More depressed than ever

[Andrea&Henry 311]

Hi Alex&Iris! I know this journey can be so hard and nerve wracking. This is definitely not for everyone! but speaking from my heart and my own experiences, this journey can be a true blessing cause in the end, just make your relationship stronger and stable.

I went through a k1 visa myself 2 years ago, and even when it was way faster then, it took us 7 month to be together. I still remember all those days without my now husband, all those missing birthdays, holidays and general happy moments. We used to chat for hours through skype and we basically lived our entire courtship through skype and whatsapp.

In the end, this journey made our commitment to each other, more stronger and helped us to built an amazing marriage. After a 1 year 6 month of marriage and with a baby boy on the way, our love remains intact and actually grew up, just like both of us. Everytime we have an argument or if one of us get mad, we always remember all those times we were apart and make us, how bless we are to have each other.

Times flies, try to think all the things you want to do together, discuss your future plans, your upcoming wedding, buy a new place, ect etc. What it kept us going was talking about future together and instead of thinking how much time you have ahead, think that every day that pass is a day you guys are closer to be together.

good luck

Edited August 6, 2013 by Andrea&Henry

[DavenRoxy 1,073]

It took us about 17 months. And I ask you... what is 17 months relative to 50 years?

Seems a lot now, but truth it, it's but a moment in time. Relax, and and enjoy the journey, for you cannot change it.

[Alex&Iris 9]

Hi Alex&Iris! I know this journey can be so hard and nerve wracking. This is definitely not for everyone! but speaking from my heart and my own experiences, this journey can be a true blessing cause in the end, just make your relationship stronger and stable.

I went through a k1 visa myself 2 years ago, and even when it was way faster then, it took us 7 month to be together. I still remember all those days without my now husband, all those missing birthdays, holidays and general happy moments. We used to chat for hours through skype and we basically lived our entire courtship through skype and whatsapp.

In the end, this journey made our commitment to each other, more stronger and helped us to built an amazing marriage. After a 1 year 6 month of marriage and with a baby boy on the way, our love remains intact and actually grew up, just like both of us. Everytime we have an argument or if one of us get mad, we always remember all those times we were apart and make us, how bless we are to have each other.

Times flies, try to think all the things you want to do together, discuss your future plans, your upcoming wedding, buy a new place, ect etc. What it kept us going was talking about future together and instead of thinking how much time you have ahead, think that every day that pass is a day you guys are closer to be together.

good luck

Thanks for the advice... you even made me laugh cause skype, whatsapp and facebook have become our life and funny part was we met on Myspace... wish you guys all the happiness in the world.

[Big Baby 11]

My fiancee was jerked around for months and months in AP on the Embassy side. I finally had to go be with her for awhile. It cost a lot. But I could not wait any longer. You may need to save your resources for later. Agree with Alex & Iris. One thing that I did to pass the time was to write letters daily. 50% of them made it & 50% didn't. But when she got them, it really picked up her spirits (not to mention, contributed to our "evidence of ongoing relationship" more-so than chats). Also, in our case, we both poured ourselves into study: she studied English, and I studied Mandarin. Also, we started planning the "thereafter" looking into the requirements for work, social security cards, driver's licenses, medical/dental insurance, etc. Another thing I did was to give my family members her email address and asked them to email her if they wanted to. She really liked hearing from my mother in particular, as her mother had passed away years before. Have a little faith, not in the US government but in human love and capacity to endure. Also, realize that processing may also speed up unexpectedly with increased staffing and decreased DOS threatcon. Hang in there!

[Alex&Iris 9]

My fiancee was jerked around for months and months in AP on the Embassy side. I finally had to go be with her for awhile. It cost a lot. But I could not wait any longer. You may need to save your resources for later. Agree with Alex & Iris. One thing that I did to pass the time was to write letters daily. 50% of them made it & 50% didn't. But when she got them, it really picked up her spirits (not to mention, contributed to our "evidence of ongoing relationship" more-so than chats). Also, in our case, we both poured ourselves into study: she studied English, and I studied Mandarin. Also, we started planning the "thereafter" looking into the requirements for work, social security cards, driver's licenses, medical/dental insurance, etc. Another thing I did was to give my family members her email address and asked them to email her if they wanted to. She really liked hearing from my mother in particular, as her mother had passed away years before. Have a little faith, not in the US government but in human love and capacity to endure. Also, realize that processing may also speed up unexpectedly with increased staffing and decreased DOS threatcon. Hang in there!

Thanks... I really think that what makes this such a difficult process is that fact that you have NO IDEA where your at... for all I know since march 29th my paperwork can be sitting in someones desk collecting dust... they should give a play by play update... I'm sure that some thing like that would really cut down there phone time... cause people are informed of where there paperwork is stuck and why...

[AgnettaHoo 18]

Be strong!!!!

I wait for 10 months before I finally get my NOA2.

Not that I hope you will have to wait for that long *knock on the wood*

But believe me.. You will see that it worth the fight, the stress and the horrible waiting.

I wish you good luck!

[Alex&Iris 9]

Be strong!!!!

I wait for 10 months before I finally get my NOA2.

Not that I hope you will have to wait for that long *knock on the wood*

But believe me.. You will see that it worth the fight, the stress and the horrible waiting.

I wish you good luck!

Thanks!

[MiltonAnaya 7]

I'm in the same boat with you and I've even become depressed because I don't work and college doesn't start until another month or two.

I have a daughter with my fiance which is hard because she looks exactly like him. We oovoo and call all day. People even say I don't have a life. But right now HE and OUR process is my life.

And the comments ppl make are the hardest when they joke and say that once he is here. He will disappear. But I highly doubt that with all we have been through.

My fiance is from Bani btw. Our anniversary was Aug.6. I cried all day thinking it was another important day away. I'm waiting on a RFE that was sent july 9. For some reason its stil not here.

Somedays I just want to leave to DR and wait it out with him. Or cancel this and get married.

I try to stay positive though and I know eventually we'll be approved

[Alex&Iris 9]

I'm in the same boat with you and I've even become depressed because I don't work and college doesn't start until another month or two.

I have a daughter with my fiance which is hard because she looks exactly like him. We oovoo and call all day. People even say I don't have a life. But right now HE and OUR process is my life.

And the comments ppl make are the hardest when they joke and say that once he is here. He will disappear. But I highly doubt that with all we have been through.

My fiance is from Bani btw. Our anniversary was Aug.6. I cried all day thinking it was another important day away. I'm waiting on a RFE that was sent july 9. For some reason its stil not here.

Somedays I just want to leave to DR and wait it out with him. Or cancel this and get married.

I try to stay positive though and I know eventually we'll be approved

Yeah this truly suckssss... My man took me to Bani last October... Loved it... If I didn't have such a great job here I would definitely go live with... He as already asked me too a couple of times... What worries me is that I have not seen any changes in our status but I pray to GOD that soon... Best wishes to u as well.

[MarielManuel 0]

All we can tell you is to have a lot of faith. i can tell you itis horrible to be away fom that special one i can assure you this time will fly by and you wil then look back and feel good about all you where able to accomplish and wait:)

[acevce19 0]

HI Everyone,

I recently submitted I-130 for my husband from Dominican Republic. I received the first noa1 9/4/2013. Just looking for tips about what next steps I should be taking, what documents should I start making sure I have, what fees should I prepare for, ....? I also just want to get any tips from anyone who has filed for someone from the Dominican Republic, since I understand that USCIS deems DR as a high risk country what hurdles will I face and what should I prepare for?

MIssing my hubby so I am ready to get the ball rolling on the next set of documents.

[clairegie 265]

I am sorry that this journey is taking a while for you. The wait and not knowing what is going on is really such a burden, I wouldn't even wish it for my enemies.

I don't really know how to uplift you except to tell you that at times like this, you and your fiance/husband need to gather strength and patience from each other. Be each other's support system. From personal experience, my fiance was the one that kept me sane. There were times that we even had unnecessary arguments just because my mood kept going downhill after pages and pages of approvals that I read. This is surely just another test to how strong your relationship is, and I have no doubt you will pull through it. Hang in there, praying for you.