Broken Hearted at the last possible moment

[InHisTime 110]

This may be a little harsh but its how I see it- (very much along the lines of what Vanessa wrote)

Men are not inanimate objects. They are not like shoes that you can decide "he is the one for me" and the shoes got no choice but to comply. Its called free will. So while you may have determined that on paper you two are a good fit and in your heart he is the one, sadly it does not seem as if Danny feels the same.

If you go back and look at what hes telling you, really look at it- youll see that. He never says with the certainty you say it. You are the one for me. Its- I love you but this isnt going to work (because you are not the one for me). I love you but Im not ready (because you are not the one for me). I love you but I need to slow down because Im scared (since you are not the one for me).

Something happens when you find that right person. The one who is the right person for you. It makes all the pieces of the puzzle magically fit together and there is no 'but' in the sentences anymore.

When someone uses the word 'but' like that in a sentence its just to soften the blow. It means ignore everything I said before the 'but', what I really mean is whats after it.

Im getting the feeling you are going to a premarital consular and they are just stringing this out for additional sessions and fees rather then telling you bluntly its over and losing your business. You should seek out an individual consular in your area for a better perspective.

Hi OP, I hope you are feeling well as the days go on. I have read your stories, but just can't have time to share as I'm so busy. But I know your pain, how difficult for you to accept reality. I know you have a good heart, and that you have just loved truly. I can see that, in all what you have stated / responded in this thread. No worries for sharing, there are many good and understanding VJs in here. This what makes VJ more interesting.

Please, just hold on to God, lift all your burdens to Him. Only God can completely heal and fill your heart. Never regret and become bitter in life. This thing didn't happen to you alone. There are plenty of us...... I too experience almost same roller coaster in my relationship. I was exhausted, tired....at least I have done and worked so much in the relationship, but now I have no regrets. I had been to immigration stuff as well and even went to the US already, but I decidely to come back home for good, as I feel it wasn't really worth of my sacrifices. I don't want to keep sharing it all over here. I'm done with it and now happily back with my good job at my home country. Of course it was very painful and heartbreaking as well.

So please cheer up, you are a normal lady, now almost becoming a mother. Be happy, accept it with all your heart, and please start fixing up yourself -- everything will be alright. As others have said, he doesn't deserve your love. He is unsure, scared, uncertain. He has fears, and it is not going to help in the relationship. It will surely keep you in pain over and over. Please love yourself -- I know that this will be alright and everything will come to a good end.

You can cry out to God for his blessings and mercy. That's fine. You are truly a good woman who just give love unconditionally, but you need to please slow down and know your limits, especially now that God is giving a great sign for you. God loves you very much, and that He is saving you from continuous and repeated pains and heartbreaks. Just look at things positively...... no worry about your immigration stuff, enjoy life at the moment, be beautiful inside and out, and I'm sure God is brewing something great for you. You will have the right man come to you -- just wait, it will surely happen. May God bless you and stay relax and focus with your baby, and just continue to pray to God. The baby is a great blessing, not everybody is blessed to have a little one. So keep the faith always. Take care and have a beautifil smile --- life is still beautiful the way it is.

Be strong and have a life with no regrets !

[InHisTime 110]

Oh sorry, I posted my note at the bottom of "Capri's post, anyway, I also want to highlight Capri's post, that is very good and helpful... just keep an open mind, and see positive things....despite of everything. It will be all for your own good.

In christ, with you --- InHisTime

[Shiobhan 235]

Hello Meg you may think you feel love for him but will despise him

eventually, think long and hard about moving to a new country and his

treatment to you, have he told you to get an abortion? or is he too much

of a whimp to do so, there seem to be no positive future with this man,

so whether you choose adoption, abortion, or to raise this child alone

have no expectations from this man. If you do have an abortion you should

never ever lay with this man again. God bless you

[canuckbos 10]

IMHO

He can't (won't) say good-bye.

Does he want me? Does he not?

Been there, done that.

So much hurt.

I ended the relationship, it started to sound like a soap opera.

35 years later folks, he has not changed one iota.

Sends emails saying; "keep in touch, you never know".....

Flattery and other empty words.

He has not changed.

I have, and am so thankful I found the strength to end it.

Found new love, new life and never looked back.

Yes, I loved him....

but love is not enough!!!

Wishing you a happy fulfilled rest of your life hon!

[amberlynnloves 125]

Hi Meg!

My heart goes out to you! Just was looking for an update on this to see where things have gone? Any change with Danny? How about the pregnancy?

Take care sweetheart!

[camden 20]

Be encouraged, this too shall pass.