Missing My Husband

[salboreni 12]

I have sat here for hours reading different peoples Immigration Timelines....All week I have done this, and checked the status of our I130 each day....I just felt like we would get an answer soon...our NOA1 was March 14 at NBC...I have seen where others who applied around the same time have their NOA2 already..I guess I am just wishing that it was me and my husband. I am an American living in the USA, and he is a Palestinian living in occupied territory in the West Bank....I'm just asking for a few prayers...for this journey, and for his safety...Thanks everyone

Edited July 18, 2013 by salboreni

[VandZ2013 5]

Good Evening. I just wanted to take the time to reach out to you and tell you that I really understand how you feel. I too am awaiting my Palestinian love here in the states and it gets harder and harder everyday. I however am applying for a fiance visa and he is living in Jordan, not the West Bank. I was able to spend about 9 months with him in Jordan before having to return home to await his visa. The first month or so I felt withdrawn and sad because nobody else around me including friends and family could possibly understand the feelings that I was dealing with. I kept saying to my fiance how badly I wished that there was a forum for other people in our situation so that I wouldn't feel so alone. Then I found Visa Journey and initially I was thrilled. But then I started doing the same thing as you. I spent hours upon hours reading other feeds about other people filing for the fiance visa well after I did and getting approved. I started to panic a lot. You also cannot help but to read other forums about other people freaking out and panicking about something that went wrong. This builds anxiety upon anxiety upon anxiety…No Bueno. It finally got to the point where my fiance and I agreed that me going on Visa Journey was more detrimental than beneficial. I started to calm down and just accept that was in God's hands and that everything is going to be ok. I know how much we love each other and that inspired me to acknowledge that there is power in that. We are going to be together no matter what. In my mind its destined or as he loves to tell me, "its written." So I decided to channel my energy into nurturing my now long distance relationship with him and exercising so I can look and feel great when he finally does get here. And then last week OUT OF NOWHERE…I get notification that we were accepted. Now we are moving to the next step and I couldn't be happier. I know its hard my friend but please do your best not to obsess. It can really take a toll on you and your relationship. Try to channel your energy into something positive. I DO LOVE Visa Journey and I'm thankful for the digital community of support that it offers. But make sure that you utilize it to benefit your visa process rather than hinder it. I will keep you in my prayers. I too understand the constant worry for his safety. Enshallah they will be here soon and we can start our lives.

Edited July 18, 2013 by VandZ2013

[TBoneTX 45,971]

*** Thread moved from CR-1 Process forum to the Case Progress subforum. ***

[loversunited 2]

Unfortunately the entire process can be quite a waiting game. I have my NOA1 PD of Jan 30 2013 and when I put that date (back then) into VJ, my estimated approval date was April 20. LOL!

Both of us believed we would be done in April and move on to NVC, finish up in couple months and me be with her by her birthday in August.

It's almost August and no NOA2. We have just decided it isnt worth the frustration of checking everyday to see when we get approved so we focus on other aspects like planning where to live, what to get for the apartment, bills, insurance, food recipes, whether I buy a PS4 or no. The list is endless my friend. I wish we could get approved soon but that is not something in anybody's hands.

We have seen people get approved in 30-50 days of NOA2 and had always hoped we would not cross the 200 day mark! Well, here we stand at the 180 day mark and thinking another 20 days is nothing.

Don't worry. It will get approved soon. The wait only ripens the love.

[i miss u 6]

Ur story got me in tears I know how u feel and I understand everything ur saying I will keep u guys an my duaa everyday ramadan Kareem and inshallah very soon u guys will be together

[salboreni 12]

Wallah, you people are the greatest people.....Inshallah all of this will end soon...I'm so tired of worrying each night because the soldiers are in his village...ransacking homes, or arresting people just because they can, and get by with it....I think I have shed enough tears the past 2 years living apart from him, to fill up the Dead Sea. I have made 3 trips to Jordan already..because I can't go to the West Bank. I feel alone, and I have noone other than him. It makes me feel so blessed to know that there are others in the same situation that we are, and I thank Allah that I at least have someone to talk to here about this. Thank you all...you will never know or understand how you made me feel today. Love you all....no matter where you are

[Melsy Anh 3]

Hi,

My story is quiet different from you guys but the same kind of relationship " long distance relationship" ... after living and working in vietnam costs so much money and didnt work out, my husband had to come back to the USA, we filed CR1 in April and so far just got NOA1.... but life there is not easy either, he has a term contract to work but it will end soon in august and not sure what he is going to do next... he has to stay at his friend's apartment. Distance, different time, money all just come together that make us fighting alot and dont know what to do. now we not talking to each other and have to focus on fix our things in vietnam and the USA. I really dont know what to do....if he could have a full time job then things might be better gradually but it seems like the company doesn't care. He works really hard and tries to learn things, he takes the early morning shifts and keep applying for full time jobs but again they offered it to someone else. I dont know why things are so hard on us all the way, we keep trying ans trying but nothing works out. I have been looking for some "helping groups" on FB hope that someone can help him to get a full time job. Dont know how long it takes for our case but right now we have no way to move forward.....depressed, frustrated, angry, stressful and sad....I pray and pray to Buddha all the time hope that he could help my husband but i dont know .....I'm worried and scared, our future is so blurry and dark. Some people are really lucky but some are not ...I have no emotions for life

[salboreni 12]

I am so sorry.....sometimes these distances take a toll on the relationship...but if you truely love each other...you can muddle through that rough times, and start a new path with each other....Take care always...will be praying for you.

[allyinchicago 8]

hi !!

yes, we know exactly how you feel....I wish I could say this process is easy but really it just sucks. I even had to have our first baby alone in the US because our case was and is still pending.

we reach a year since I filed the I-130 and I am in constant contact with my senator and congressman but no one can make our case move. Not sure what else I can do except wait. But we are currently in Palestine just for a few more weeks then me and the baby are going home. hard to imagine when I will see him again and when will he see our baby...

[salboreni 12]

Oh God, I don't understand why we have to endure this...we are Americans and are free to marry whom we choose. Praying for you!!!

[PalestineMyHeart 1,897]

Wallah, you people are the greatest people.....Inshallah all of this will end soon...I'm so tired of worrying each night because the soldiers are in his village...ransacking homes, or arresting people just because they can, and get by with it....I think I have shed enough tears the past 2 years living apart from him, to fill up the Dead Sea. I have made 3 trips to Jordan already..because I can't go to the West Bank. I feel alone, and I have noone other than him. It makes me feel so blessed to know that there are others in the same situation that we are, and I thank Allah that I at least have someone to talk to here about this. Thank you all...you will never know or understand how you made me feel today. Love you all....no matter where you are

Sorry for your long wait. I know it's so very frustrating.

Just curious - why couldn't/can't you visit the West Bank ??

[salboreni 12]

I can visit, but at the time the danger was very high...so if I go back to see him before this process is over, I will fly into Tel Aviv, and go direct to his village instead of crossing the Allenby Bridge. The problems in the West Bank have become a normalcy. I don't think the problem will ever end.

[a+edarwish 2]

I'm an April filer so I am with you in waiting. My husband is in Egypt and I was planning to go in December for our wedding anniversary. That is no longer happening due the situation in Egypt and danger to Americans which has really hit me hard. Missing my husband feels like an understatement. Sometimes I feel like this whole waiting game is a test, to see if we cave or come out stronger. My husband and I both encourage patience and we try to not focus so much on when he will be here but how to prepare and we just say we will be together soon. Being specific is a bit impossible! I truly hope we will all be with our spouses soon and start seeing approvals. I'm currently waiting on an expedite request and congress inquiry for our i-130.

[scholozy 8]

I'm an April filer so I am with you in waiting. My husband is in Egypt and I was planning to go in December for our wedding anniversary. That is no longer happening due the situation in Egypt and danger to Americans which has really hit me hard. Missing my husband feels like an understatement. Sometimes I feel like this whole waiting game is a test, to see if we cave or come out stronger. My husband and I both encourage patience and we try to not focus so much on when he will be here but how to prepare and we just say we will be together soon. Being specific is a bit impossible! I truly hope we will all be with our spouses soon and start seeing approvals. I'm currently waiting on an expedite request and congress inquiry for our i-130.

I requested for expedite as well, about two weeks ago, still waiting on the mail to deliver the paperwork necessary to do the expedite. I also have the congressional inquiry. I got it back yesterday, and was told we still have 6 months to wait....then i see on the front page of VJ a K1 getting approved in 19 days and I truly just want to kill something. >

[salboreni 12]

I agree with you....it isnt fair that "plans to get married"...take preference over "this is my husband"...but the difference is..when our spouses enter the U.S. they are immediatly issued permanent residence, work etc...I don't care what the government says...I am not going to "cave"...because the government is not going to tell me who I can marry or who I can't...who to love and who not to love...my husband and i will be married one year on September 12, ....I can't even spend our anniversary with him due to the problems in the middle east right now. My husband also tries to get me to remain patient....but when I see so many things unfair about this whole process....it really makes me want to pack the kids up and move to his country...I can't believe all of these people are getting approved in such a short time, from the same service center!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Excuse the word, but it is really pissing me off.