Feeling guilty...

[Dean iWait 0]

Why do you need a "real" diamond at this point? You can always get one down the road. Check this site if you want a ring between $100 to $200. Maybe your fiance can afford that much. My mom has one and she took it to 3 different jewlers to have appraised and not one of them was able to tell it was not a real diamond.

http://www.qvc.com/qic/qvcapp.aspx/app.nav...THEAD-_-JEWELRY

They mustn't have been good jewelers!

Ok guys, off I go to finshi my day....ttyl

Actually they are quite good. And the rings are also quite beautiful. Glad to see there is no shortage of ignorance here today.

[Shemmy 4]

I didn't get an engagement ring until our first wedding anniversary. It wasn't an overly expensive one even then, but I didn't know I was getting it, he saved for it without me knowing (and I'm the money-watcher!) and he picked it out himself, did beautifully I might add.

I know it's every little girls dream to have the wedding and the ring and all the frills, but nothing about any of our relationships is conventional from the beginning anyway, why not do this all a$$-backwards too!!

I agree with you. My husband and I wore gold wedding bands until recently. He couldn't afford to buy an expensive ring when we got married. I could have bought my own or use my credit but I didn't want to hurt his feelings. The gold band reminds of everything we've been through to be together.

My husband surprised with me with a diamond ring last week (marked his 2nd year in the US)...it isn't a wedding ring but why be traditional. I love both rings but love him much more

[Jenn! 918]

I'm back to looking at wedding rings again, and I can't help feeling like a selfish b!tch. Réjean (my Canadian fiancé) isn't going to be able to afford to get me a wedding ring. If I want one (or at least one that I can tolerate), I'm going to have to buy it myself. He can't afford one on top of the costs he's going to incur for the medical and the visa fee... plus who knows how on earth we'll get his stuff here...

I guess I'm just really disappointed. I shouldn't be... and I feel terrible that I am, but I can't help it. I should be incredibly happy that I get to bring him here and be with him... still... arrrgh.

Anyone have any tips on how to deal with it? Anyone been in the same situation? Even knowing that I'm not alone will help.

Yes, you are a a selfish b!tch. You already have what a lot of women dream of and will never find. What will you do if you have a real problem some time in your life?

Tsk. Tsk. Tsk, Gary.

[anya-D 8]

I havnt read all of the answer... but I have some suggestion

Try EBAY!!!!

we tried to look on Ebay for my ring before we decided to use the one i have now (it' doesnt cost much either) But I like a lot of the ring on ebay and it's not that expensive .. some diamond have some flaws (mine has one but we design the band to cover it up so u cant see it) but depend on the desihn u want if it can cover the flow or not.. it's cheap and Bram said it's quite trustworthy with the certificate that comes witht he ring..

Just try to look there.

For me I dont really care (hack my diamond is the old one he has since very young and initially gave to his gf then.. He was soooo stress about that but I told him it's ok.. I dont mind.. at least it's not in the same satting anyway ) But our love is still strong and getting stronger every day

[garya505 2]

I'm back to looking at wedding rings again, and I can't help feeling like a selfish b!tch. Réjean (my Canadian fiancé) isn't going to be able to afford to get me a wedding ring. If I want one (or at least one that I can tolerate), I'm going to have to buy it myself. He can't afford one on top of the costs he's going to incur for the medical and the visa fee... plus who knows how on earth we'll get his stuff here...

I guess I'm just really disappointed. I shouldn't be... and I feel terrible that I am, but I can't help it. I should be incredibly happy that I get to bring him here and be with him... still... arrrgh.

Anyone have any tips on how to deal with it? Anyone been in the same situation? Even knowing that I'm not alone will help.

Yes, you are a a selfish b!tch. You already have what a lot of women dream of and will never find. What will you do if you have a real problem some time in your life?

Tsk. Tsk. Tsk, Gary.

[Alex+R 0]

I'm back to looking at wedding rings again, and I can't help feeling like a selfish b!tch. Réjean (my Canadian fiancé) isn't going to be able to afford to get me a wedding ring. If I want one (or at least one that I can tolerate), I'm going to have to buy it myself. He can't afford one on top of the costs he's going to incur for the medical and the visa fee... plus who knows how on earth we'll get his stuff here...

I guess I'm just really disappointed. I shouldn't be... and I feel terrible that I am, but I can't help it. I should be incredibly happy that I get to bring him here and be with him... still... arrrgh.

Anyone have any tips on how to deal with it? Anyone been in the same situation? Even knowing that I'm not alone will help.

Yes, you are a a selfish b!tch. You already have what a lot of women dream of and will never find. What will you do if you have a real problem some time in your life?

Tsk. Tsk. Tsk, Gary.

What are you winking about? What you said was horrible.

[tmma 467]

Why do you need a "real" diamond at this point? You can always get one down the road. Check this site if you want a ring between $100 to $200. Maybe your fiance can afford that much. My mom has one and she took it to 3 different jewlers to have appraised and not one of them was able to tell it was not a real diamond.

http://www.qvc.com/qic/qvcapp.aspx/app.nav...THEAD-_-JEWELRY

They mustn't have been good jewelers!

Ok guys, off I go to finshi my day....ttyl

Actually they are quite good. And the rings are also quite beautiful. Glad to see there is no shortage of ignorance here today.

hmmmmm....I do not think Lisa is being ignorant.......I am sure the rings you mention ARE beautiful, but as far as a jeweller NOT being able to tell it from a genuine diamond, I find that hard to believe.

AGS appraisors and most jewellers ( I go to anyway) use a combination of weight ( a 1 carat diamond carries less actual weight than a say CZ or manufactured diamond...), refraction about the cut under certain wavelengths of pointed light ( the symmetry and light refraction will be different) and various other methods they have at their disposal.

Here is a handy website for those interested. a jeweller is explaining the process jewellers use to tell. It does take more than a cursory glance under a loupe.

http://www.diamond.info/forum/index.php?sh...p;#entry9584der

Edited December 1, 2006 by tmma

[Sinergy 3]

Me and my husband deffinatly could not afford rings when we got married. In romania that is. even now we couldnt. his mom gave me a red gold ring that has been pasted down for 65 yrs to all the women in the family, and since she thinks of me as her daughter then i got it. i love it with all my heart, not just bc it is the ring edi placed on my finger on our wedding day, but bc it makes me feel good knowing it was passed down to me. i never want anything more.

as far as an engagment ring, my husband had NO money. and when he proposed over 2 years ago he worked for his dad in his medieval mueseum until he gathered enough money to buy me a ring. it didnt last long, it did eventually turn my finger to bla after a year, but just to see the joy on his face to give me this ring was so wonderful i wouldnt have cared if it was a cheerio!

Edited December 1, 2006 by Ionescu

[Trompe le Monde 1,107]

You know, I felt incredibly guilty finding out (by accident) what my husband paid for my rings when he was here and couldn't work without an EAD

At the end of the day, leaving everything behind and coming here -- for me alone -- was better than any ring (though I love them and they are beautiful)

[Hilarious Clinton 452]

The size of the woman's diamond is inversely proportional to the size of the man's #######.

[peezey 0]

I'm back to looking at wedding rings again, and I can't help feeling like a selfish b!tch. Réjean (my Canadian fiancé) isn't going to be able to afford to get me a wedding ring. If I want one (or at least one that I can tolerate), I'm going to have to buy it myself. He can't afford one on top of the costs he's going to incur for the medical and the visa fee... plus who knows how on earth we'll get his stuff here...

I guess I'm just really disappointed. I shouldn't be... and I feel terrible that I am, but I can't help it. I should be incredibly happy that I get to bring him here and be with him... still... arrrgh.

Anyone have any tips on how to deal with it? Anyone been in the same situation? Even knowing that I'm not alone will help.

We talked about diamonds in another thread a couple days ago, there are great links there to syntetic diamonds. I bought the most gorgeous asscher cut, antique style, 3.5 carat ring on ebay for $29.95. Everyone thinks it's real, and on top of that, it's sparkly, stunning, and totally my style, which is something I couldn't find in regular jewelry stores.

[garya505 2]

I'm back to looking at wedding rings again, and I can't help feeling like a selfish b!tch. Réjean (my Canadian fiancé) isn't going to be able to afford to get me a wedding ring. If I want one (or at least one that I can tolerate), I'm going to have to buy it myself. He can't afford one on top of the costs he's going to incur for the medical and the visa fee... plus who knows how on earth we'll get his stuff here...

I guess I'm just really disappointed. I shouldn't be... and I feel terrible that I am, but I can't help it. I should be incredibly happy that I get to bring him here and be with him... still... arrrgh.

Anyone have any tips on how to deal with it? Anyone been in the same situation? Even knowing that I'm not alone will help.

Yes, you are a a selfish b!tch. You already have what a lot of women dream of and will never find. What will you do if you have a real problem some time in your life?

Tsk. Tsk. Tsk, Gary.

What are you winking about? What you said was horrible.

Horrible? It's time for a reality check, people. The OP has found her real love. I'll tell you what's horrible. A lot of women dream of finding their one true love and never find it. I have seen how some of these women live, in loneliness, poverty and despair. These are nice, honest women who just can't find an honest and faithful guy who will just love them. They meet man after man, all liars, cheaters or game players. Sometimes they want to give up, yet they keep trying. Some of the stories I have heard have brought tears to my eyes.

So don't tell me what's horrible. The OP is worried about a stupid ring. Give me a fcuking break.

[peezey 0]

Why do you need a "real" diamond at this point? You can always get one down the road. Check this site if you want a ring between $100 to $200. Maybe your fiance can afford that much. My mom has one and she took it to 3 different jewlers to have appraised and not one of them was able to tell it was not a real diamond.

http://www.qvc.com/qic/qvcapp.aspx/app.nav...THEAD-_-JEWELRY

My mom has a bunch of this stuff an no one knows, not even jewelers, and the jewelry is lovely.

I'm back to looking at wedding rings again, and I can't help feeling like a selfish b!tch. Réjean (my Canadian fiancé) isn't going to be able to afford to get me a wedding ring. If I want one (or at least one that I can tolerate), I'm going to have to buy it myself. He can't afford one on top of the costs he's going to incur for the medical and the visa fee... plus who knows how on earth we'll get his stuff here...

I guess I'm just really disappointed. I shouldn't be... and I feel terrible that I am, but I can't help it. I should be incredibly happy that I get to bring him here and be with him... still... arrrgh.

Anyone have any tips on how to deal with it? Anyone been in the same situation? Even knowing that I'm not alone will help.

Yes, you are a a selfish b!tch. You already have what a lot of women dream of and will never find. What will you do if you have a real problem some time in your life?

Tsk. Tsk. Tsk, Gary.

What are you winking about? What you said was horrible.

Horrible? It's time for a reality check, people. The OP has found her real love. I'll tell you what's horrible. A lot of women dream of finding their one true love and never find it. I have seen how some of these women live, in loneliness, poverty and despair. These are nice, honest women who just can't find an honest and faithful guy who will just love them. They meet man after man, all liars, cheaters or game players. Sometimes they want to give up, yet they keep trying. Some of the stories I have heard have brought tears to my eyes.

So don't tell me what's horrible. The OP is worried about a stupid ring. Give me a fcuking break.

And every worry and thought you've ever had has been totally reasonable and based in reality?

And why call her a name? That was the horrible part.

[Alex+R 0]

Gary, I'm surprised you routinely parade around as the most devout Christian and then pass that kind of judgement.

Actually, I'm not surprised.

[garya505 2]

Why do you need a "real" diamond at this point? You can always get one down the road. Check this site if you want a ring between $100 to $200. Maybe your fiance can afford that much. My mom has one and she took it to 3 different jewlers to have appraised and not one of them was able to tell it was not a real diamond.

http://www.qvc.com/qic/qvcapp.aspx/app.nav...THEAD-_-JEWELRY

My mom has a bunch of this stuff an no one knows, not even jewelers, and the jewelry is lovely.

I'm back to looking at wedding rings again, and I can't help feeling like a selfish b!tch. Réjean (my Canadian fiancé) isn't going to be able to afford to get me a wedding ring. If I want one (or at least one that I can tolerate), I'm going to have to buy it myself. He can't afford one on top of the costs he's going to incur for the medical and the visa fee... plus who knows how on earth we'll get his stuff here...

I guess I'm just really disappointed. I shouldn't be... and I feel terrible that I am, but I can't help it. I should be incredibly happy that I get to bring him here and be with him... still... arrrgh.

Anyone have any tips on how to deal with it? Anyone been in the same situation? Even knowing that I'm not alone will help.

Yes, you are a a selfish b!tch. You already have what a lot of women dream of and will never find. What will you do if you have a real problem some time in your life?

Tsk. Tsk. Tsk, Gary.

What are you winking about? What you said was horrible.

Horrible? It's time for a reality check, people. The OP has found her real love. I'll tell you what's horrible. A lot of women dream of finding their one true love and never find it. I have seen how some of these women live, in loneliness, poverty and despair. These are nice, honest women who just can't find an honest and faithful guy who will just love them. They meet man after man, all liars, cheaters or game players. Sometimes they want to give up, yet they keep trying. Some of the stories I have heard have brought tears to my eyes.

So don't tell me what's horrible. The OP is worried about a stupid ring. Give me a fcuking break.

And every worry and thought you've ever had has been totally reasonable and based in reality?

And why call her a name? That was the horrible part.

Maybe you didn't read the original post. She said "I can't help feeling like a selfish b!tch".

Gary, I'm surprised you routinely parade around as the most devout Christian and then pass that kind of judgement.

Actually, I'm not surprised.

Maybe you didn't read the original post either. She said "I can't help feeling like a selfish b!tch", so I was just confirming her feeling.

Some people have real problems, but the OP does not.