Fradulent husband married for a visa

[Azure30 22]

Day two of this process and seems like its not getting easier, but I'm not hurt as much...Surrounding myself with positive supportive people is benefiting me. Thankful, my husband called me and wanted to fix things, and wanted a second chance. I just don't understand I asked him to head to counseling several times and wanted a second chance. It seems like he realized that his parents will have a longer journey to immigrate to the USA once we are divorced. He didn't call me the day I left or stop me when I walked out of my house, instead was smiling. Just irritating, that my parents are seeing a man wanting to work things out now.....His mom started calling me as well and this woman was aware of our situation and told me to wait and he'd grow up. Changing my phone number today, don't need this negativity.

Have you filed for divorce as yet Taal?

[taal 28]

I got away this weekend my friends took me to Napa, its been a nice get away. My brother joined and was proud of me said he understands what I'm going through and wants me to stay happy... I love my brother so sweet, always trying to make the situation better than it is. He was always against arranged marriages especially overseas, for me. Said it will be a setback, trying to get someone settled being a woman. But I am still in Napa and enjoying every minute of it. Away from the chaos, some where quiet and relaxing. Away from the world. Glad am a short drive away from this place.

[InHisTime 110]

I got away this weekend my friends took me to Napa, its been a nice get away. My brother joined and was proud of me said he understands what I'm going through and wants me to stay happy... I love my brother so sweet, always trying to make the situation better than it is. He was always against arranged marriages especially overseas, for me. Said it will be a setback, trying to get someone settled being a woman. But I am still in Napa and enjoying every minute of it. Away from the chaos, some where quiet and relaxing. Away from the world. Glad am a short drive away from this place.

Hey ! enjoy good life....it comes once ! and no worry.......keep your head up you have a sweet brother, thank God and God bless you !

Edited July 28, 2013 by InHisTime

[Eric-Pris 1,606]

Hopefully, by now, you have realized that he only wants a second chance to get ROC and USC. He doesn't care for you, he made that clear based on what you wrote.

I think you are seeing things clearly now and I don't think you will be swindled by this scammer again. Good luck.

[rosaline 8]

Why do ppl always think that its just a visa the immigrant wants.The USC brings ppl here and control,issolate and do them all kinds of things and then cry fraud.The immigration is not stupid.It happens everyday.If you get both sides of the story,then you would realise what really happens.Not because USC brings an immigrant here they would need to stick all the nonsense the do.Im so tired hearing these USC cry fowl.BS

[Eric-Pris 1,606]

Why do ppl always think that its just a visa the immigrant wants.The USC brings ppl here and control,issolate and do them all kinds of things and then cry fraud.The immigration is not stupid.It happens everyday.If you get both sides of the story,then you would realise what really happens.Not because USC brings an immigrant here they would need to stick all the nonsense the do.Im so tired hearing these USC cry fowl.BS

When your dear immigrant spouse tells you that he only used you to get the visa, and then offers to pay you $20,000 to keep quiet, I'd say he's a P.O.S. scammer. Pretty hard to convince anybody that you are straight up after that. Obviously, we can only go by what the OP has told us.

Nobody is saying all immigrants are bad. 99% are good hearted people, but it's that 1 in 100 that's a conniving, cruel, heartless scammer.

[taal 28]

Update: My soon to be x husband told my parents he feels uncomfortable leaving with them now, and would prefer to move to Texas and live with his cousin. He told my family he wanted them to side with him when this divorce trial came forth. I called my family and agreed to give him a second chance. He did not ever imagine that would occur. He was hesitant and when he was holding back it made my parents suspicious. That he was the one that has been pushing for a second chance since I left, and now when I agreed, he decided other wise. When my brother pushed me to come inside, my family was glad to see me. But it didn't go so well with my x.....Instead he called extended family and left the house. Which proved to my parents that maybe I wasn't entirely at fault...But I refused to remain at my residence, I don't need to deal with added stress, my parents disagreed, but am grown.

[Darnell 8,478]

so, you called his 'bluff' on the second try/chance,

and the result was that he left?

IMO - that proves up (to your parents) all of this prior stuff, to an extent that's meaningful.

Stay strong, and IMO, continue on with the filing of the divorce/annulment.

IMO, an annulment is more powerful, as his basis of receiving a green card is yanked, and once it's granted (the annulment) then you have a pile of evidence to give to USCIS/FDNS.

[Ryan_and_Priscy 16]

Update: My soon to be x husband told my parents he feels uncomfortable leaving with them now, and would prefer to move to Texas and live with his cousin. He told my family he wanted them to side with him when this divorce trial came forth. I called my family and agreed to give him a second chance. He did not ever imagine that would occur. He was hesitant and when he was holding back it made my parents suspicious. That he was the one that has been pushing for a second chance since I left, and now when I agreed, he decided other wise. When my brother pushed me to come inside, my family was glad to see me. But it didn't go so well with my x.....Instead he called extended family and left the house. Which proved to my parents that maybe I wasn't entirely at fault...But I refused to remain at my residence, I don't need to deal with added stress, my parents disagreed, but am grown.

Taal, my husband's mother went through a similar experience, though his parents are both Americans. I don't really like to talk about them since it is their life but when I read your last post, I can just connect one thing, one behavior from both men (your soon to be ex-husband and my husband's father), they are manipulative.

When my mom in law told us everything it was clear that she finally stood up for herself and left that cloudy marriage. 30 years she endured because she tried not only once but many times to save her marriage. Sometimes we try to give people a second chance, and we do, but it is up to the other person that they will appreciate that opportunity and become better people.

My father in law, when recently married her, told her parents that he only married her because he needed someone to take after his kids from the previous marriage.

We lived with them for the first two years of our marriage (not because we wanted but our economic situation and my husband's health was in danger). After we moved to our place, she seemed more sad and alone... my father in law had the nerve to say to my husband, when he was so sick that he did not love his wife anymore, however, he loved her in his own way. (We always wondered what way he was referring to)

One day my mom in law came to visit us alone and told us that she was filing for divorce. The man was shocked. Why? He was always saying to her: I want divorce, I don't want to live with you anymore, I want divorce. But he never filed for it either. When she finally stood up for herself and said: Fine, you and I are divorcing and she gave him the papers, he could not believe it.

Although until today he says to others that their relationship was loving, caring and faithful. None of these are true. When someone takes ownership of your own salary and hides financial information, lies about affairs, and is always controlling your life, it is not a loving, caring and faithful relationship.

And without letting her know that he was thinking to leave her, one day she came home from work and found just a note. He was gone. Well, he is an old man and accountable for his actions. That was enough for my husband and brother in law to lose all trust in their father.

My mom in law is an amazing woman, after everything she went through, her now freedom was almost scaring for her, but she is fine and living on her own and embracing her life.

This is your time too and embrace life at full!

[Brian1967## 119]

Read my Post on how to report him for Fraud, DO NOT call ICE they do not investigate small fraud cases like yours, they only will direct you to call the USCIS 1800 number

[verysadguy 170]

Why do ppl always think that its just a visa the immigrant wants.The USC brings ppl here and control,issolate and do them all kinds of things and then cry fraud.The immigration is not stupid.It happens everyday.If you get both sides of the story,then you would realise what really happens.Not because USC brings an immigrant here they would need to stick all the nonsense the do.Im so tired hearing these USC cry fowl.BS

Rosaline,

Fraud is rampant in immigration. When there is the opportunity to easily scam people for benefits and get free money from US assistance programs people from foreign nations will come here in droves and they do. Yes, there are plenty of true love stories, but there are thousands and thousands of scams out there. USCIS even states about 30% of K-1 submissions are fraudulent.

Also, Brian is right ICE won't go after the little cases when they have drugs, smuggling, murder, gang members, thieves, etc to deal with. Fraud is generally dealt with by HSI benefits fraud people and its best to send evidence to USCIS. The system is overwhelmed with fraud.

As for the OP, her husband is a pathological liar and possibly a sociopath. She needs to close the chapter and move on.

[Hypnos 6,576]

USCIS even states about 30% of K-1 submissions are fraudulent.

I think I asked you for a source the last time you rolled out that statistic and you couldn't provide one.

Is there fraud in the K-1 system? Absolutely. Is it 30%? I very much doubt it's close to half that number.

Edited August 1, 2013 by Hypnos

[verysadguy 170]

I think I asked you for a source the last time you rolled out that statistic and you couldn't provide one.

oy vey hypnos....can't you do your own research? LOL

A survey completed by the United States Immigration and Naturalization Service (INS) in the 1980s found approximately 30% of these marriages are under suspicion of fraud. Fraudulent marriage is any marriage that has been entered into with the sole purpose of circumventing the law. According to the Immigration and Nationality Act (INA), Act 255 [8 U.S.C 1325], the consequences of entering into a marriage in order to evade the law include incarceration for up to five years, a fine of up to $250,000, or both.^[7]

Other fraud concerns include routine romance scam or romance fraud, usually victimizing the American petitioner, as well as attempts by foreigners to pay an American to knowingly enter into a sham marriage.

^ US Department of Justice, "1948 Marriage Fraud—8 U.S.C. § 1325© and 18 U.S.C. § 1546", US Attorneys Manual, Title 9, Criminal Resource Manual.

[Hypnos 6,576]

Ah, so from around thirty years ago. Not really relevant to today's discussion then.

[verysadguy 170]

Ah, so from around thirty years ago. Not really relevant to today's discussion then.

You're an interesting bloke hypnos...it's possibly higher now...and USCIS might have fewer resources to do anything about it.

All of a sudden 3rd world countries and their citizens became more ethical in the last 30 years? I don't think so.

http://frontpagemag.com/2013/volpe/turning-a-blind-eye-to-immigration-fraud/

http://www.ice.gov/removal-statistics/ (I don't see fraud in this graph, do you?)

http://www.uscis.gov/USCIS/Outreach/Notes%20from%20Previous%20Engagements/2012/March%202012/AILA_Field_Ops_32112_Cleared.pdf

http://www.cis.org/marriagefraud

But I'm sure there is no fraud now. LOL.

Ah, so from around thirty years ago. Not really relevant to today's discussion then.

You're an interesting bloke hypnos...it's possibly higher now...and USCIS might have fewer resources to do anything about it.

All of a sudden 3rd world countries and their citizens became more ethical in the last 30 years? I don't think so.

http://frontpagemag.com/2013/volpe/turning-a-blind-eye-to-immigration-fraud/

http://www.ice.gov/removal-statistics/ (I don't see fraud in this graph, do you?)

http://www.uscis.gov/USCIS/Outreach/Notes%20from%20Previous%20Engagements/2012/March%202012/AILA_Field_Ops_32112_Cleared.pdf

http://www.cis.org/marriagefraud

But I'm sure there is no fraud now. LOL.