Broken Hearted at the last possible moment

[rascalcat 28]

We are all here to support you in a difficult time because you deserve all the best and will get all the best support here too.

[MFC87 2]

Like I stated before... I was a single mother to 3 children. 2 girls and 1 boy. They are the best 3 things that have ever happened to me. When I was raising them we didn't have a ton of extra money but if you have half a brain, you can work things out. We always went shopping, we always went out to eat as a treat. They always had the most up to date clothing and shoes ( and so did I and still do). i own my home and I have a car I did not graduate from college. I don't have the best paying job and I was laid off a few times during all that time...We always made it. My mother was the only person who ever babysat for me and that was only here and here. She was more than happy to help. All three went to daycare while I worked.

I just always made my kids the number one thing. I don't have any kind of relationship with their father. He was NEVER around. I never thought about the kids being "HIS" kids or do I want "HIS" kids. Of course I wanted them... It was always about me raising these kids to be the best people they can be. He walked away and I made the best life I could for them. I'm not saying a child doesn't need both parents because in a perfect world that is the best situation .... I am saying that when you get dealt a crappy hand, you have to eliminate the obstacles and do the best you can with what you have.

Abortion is a touchy subject. It is not ok for some and ok with others. It is a personal choice and nobody here should be telling anyone what they should or shouldn't be doing. Some people are not religious and some people do not believe life begins a conception...

I believe that children are a gift. I know what I would do in her situation in a blink of an eye but its not for me to tell anyone what to do. I just want her to know that there is always a way to work things out. You have to do what is right for you. Only you know what you can live with.

Thanks for sharing.

[brown007 82]

this is so sad, i feel the pains u are going through i also most drop tears reading your story, please all i can say is please do not harm ur baby like every other person has said he/she may be a future world leader. human being will walk away in your life but ur God will never walk away. hole strong to your God

so sorry

[Sandra G. 5,057]

We are our choices then just be proud of your choices.I wish you the best.

[Imperium 81]

Every decision has positive and negative aspects. Ultimate determination will be yours.

Care, support and future are not reasons to eliminate a life, in fact there is no justification. Can I really let someone take my life simply because I was going through immigration misery, stress and anxiety? Of course not.

It is just an example of how we can't choose who should live and who must die. God created life and he has the authority to end. Let the life flourish and it will help you flourish.

Please just have patience, compassion and hope. You know that when we are born we come with nothing and alone. Our departure from this life is also lone with nothing.

[Meg and Danny 25]

I'm just waiting to see him in person on Tuesday at our last counselling session. I'm leaning towards keeping it, but it is literally an entire life overhaul. Ill be making a lot of sacrifices, so I want to hear what he has to say first.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

I'm just waiting to see him in person on Tuesday at our last counselling session. I'm leaning towards keeping it, but it is literally an entire life overhaul. Ill be making a lot of sacrifices, so I want to hear what he has to say first.

Out of interest, what do you think he'll say? What could he say either way to influence your decision?

[Meg and Danny 25]

I really don't know. But I still love him as abrupt and horrible as what he did was, so I want I hear him out

[St&Sv 33]

I really don't know. But I still love him as abrupt and horrible as what he did was, so I want I hear him out

Even when the ones we love hurt us it doesn't just instantly dissolve all the time and love created together. We all handle the end of it in different ways, but I would mentally prepare yourself for the meeting. No one can predict which way it will swing. I do hope that if you decide to keep the child that you are doing it for yourself and not to salvage any piece of the love you shared with this man. If he is truly over it all then this is the end, and if you keep the baby expect him to oppose it. Even when passions are high, and with the upmost protection anything can happen and when it involves sex we all need to be responsible for the possible outcome. Perhaps you should remind him of that. Either way best of luck on Tuesday.

[Meg and Danny 25]

Even when the ones we love hurt us it doesn't just instantly dissolve all the time and love created together. We all handle the end of it in different ways, but I would mentally prepare yourself for the meeting. No one can predict which way it will swing. I do hope that if you decide to keep the child that you are doing it for yourself and not to salvage any piece of the love you shared with this man. If he is truly over it all then this is the end, and if you keep the baby expect him to oppose it. Even when passions are high, and with the upmost protection anything can happen and when it involves sex we all need to be responsible for the possible outcome. Perhaps you should remind him of that. Either way best of luck on Tuesday.

Most certainly not a rekindling (i cant even believe thats a word im using for us. :(:()attempt. He will be very unhappy.

[St&Sv 33]

Most certainly not a rekindling (i cant even believe thats a word im using for us. )attempt. He will be very unhappy.

Well your happiness is all that matters right now.

[WORMIEVADER 6]

Hi Meg, my heart goes out to you!!! While I'm not a pro-lifer, my thought on this subject is that if you wanted to have children someday anyway, maybe this is really the child you were supposed to have. Fate sometimes is a funny thing and opens one door when another closes. Raising a child alone is no easy feat, but raising a child while being married to a jerk is probably much harder.

Listen to your gut, not your heart or your head (or other people). We sometimes have an amazing clarity when we imagine one thing or another. If you feel a rock in your stomach imagining an abortion, but the rock is not as heavy imagining having the baby, then you have your answer.

If you can, talk it through with councelors, planned parenthood, friends, family....but don't listen to their advise, listen to how their advise makes you feel.

Whatever path you choose, tell yourself it was the right one for you. The worst thing is regret. I wish you all the love in the world! I'm so sorry you are hurting!

[FherJess 15]

Meg, I hope you're ok.

I thought of you as you mentioned having a meeting Tuesday with your ex.

Stay strong and know that everything will be ok.

[LucidSofia 59]

Meg, my heart goes out to you.

In the end, whatever decision you make, everything will turn out OK. People have a way of rationalizing their decisions after the fact.. If you end up keeping the baby, i'm sure you'll always say that your child was the best thing that ever happened to you, and you'll mean it. If you end up not keeping it, you'll be able to do so many more things job wise, financially and in terms of meeting someone else and raising a child together with someone you love.

What ended up happening on tuesday? I hope everything is well with you, and know you have so many people's support on here.

Also, your ex sounds like a complete jerk. Breaking up with you over the phone so out of the blue, and being so un-empathetic.. I think he did you a favor by ending it before making this important decision and before moving to a different country to start a life with him. Can you imagine marrying someone THAT flaky??? Sheesh.

Edited August 14, 2013 by LucidSofia

[gwenstar 66]

If you can, talk it through with councelors, planned parenthood, friends, family....but don't listen to their advise, listen to how their advise makes you feel.

this is such a interesting way to gain a different perspective....thank you for sharing that.

OP - Im sad you are having to go through this. Thank you for having the courage to share your story and to face the difficult choices you have ahead in the best way you can. You are strong and this whole situation will really reveal to yourself just how strong you are. I hope all the best for you.

hugs!