouble later is no longer your problem. She basically upped and left you, so why even bother.

[jhonster 23]

You are divorced, you must send the letter back to USCIS and inform of of the divorce. Anything after that is her problem.

Oh. I didn't know that I needed to let them know that we divorced.

The other thing I was curious about, because I was reading others posts here was, would she be able to file for her 10 year Green card considering we divorced so quickly and I'm not her financial backer nor did we file tax returns together? We would have been married for 15 months because of the 6 month waiting period in California.

Is there anything else that I should inform USCIS about? Like I said, we paid this Korean company to do the immigration stuff for us. They didn't speak any English, so I left all the details to my ex wife. Should I contact them for any reason?

Thanks again everybody =))

[OZ62 17]

My question to you is this?

What are you going to do if she comes back with some sad, crying, bs...????

Buddy.... "You are done"!!!!!

Do not get back into the mess!!!

Looks like she needed you because she needed an anchor to stay in the US!!!

Do not help her file that form!!!

[kambingaso 9]

Ditch the clown.

[Tahoma 2,292]

Why did you open her mail? It's hers, not yours. Listen to Darnell.

Then find a new therapist who can help you figure out why need all of this drama in your life, and why you call it "love."

[jhonster 23]

Why did you open her mail? It's hers, not yours. Listen to Darnell.

Then find a new therapist who can help you figure out why need all of this drama in your life, and why you call it "love."

I'm currently remarried to a VERY sweet Filipina lady since March of this year. We're talking night and day between the her and my ex-wife. No plans to go back & help someone who basically abandoned me after I helped her get out of the bad situation she was in being here illegally for 10 years. Yes I "was" in love with her because at 1st she didn't show her immaturity & huge control/anger issues. Not to get too deeply into it, but she was emotionally & physically abused by her 40 year Korean military Father. He messed her up good. I did see enough redeeming qualities in her, otherwise I wouldn't have married her. But the thing that stood out to me originally was she was willing to get some help and work on the problems she knew she had. That to me says a lot. So as a good husband, I was willing to see her through it.

In hindsight I often wonder if the whole thing was a setup. I can' say for sure. But one thing I can assure you of is, I don't owe her anything. Especially after she decided to just up and abandon me after all I did for her.

So.....I hear you guys loud and clear. I was just wondering if there was any chance that she could get her 10 Green card WITHOUT my help. Because I'm not going to do anything for her.

I'm in the process of getting my new wife into the country and just filed the i130 not too long ago. When the letter came, I was actually excited thinking that it was further communication from USCIS. And it was addressed Y Stevenson. I opened it too quickly thinking that I saw J. Stevenson instead. My mistake. So that's how I ended up opening the letter.

But what's strange is.....wouldn't you think that she would have wanted to at least figured out a way to stay in the country and given at least USCIS her forwarded address? It almost seems as if she's given up on doing anything with trying to stay in the country legally. I mean, if I were her....I would be doing anything I could to try to take advantage of what I started for her.

I dunno. Seems strange. But anyways, I'm taping the letter back up and sending another letter with it to explain that our divorce was final in Sept of 2012 along with a copy of the divorce decree. Obviously I've never done this immigration thing before, which is why we paid someone to handle it for us originally.

Anything else I should include before sending this thing back to USCIS?

Thanks again fellas.

[Darnell 8,479]

re: ex getting a 10 year card - sure, it's possible, without you, as there's a tickbox on the form covering divorce. still on her to prove up bonafide marriage, and that's done with evidence of same - leases, bank accounts, receipts, photos, etc.

re: your support on the ex - uhm - you probably forgot , since it was all handled with that 'Korean firm' but you did, in fact, sign an I-864. Bear that in mind when you are doing NVC doc intake on your current wife - you'll need to list the ex in the I-864 for your current wife.

re: what else to send back to USCIS - I suggest putting all in a larger envelope, containing:

1. photocopy of divorce decree

2. cover letter explaining the rush job with the korean agency, listing them by name and address, as well as the 'overview' you've given here, noting the divorce date. Also include a small paragraph about why you opened the letter.

3. the uscis mailer that you received.

your feelings, wants, needs and desires about the ex's 'wellness' and 'ability' to remain in the USA should not be your focus or concern, at this juncture. IMO, you were played all along the way. Your ex hooked the wrong fish, IMO (apologies to say that, it sounds really bad) and you should protect yourself on many levels.

That's all I'm gonna write, for the moment. Go Get Em, and Good Luck !

[OZ62 17]

Look, do not tape it up, do not forward it!!!

What are you trying to do?

This was all a scam!!!

Next, she will be asking you to pay for her application!

You have the $590 fee to give her?

Are you going to help her out with the paperwork?

Come on... Move on with your life!!! I cannot believe you are trying to be the good guy with this loser?

Edited August 15, 2013 by OZ62

[Danilu 11]

It's pretty clear that she used you as a way for not to be deported, that's why she pushed you to get marry ( you said this in the first paragraph of your initial post). Don´t look for excuses for her behaviour because of her strict dad.

Now you have a new wife and are about to start a new life if her visa is approved. That chapter concerning your ex is overwith.

Return the letter to USCIS as the other posters advised you. She's not your problem anymore. Like Darnell said, yes, she could file for ROC but she would have to attach documents and evidences that prove it was a bona fide marriage. That would be her problem.

Move on and forget about her. You deserve true happiness and peace of mind.

[Mar_Wil 12]

Read this USCIS website page:

http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis/menuitem.5af9bb95919f35e66f614176543f6d1a/?vgnextoid=2e5174ab3d2fa210VgnVCM100000082ca60aRCRD&vgnextchannel=db029c7755cb9010VgnVCM10000045f3d6a1RCRD

Since your ex-wife did not file a change of address with USCIS within 10 days of her moving, within the United States or its territories, from your address then it appears she did not perform this requirement listed as an immigrant's responsibility. My wife's welcome brochure also stated the same requirement of immigrant responsibilities.

As all others have stated it is not your problem anymore.

Edited August 16, 2013 by Mar_Wil

[bigdog 376]

Ditto, let it and her go. be done and over.