Which is harder??

[Debbie and Abdol 0]

I voted patience because most of the time this whole thing is out of your control...it's someone else out there processing everything and passing judgement over you and your family. Often you can do very little to influence or expediate it, and often it is the smallest of mistakes that gets everything set back again...

But the WORST part is that, after sooooo much waiting, there is a tremendous build up for the finish. And then when it's over there's certain to be such a let down when reality sets in...

[Shortie81 0]

I voted patience because most of the time this whole thing is out of your control...it's someone else out there processing everything and passing judgement over you and your family. Often you can do very little to influence or expediate it, and often it is the smallest of mistakes that gets everything set back again...

But the WORST part is that, after sooooo much waiting, there is a tremendous build up for the finish. And then when it's over there's certain to be such a let down when reality sets in...

WOW!!! Sounds like you have had a rough start to your processing. I know what you mean about the mistakes. When I first sent my I-130 in did the papers and mailed them on the 29th Aug but I work 29 Sept on the check and I lost 2 weeks of processing time that way. Just hang on and be strong and hopefully everything works out

[Shortie81 0]

At the end of the 1st week of the Poll. 61.54% of 39 people feel that Distance is Harder than Patience .

[Shortie81 0]

I guess all of my patience (which i must say is almost none at the moment) has paid off because i spoke with the NVC and my expedite request is granted!!! Of course I still have to finish the long drawn out paperwork process with the NVC but after that she will receive her medical exam and interview. So hurray and I thank God for hearing my prayers and my request for help through these hard and stressful times

[Kaitie64 0]

Congrats on having your request expedited Hope it all moves quickly for you now, good luck.

[Shortie81 0]

You know what....I can't take it anymore....I need to see my wife...So i just bought a plane ticket to the Philippines for $1300.00. Yes, that did lighten the bank account but I have to go because I don't know if the embassy will approve the Expedite Request before i leave to Iraq in July....Once the case is complete. So May 2, 2006....I will be on a plane to travel some 22-24 hrs across the globe to see the my wife for a whole 3 week We might just have to go for the addition to the family

[silvanski 1]

The distance was, when not being able to give or receive that hug one needs at times.

[MichelleandCraig 1]

It's late and I need to get to bed, so sorry if it's been said before, but my vote is for distance. Basically because if it weren't for the distance we wouldn't (have needed) need patience so much anyway!! I think this is proven by the fact that people generally take waiting for AOS much more easily than waiting for the visa..why? Because they're together. M.

[Jenn! 918]

The distance is definitely harder (for me, at least). Once you're in AOS, you're still waiting on paperwork, but it's so much easier to deal with if you have your SO with you.

[*Robert* 2]

They are both hard.... but the sooner the wait is over, the sooner the distance decreases to ZERO!!! That's why I said waiting is harder, and my SO feels the same way.

[AngelK96 0]

I would have voted both. Both were difficult. from filing to actually getting the visa almost a year

[Aymerlu 3]

DISTANCE! Not being able to see him makes me crazy. We are both going crazy and are always thinking the "what if's" regarding the AR. We can't make plans to do anything, all we do is sit and wait. No one has answers. Makes me feel terrible that we are going through such a hard time and cannot be together to support each other.

[KarenCee 3]

Yeah, distance has been harder than having patience with this paperwork although that has been (and still is) pretty frustrating. Not being able to see your beloved, or walk across the room to kiss him...things that other couples take for granted...now that's the hard part.

[Cristy 4]

He said distance, for me it is patience. I mean distance is bad bad bad...but I am the most impatient person. When I get an idea or a plan I do it instantly. I hate waiting!!!

[Ladylethal 12]

For me is distance, 'cus I wouldn't mind waiting if he could be here with me. Like I prolly won't be so pissed at waiting for AOS, 'cus I'll be together with him. I have very little patience though, and this waiting is driving me nuts.