Fradulent husband married for a visa

[catknit 144]

There is no girl in India, even if he was the one to say there was.

Anyone believing this conspiracy may as well line up with those who believe the US blew up WTC.

The difference in relationship culture and family drama as seen in India may seem strange to those not familiar with it - do a little research and be amazed by the absolutely crazy stuff that can come from these relationships...also, for kicks, look at MENA for similar issues too. It's all fun to think that there are crazy women who imagine the "true love" back home as some conspiracy theory but there is much, much, much more at play culturally. The sheer amount of infidelity even seen in the subcontinent is astounding. Plus, there is a HUGE reason why Delhi is such a gigantic pain in the backside to get through - this type of thing is tried, ALL THE TIME.

[SingleDad2usc 71]

If there were conspiracy, he would've waited to remove conditions... The man just wants out; and if it were female - everyone here would be advocating for his freedom. The $600 phone didn't keep him, he doesn't want to go out with her, and he may not be enjoying intimacy much. He wants divorce, and he offered to compensate the two trips to India she undertook in pursuit of him. If he were indebted to loan sharks back there, he wouldn't be offering this compensation. He just wants out; what, men don't have the right to walk? There are no children to suffer here, only a broken hearted bride. I'm sure he's sorry for her, and so am I. Just let the man out, this is not an immigration matter at all. She went to get him, she got him, but as she put it "the problems started on first anniversary". Their marriage has been an eternity in Hollywood years

[Ihavequestions 419]

If there were conspiracy, he would've waited to remove conditions... The man just wants out; and if it were female - everyone here would be advocating for his freedom. The $600 phone didn't keep him, he doesn't want to go out with her, and he may not be enjoying intimacy much. He wants divorce, and he offered to compensate the two trips to India she undertook in pursuit of him. If he were indebted to loan sharks back there, he wouldn't be offering this compensation. He just wants out; what, men don't have the right to walk? There are no children to suffer here, only a broken hearted bride. I'm sure he's sorry for her, and so am I. Just let the man out, this is not an immigration matter at all. She went to get him, she got him, but as she put it "the problems started on first anniversary". Their marriage has been an eternity in Hollywood years

He came on a spouse visa and he is quite capable of removing conditions on his own so waiting isn't necessary.

On a side note, I cannot understand why you are still allowed to post on this forum. The person who hopes to twist the word "residence" to mean "residency" and at best offers non-applicable advice, peppered with criticism, about how to obtain welfare benefits, should be banned.

My $.02.

[Harpa Timsah 13,258]

If there were conspiracy, he would've waited to remove conditions... The man just wants out; and if it were female - everyone here would be advocating for his freedom. The $600 phone didn't keep him, he doesn't want to go out with her, and he may not be enjoying intimacy much. He wants divorce, and he offered to compensate the two trips to India she undertook in pursuit of him. If he were indebted to loan sharks back there, he wouldn't be offering this compensation. He just wants out; what, men don't have the right to walk? There are no children to suffer here, only a broken hearted bride. I'm sure he's sorry for her, and so am I. Just let the man out, this is not an immigration matter at all. She went to get him, she got him, but as she put it "the problems started on first anniversary". Their marriage has been an eternity in Hollywood years

Stop.

Waited to remove conditions?? please... most people don't know the next steps in immigration. he waited until he got the the US. One year anniversary of being married... most of that time was spent apart waiting for the visa. He came and said/did this soon after entry.

This is a common scam: get GC, then file for new wife. It's like the number 1 scam in the books. That being said, if it weren't the truth, her testimony is not enough to kick him out. USCIS will do their own investigation.

Your attacking and blaming the victim and pop-psychologizing her is not needed. You side with the man because you only see yourself in this situation. Sad. Disgusting display.

[SingleDad2usc 71]

No, I'm just being objective on the rights of a man in exactly the same position that leads a woman to claim lack of freedom in an unwanted marital relationship with an American man who brought her here. Pinpoint the difference, and I'll be the first to apologize

[dyntyne 11]

But it's not possible to be "objective on the rights of a man in exactly the same position [as a woman]" because gender defines the position itself (Judith Butler, anyone?). Even if he does "just want a divorce," that's going to be much harder on her, as an Indian woman, living within her most immediate social circle, than it will be on him, as an Indian man, living half the world away from his most immediate social circle. There is no "objective" here.

[SingleDad2usc 71]

Why jump into a conspiracy theory only because the person is from India? There has been zero evidence presented that some girl is patiently waiting for great many years to be eventually brought by this man to America. The ONLY evidence presented was: the man has maintained friendly relationship with the bride's parents, who they have been living with no less, and they to this day encourage their daughter to maintain marriage with this man. Why all of a sudden come up with evil conjecture in reference to this man?

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Why jump into a conspiracy theory only because the person is from India? There has been zero evidence presented that some girl is patiently waiting for great many years to be eventually brought by this man to America. The ONLY evidence presented was: the man has maintained friendly relationship with the bride's parents, who they have been living with no less, and they to this day encourage their daughter to maintain marriage with this man. Why all of a sudden come up with evil conjecture in reference to this man?

I'm confused by your post... did you not read the OP? The OP stated that her husband told her he wants to bring his girlfriend to the US. The OP told us he has admitted, on several occasions, that he married her just for a GC. The OP has told us that he offered to "compensate" her for the years lost, to the tune of $25K. She also told us her parents told her it would be a "great embarrassment" if she were to divorce them. She also referenced indian culture... so again, I'm confused by your post.

[dyntyne 11]

We are all talking about possibilities here. None of us really know what's going on. All I'm saying is, based on the evidence from her side of the story, combined with a specific cultural context (which happens to be India), seeking a divorce might be more complicated for this woman than was acknowledged in earlier posts.

[Cathi 5,748]

No, I'm just being objective on the rights of a man in exactly the same position that leads a woman to claim lack of freedom in an unwanted marital relationship with an American man who brought her here. Pinpoint the difference, and I'll be the first to apologize

Did you not read one single word the OP said? Her husband admitted to having another woman and he told her he married her just to get here. Why start arguments and attack the OP for no reason? You are jumping in to defend a man who already admitted he was guilty. SMH

[SingleDad2usc 71]

Your "confusion" may well arise from the bride's confusion. The only FACTS presented were how OP wowed her man, and how he has maintained very friendly relationship with everyone who he has lived with in the US. As to his marital relationship, he asked out. There are no children to get hurt.

Everyone immediately saw buyer's remorse in the story presented by one woman. Not everyone realized that there may be buyer's remorse on behalf of one man in the story, who is voiceless here. We heard nothing to do with love, we heard nothing of person's freedom of choice in America. We only hear conjecture based on one other nation's cultural "norms". So this man has no rights in the U.S.?

P.S. Please, I'm not attacking anyone at all. I'm trying to defend a voiceless man, who may become a victim of "conspiracy theory". As presented, he was just asking for a divorce - and he is not being easily let out

Edited July 23, 2013 by SingleDad2usc

[William33 110]

Removed one post for TOS violations and one quoting. Please refrain from personal attacks on the OP. If you don't have constructive advice, please stay out of the thread.

[Ryan_and_Priscy 16]

I am so upset when I hear people harming others and intentionally. I am sorry Taal!

I am against divorce but that only when there are not based circumstances, your case is different and even though the fraud fact may sound so common, you are in a state of abusive and manipulative marriage. My husband thinks, what about hiring a private detective? A friend also bought a hidden pen microphone that helped her to get at least one of the confessions of her ex. It may work, but above all, don't let anyone control you. Best of wishes!

More 2 cents, if the man is a victim of conspiracy, then why the heck he pretends in front of her family that everything is "OK"? He knows clearly the game he is playing, a reason why Taal's family don't believe and tell her that she needs to work out more in her marriage. Seriously? What else does she need to do? Based on this woman's testimony, where is the evidence that man is "voiceles"? Puaf.

Edited July 23, 2013 by Ryan_and_Priscy

[Cathi 5,748]

Your "confusion" may well arise from the bride's confusion. The only FACTS presented were how OP wowed her man, and how he has maintained very friendly relationship with everyone who he has lived with in the US. As to his marital relationship, he asked out. There are no children to get hurt.

Everyone immediately saw buyer's remorse in the story presented by one woman. Not everyone realized that there may be buyer's remorse on behalf of one man in the story, who is voiceless here. We heard nothing to do with love, we heard nothing of person's freedom of choice in America. We only hear conjecture based on one other nation's cultural "norms". So this man has no rights in the U.S.?

P.S. Please, I'm not attacking anyone at all. I'm trying to defend a voiceless man, who may become a victim of "conspiracy theory". As presented, he was just asking for a divorce - and he is not being easily let out

He TOLD her he married for the sole purpose of getting into America. Seriously READ what she wrote

[SingleDad2usc 71]

I read OP carefully. Then I read a score of opinions that went in one direction only. But this is America, not India. We fall madly in love here, and then we have statistics of every other marriage break up. We have US citizens go overseas and bring a spouse for themselves here, and then a marriage breaks up. But curiously when a woman wants out - she's immediately supported as a victim of unwanted relationship. Here, a man asked out - and there is immediately a multi-year conspiracy theory... Yes, we're being told that he asked to be out more than once. In some of those pleadings, he might have raised "another person" card. He's trying to get out peacefully, all the way maintaining respect with the entire family - who we are told thinks nothing bad of him whatsoever. There are no children to get hurt, only a pride of one American woman who never spoke of love here...

Let the man go. Don't accuse him of atrocious conspiracy on this forum, which happens to be a pure conjecture based simply on the land he comes from. Why do that to voiceless individual based just on gender and nationality? Like other people recommend: get hard evidence or leave The government out of it. This was an arrangement you yourself cultivated via your own deliberate actions over a three-year period. The government gave you what you wanted, everyone was happy. Where was love in all this? Why try to force love now?