Citizens Rights when Divorced K-1 in One Year

[revtech100 16]

Maybe you (the USC) shuld find a tough American Girlfriend & move her in, n see how fast she boots out the x-wife??? Lol seems legit!!

Absolutly the best idea next to packing her bags for her and sitting them on the street.

[we r one 5]

In Texas depending on your county... You need to go to your city hall or county court.

1. Have a sheriff deputy or constable serve her with papers to vacate.

You may have to go to court to prove she has been served in order for the Judge to sign an order

for her and her daughter to vacate.

2. You may post a notice to vacate on your front door and also on her bedroom door and the door of the room

her daughter sleeps in.

3. get her a Po box so her mail does not come to your home. (mail to your house proves she lives there still)

You will have to give her up to 90 day notice and if she don't leave you can go to court and as long as you have proof she has been

served, or posted. (you need witnesses and photos of her being served or her seeing it posted). It is a Texas state law.

A friend had to do this to make her sister leave her home.

So look into your county laws in Texas where you live. This is how it is in Bell county.

If you don't do it then you don't want her out.

You have been given a lot of advice, and a lot of it is really good. so make up your own mind and do what is best for you..

[aaastircrazy 2]

I just want to say a huge THANK YOU! to everyone who took the time to reply to this post. Some really good advice and comments. As it stands now they are flying to their home country tonite. This is the 4th time I've bought tickets in 2013. I pray they go so we can end this. Neither of us are happy. We are both decent people but we have not been a good couple. I have been thru hell and back emotionally and financially trying to make this work. PLEASE be extremely careful if you bring ANYONE to this country on a K-1 Visa. Your life and your freedom hang in the balance. I'll post here tomorrow whether they went home or not. I pray they will go! God bless you all!!

If they don't go tonight I am going to the authorities tomorrow (courts, immigration) and I am selling my house. Then who knows where I will go????? But I will go!

I'm telling you it was a stupid idea on my part. I regret it. I truly regret it. It has damaged my family seriously. Don't do it. Save your money and take a great vacation ALONE!

[EAS 45]

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I'm telling you it was a stupid idea on my part. I regret it. I truly regret it. It has damaged my family seriously. Don't do it. Save your money and take a great vacation ALONE!

I can understand that you regret your situation as it is described but I can not agree with your last two sentences.

I don't know how others feel about their relationships; and really their relationships are not my concern. However, I can say that taking " ... a great vacation ALONE!" is no where near what I want when thinking about the woman who will soon be my wife. I know this because I have taken great vacations both alone and with her.

Being married and living with someone is not going to be the same as being on vacation. I understand there will be big changes for both of us. I know that I will have to be more understanding and forgiving because she will be adjusting to a new culture and way of life. She knows that she will have to make changes to the way she thinks and acts because the systems are different between our countries. We know there will be arguments/disagreements and that many of them will be over what are ultimately inconsequential matters.

BUT there will also be good and great times. I will have the chance to show her my country and she will get to explore a new country. I will get the chance to "see my country and culture through her eyes" . Instead of just a few weeks a year together we will have nearly the whole year together.

Maybe my perspective is different because my intended and I have been together in a long distance relationship for many years and not just a few weeks or months. Maybe my perspective is different for any one of a number of other reasons but this IS my perspective.

A great vacation can not be compared or equated to a good [or great] marriage.

[EAS 45]

question.. i am a us citizen who brought future bride to the usa on k-1 visa and we married in texas in july, 2010. while she was still on the initial 2 year conditional resident visa, my spouse (immigrant) disappeared one day after an argument. i, the us citizen immediately filed for and received a legal divorce in texas. we have since tried everything possible to reconcile numerous times over the next 2 years (from divorced 07/2011 to 07/2013) but the marriage is not supportable. we have filed an i-751 as a couple and await response from immigration after they requested additional documentation of the marriage relationship. again, these document were filed as a couple. the us citizen has purchased airline tickets four times in 2013 requesting immigrant spouse to go home. she refuses to leave citizen's physical residence. she also refers to citizen spouse as such things as abusive and violent which is not true. my immigrant spouse speaks english but she does not fully understand the english language and how damaging her words can be to a man in the us. i feel my reputation is threatened by her and i believe she is extremely verbally abusive to me.

to complicate matters she has a 13 year old daughter living with us here in usa (attached to spouse's k1 visa). the daughter did return to her home country for over one year during the initial 2 year conditional resident visa. how did we get her back into the us? we just flew her back (with her mother) and hoped customs let her in. they did. the daughter now repeatedly refuses to leave the residence or the country. she just says "i won't go". i feel trapped. i feel i am being used to pay their expenses. we do not have a relationship. i do not know what i can legally do about this situation. their residence has been temporarily extended one year beyond the original two years while awaiting response to i-751.

note; she (spouse left the usa from 05/2011 to 07/2011 and from 04/2012 to 07/2012 (breakups)

the daughter left the usa with her from 05/2011 and did not return until 02/2013 (22 months).

here are my questions..at

what can the us citizen do to end this situation and get this woman to leave me?

will immigration extend her residence for another 10 years under this circumstance?

is the us citizen responsible for the immigrant ex-spouse's financial support forever in spite that we have not been married for two years now?

do you know how to find a texas immigration attorney that will advise the citizen?

final concern; it seems the immigrant has all the rights while the citizen does not have any???

Go back to court? Why? he had the house before she got there, so I assume it iss still in his name. Call the police and show them the Deed and he will escourt them out immeadiately. No fuss no muss.

The real issue here is the man has a heart. I know how that is, my ex was supported fully in another home by me for 6 months after she left while we were, "working things out". Used me up big time during that time. But I was able to leave the relationship with a clear conscious... Worth a lot to me.

Until the OP decides he has truly had enough though, there is nothing to do. The truth is, you have worked on the issue, she has rejected you, so yes, you kick her out on to the streets. Harsh, yes... but SHE made that decision, not you. Hell you would probably let her stay indefinately if she just treated you with respect. She has chosen not to. What you are in danger of now is abuse claims, so be very very careful. I would worry, if I were you, that if you allow her to stay, some day she will have a bruise over her eye and the police will meet you at the door. I would suggest strongly that you end this now, forcebly, ESPECIALLY since there has already been abuse talk by her.

I know it sucks, but being used always sucks. It is up to you how long you allow it to suck. The fact is, there is no way to save this relationship. She is using you and that is all there is to it. The only question is how long will you endure it...

Sorry for you situation.

I am surprised that you haven't received more advice with respect to this issue.

I know your latest post states that the two interlopers are supposed to leave on Sunday, 28 July 2013 but I just want to add that should they not leave then you should do everything in your power to disassociate yourself with them. You should never be alone with them and certainly they should not be living in the same residence as you.

I have read that you think the ex-wife is a "good person" but accusations of abuse where none exists [as you state] is very troubling. What if you are accused of child abuse, mental cruelty, etc.? You are already in a position where the interlopers have refused to depart your residence after it is clear that there is no longer a viable relationship. What other steps might one or the other or both take in order to protect/achieve their interests? I don't know them but you do. Use your best judgement and don't think with your emotions.

Edited July 28, 2013 by EAS

[yorubaqueen13 28]

I can understand that you regret your situation as it is described but I can not agree with your last two sentences.

I don't know how others feel about their relationships; and really their relationships are not my concern. However, I can say that taking " ... a great vacation ALONE!" is no where near what I want when thinking about the woman who will soon be my wife. I know this because I have taken great vacations both alone and with her.

Being married and living with someone is not going to be the same as being on vacation. I understand there will be big changes for both of us. I know that I will have to be more understanding and forgiving because she will be adjusting to a new culture and way of life. She knows that she will have to make changes to the way she thinks and acts because the systems are different between our countries. We know there will be arguments/disagreements and that many of them will be over what are ultimately inconsequential matters.

BUT there will also be good and great times. I will have the chance to show her my country and she will get to explore a new country. I will get the chance to "see my country and culture through her eyes" . Instead of just a few weeks a year together we will have nearly the whole year together.

Maybe my perspective is different because my intended and I have been together in a long distance relationship for many years and not just a few weeks or months. Maybe my perspective is different for any one of a number of other reasons but this IS my perspective.

A great vacation can not be compared or equated to a good [or great] marriage.

I think OP was just venting, dont take it personal... Lol I agree tho, I know my relationship is worth the risk & I knew long before accepting a marriage purposal hes who I was meant to b with... This is an unfortunate circumstance... Some relationships dont work & its always hard to swallow when u have put precious time & $$ into it.. But one things for sure, taking risks u stand to lose sumthing, take no risks & never gain anything.... Lifes a gamble.. Ya win sum ya lose sum....

[himher 634]

PLEASE be extremely careful if you bring ANYONE to this country on a K-1 Visa. Your life and your freedom hang in the balance.

Good grief. It's not the end of the world. Any marriage can have problems and any marriage can end. Once the marriage ends and the two people move on and go their own way they both get their life and freedom back.

Judging by the way you handled things you're lucky you didn't marry a redneck girl from the trailer park. She would own your house by now.

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

OP, if you really want to help others you should tell your story to include how you met, how long your courtship was, etc You know the regular boy meets girls story except that this occured where Girl lived thousands of miles away.

Just a thought.

[himher 634]

I'm completely and thoroughly confused by OPs actions so far and frankly lost for words. A rarity for me on VJ.

Good luck to all concerned.

LOL post above added to "favorites"

[Darnell 8,478]

OP - write again when you return from airport, aye?

[aaastircrazy 2]

i agree with most of your comments. i hope for the guy EAS who is dreaming of the wonderful life he will have when his fiance arrives is correct. what if she does not embrace your country? what if she is resentful about it all? what if she does not care to see your country. what if she is impatient and does not understand your words? what is she takes everything in the most negative way? what if she is a hothead? what if she disappears one day? what if she turns your own family against you? what if she says you are violent when she does not understand the meaning of the word, she can destroy you?

it's easy to be excited when you have not lived it. what you described is what i expected also. it is not what i got. i spent thousands of hours with her online and i spent 2-3 months in her country before she came here. i just want her to go away so i can have my home, my life and my good reputation back. don't be naive. i realize i could have married someone local with the same outcome. i pray for you EAS that it goes well for you but don't be a fool like me. as you have done so far, do your homework and be as sure as possible before she comes. good luck to you EAS!

himher comments are just not useful or necessary. you spend what i spent, sacrifice what i did then tell me its no big deal. this has cost me a small fortune for nothing. i hope it works for you. me? no mas!

before i did this a friend of mine who married a russian woman told me "be sure this is what you want, plan to spend thousands of dollars and untold hours in paperwork, be prepared for years of struggle and then hope immigration works and hope the woman you pick is right for you". this is excellent advice for anyone. i would not recommend the k-1 process to anyone ever. divorce is rampant in us. somehow we think an immigrant will be different. NOT!

i'll write my story here if/when it is over..

[St&Sv 33]

i agree with most of your comments. i hope for the guy EAS who is dreaming of the wonderful life he will have when his fiance arrives is correct. what if she does not embrace your country? what if she is resentful about it all? what if she does not care to see your country. what if she is impatient and does not understand your words? what is she takes everything in the most negative way? what if she is a hothead? what if she disappears one day? what if she turns your own family against you? what if she says you are violent when she does not understand the meaning of the word, she can destroy you?

it's easy to be excited when you have not lived it. what you described is what i expected also. it is not what i got. i spent thousands of hours with her online and i spent 2-3 months in her country before she came here. i just want her to go away so i can have my home, my life and my good reputation back. don't be naive. i realize i could have married someone local with the same outcome. i pray for you EAS that it goes well for you but don't be a fool like me. as you have done so far, do your homework and be as sure as possible before she comes. good luck to you EAS!

himher comments are just not useful or necessary. you spend what i spent, sacrifice what i did then tell me its no big deal. this has cost me a small fortune for nothing. i hope it works for you. me? no mas!

before i did this a friend of mine who married a russian woman told me "be sure this is what you want, plan to spend thousands of dollars and untold hours in paperwork, be prepared for years of struggle and then hope immigration works and hope the woman you pick is right for you". this is excellent advice for anyone. i would not recommend the k-1 process to anyone ever. divorce is rampant in us. somehow we think an immigrant will be different. NOT!

i'll write my story here if/when it is over..

Many of us are sympathetic to your situation, but each one of us should also go into our relationships knowing that this can happen. That though we have a great distance relations with someone that it can change as soon as you are together. If both of you are independent and enjoy your space, do you think you will do well living with each other without having things in place to still have these feelings? Are you open to truly sharing your life with someone? Without believing that this is my place, or my things, but now our possessions (understand he/she is pretty much just coming with the clothes on their backs). Are you really up for the task of having someone (an adult) dependent on you while they adjust to the country, and being strong enough to help them? Can you be patient, understanding, compassionate, open, and driven enough to do it? Can you both truly communicate with each other?

At some point in the relationship you have to put feelings aside, reassess it, and say "Is this really a good fit for BOTH of us". Some of us get caught up in our hearts, just like any would with a domestic relationship, and make decisions based on it and not our heads. This is a gamble for all of us, just as life is. We can think about how things are going to be, we can talk about it, and we can prepare for it, but we won't know until it actually happens. It's easy to romanticize and fantasy about it, because those thoughts are still created in our own little worlds. I will never truly know what it will be like for anyone to relocate here because this is our country and our system, and we rarely accept any other one. So we have to do our best to make it feel like theirs as well but also have a good understanding of where they are coming from.

Part of you sounds like a good person who wants to try to do the right thing in your own eyes, and I do hope you and her are able to get your lives back in order and past this point. However, I want to say that part of me feels you are being ignorant as well with the way you refer to her. You have several times referred to her as "The or An Immigrant" in a way that comes off as her being inferior and ungrateful. This may be your just be your feelings coming out, which is unacceptable, but understandable.

Anyways best of luck and I do hope they get on the plane tomorrow. For any of us who will try to judge either of you just remember it could be us. Both of them have a long road to go to repair their lives. He has to rebuild here and she will have to rebuild back in her home country as well. We will never have the true story about you and her, as we will only read it and interrupt it in our own ways.

Edited July 29, 2013 by St&Sv

[Amber & Ahmed 133]

Yorubaqueen13... Too funny!!! Too true!!! Lol

[EAS 45]

I think OP was just venting, dont take it personal... {CUT}.... Lifes a gamble.. Ya win sum ya lose sum....

I am not taking it personal, just giving a different perspective on the matter.

[aaastircrazy 2]

ok well once again thank you to everyone who wrote on this topic. i wish you all well and i hope your relationships go much better than mine. she and her daughter are boarding a plane from houston to colombia right now. yes she went home tonight. i took her to the airport, of course now i miss her alot. but it was just not going to work out. she will be home in bogota in the morning. thanks again all. i really appreciate you all writing. yes you too EAS and i really hope you have a great marriage. God bless all of you!