Adjusting

[StupidJourney 0]

I thought of another adjustment..if you've read the other thread, you'll know what I'm talking about. Adjusting to ~ finding humor in something, sharing it, and getting a lecture for 45 minutes as to why it was not funny at all! hehehehehehe the hubster is so adorable sometimes.... I have had my fair share of lessons in good vs bad.. He just has a different take on things than I do sometimes.

All I have to say is

[cbd2cai 0]

One of my friends today was talking to me about adjusting to sharing sleeping space, hehe!!

Well, if you are used to 4 cats in your bed and the hubster says no cats in the bed, then you have a little problem . . . but hopefully are able to work it out.

But what do you do about the covers, hehe!!??? She said something about separate covers and I am wondering how that would all work . . . split the bed in half? 2 sets of sheets and blankets on one bed? I am still boggled about trying to adjust to cold vs hot bedroom . . . i like lots of covers and a cold sleeping room.

Well, I guess time will tell . . .

[sarah and hicham 3]

One of my friends today was talking to me about adjusting to sharing sleeping space, hehe!!

Well, if you are used to 4 cats in your bed and the hubster says no cats in the bed, then you have a little problem . . . but hopefully are able to work it out.

But what do you do about the covers, hehe!!??? She said something about separate covers and I am wondering how that would all work . . . split the bed in half? 2 sets of sheets and blankets on one bed? I am still boggled about trying to adjust to cold vs hot bedroom . . . i like lots of covers and a cold sleeping room.

Well, I guess time will tell . . .

Hicham and I have yet to be able to share covers for an entire night. My comforter is not huge so when he rolls over he takes it all with him. I have blankets waiting on the sidelines in case that happens. It's not worth trying to take them back from him because he just pulls back!

[PalestineMyHeart 1,897]

One of my friends today was talking to me about adjusting to sharing sleeping space, hehe!!

Well, if you are used to 4 cats in your bed and the hubster says no cats in the bed, then you have a little problem . . . but hopefully are able to work it out.

But what do you do about the covers, hehe!!??? She said something about separate covers and I am wondering how that would all work . . . split the bed in half? 2 sets of sheets and blankets on one bed? I am still boggled about trying to adjust to cold vs hot bedroom . . . i like lots of covers and a cold sleeping room.

Well, I guess time will tell . . .

Hicham and I have yet to be able to share covers for an entire night. My comforter is not huge so when he rolls over he takes it all with him. I have blankets waiting on the sidelines in case that happens. It's not worth trying to take them back from him because he just pulls back!

Godddddd Mahmoud is the WORST blanket thief. It doesn't matter how many blankets and pillows we start with.... by the wee hours of the morning, he has them ALL. And he's sprawled diagonally across the bed with his arms and legs every which way... I wake up to find myself freezing and teetering off the edge of one small corner of the bed. *Sigh* I just shove him over and repossess my rightful share of the blankets and pillows.... or go get an extra one from the wardrobe.

We are planning to get a king-sized bed in our next house (need a bigger bedroom for that) .... maybe that will help.

[sarah and hicham 3]

One of my friends today was talking to me about adjusting to sharing sleeping space, hehe!!

Well, if you are used to 4 cats in your bed and the hubster says no cats in the bed, then you have a little problem . . . but hopefully are able to work it out.

But what do you do about the covers, hehe!!??? She said something about separate covers and I am wondering how that would all work . . . split the bed in half? 2 sets of sheets and blankets on one bed? I am still boggled about trying to adjust to cold vs hot bedroom . . . i like lots of covers and a cold sleeping room.

Well, I guess time will tell . . .

Hicham and I have yet to be able to share covers for an entire night. My comforter is not huge so when he rolls over he takes it all with him. I have blankets waiting on the sidelines in case that happens. It's not worth trying to take them back from him because he just pulls back!

Godddddd Mahmoud is the WORST blanket thief. It doesn't matter how many blankets and pillows we start with.... by the wee hours of the morning, he has them ALL. And he's sprawled diagonally across the bed with his arms and legs every which way... I wake up to find myself freezing and teetering off the edge of one small corner of the bed. *Sigh* I just shove him over and repossess my rightful share of the blankets and pillows.... or go get an extra one from the wardrobe.

We are planning to get a king-sized bed in our next house (need a bigger bedroom for that) .... maybe that will help.

haha that sounds so familiar. I always sleep against the wall because I know I won't fall anywhere that way.

[amal 4]

mine likes heavy covers in a hot room. I like few covers in a cold room. we do have seperate blankets at times coz I just can't stand the double sided thick-as-heck blanket that he likes. The part that gets me is the warm room... why have a warm room ... the BLANKETS are to keep you WARM .. not the electric company... I'll usually wake up in the middle of the night and turn the heat off (or at least down a bit)... he'll wake up in the morning going .."dedededededededed ...heedee heedee heedee... adda adda adda adda... add ur own cold noises here" ... its quite funny... We play temperature wars in our house... he'll go thru turning the heat up and I go thru turning the heat down... same way with turning the lights on and off.. hehehe.... I wouldn't trade him for the world..he keeps my days interesting

[cbd2cai 0]

I am laughing so hard over everyone's stories about the fight over the covers in the bedroom . . . I can always use a good laugh . . . humour is so important in our lives.

You know that they say ppl live longer who are optimistic (not me . . . big cynic that I am) and can laugh at themselves and things around them . . . I do laugh alot at times so obviously I am not a total lost cause. It just seems that sometimes the waiting going thru this process makes it much easier to cry.

One day at a time . . . .

[AichaKandisha 0]

I couldn't believe the pile of sandals they had for everyone at the door. Then I'd see them wearing each other's. I saw my fiance walking around in some of his sister's pretty sandals sometimes too. Then when I saw someone put mine on, I had to contain myself! I just couldn't get over the fact that someone else's feet were in my shoes.

I came downstairs one morning to find all of the rugs off the floors, soaking wet outside and his sisters using the garden hose in the house. The water was running all over the floors. I must have had a really horrified look on my face because his sisters, aunts and his mom started laughing when they saw me.

My fiance always tells me if he can hear that I have a sniffle or a cold that I must have gone outside with my hair wet. The last time he told me this, I must have heard the thought that went through my head as always (yeah right, you've got to be kidding me) because before I could say anything he added, "I don't know. That's what my mother always tells me."

I know the temperature is going to be a big problem for us when he gets here. The rental car we had in Morocco was always too cold for him with the a/c on. He always had to have the window open. One of us will always be either too cold or too hot I'm sure.

The whole sharing the glass thing. My face tells all what I'm thinking about and feeling so I really had to really fight hard to be sure not to let my eyes bug out of my head whenever someone would use my glass at his family's house. I loved it when they would bring a bottle of water and then one glass for the dozen or so people sitting around the table. That and I love to drink a lot of water when I'm eating. So compared to them, I felt like I was guzzling the water so I would try not to hog the one water glass form everyone else. But then I'd find all of the bread (which I am soooo not used to eating) getting caught in my throat because my throat was so dry from the bread. They always wondered why I was eating so slow. I didn't want to say that I was practically choking trying to get the bread down. I told my fiance that I had eaten more bread with him in two weeks than I had in 2 years. Then he proceded to tell his mother that for me...

Humor! Whew! It's not just me then! I have had those lectures too. We can laugh about so many things but once in a while, there will be something that I said and he will go on and on so serious about why it isn't funny.

I tried to get all the quotes for all of these things. I need to practice figuring that out some more.

When your SO's did get here, how much stuff did they bring with them? How much room will I really have to make in my closet and dressers?

[sarachid 0]

Hey I didn't realize you live in SA too. Small world! Are you an Ali Baba's customer too? Or do you have somewhere better to go to that you've discovered?

Ali Baba all the way ! We are there at least once or twice a week. The owners are very nice... by the way they are Palestinian... from Gaza.

-MK

... my hubbster though.. bread with everything..he'll starve if there is no bread..he won't eat a thing without it... I still haven't gotten used to it.

Ha !! We also MUST have bread at every meal, but for the opposite reason. Without it, my husband never feels full... he'll just keep eating. He's already like a swarm of locusts around food, so it's best to have bread available.

-MK

I wish I had that problem with mine.. He doesn't eat enough. Since he got here, he has lost around 20 lbs. He doesn't eat if I'm not at hom ewith him unless I call him from work and make him promise to eat. If he says he promises, then he has to..the man can't break a promise..

oo oo ooo 1 thing I forgot is...we were taught at a very young age some degree of etiquette. No talking with ur mouth full, do not shove food into ur mouth, SLOW DOWN FOR GODS SAKE, YOU'RE NOT IN A FIRE, don't gulp...sip... My husband was not taught a single one of these things. NOT ONE!!! He says they all eat like that there and I do distinctly remember being shocked at their table/floor manners (or the lack there of) now, there was no burping or passing gas (i was thankful for that).

Here, I constantly am telling my son to slow down and all the other things I stated above. Noor always says, let him eat.. hehe so I tell Noor he needs to slow down as well (and the other things too) We are always laughing about that. He tells me I'm too slow and I tell him he is too fast

I had that worry when Rachid came that he would loose weight, but I have some tricks that I use and he has gained over 20 ibs.

*I make a big class of whatever and just take a little drink and say "oh im done you have the rest" and he drinks it all

*I always put way extra cheese on whatever he is going to eat

*extra mayo on his sandwiches

*I get him cookies and I'll take just half of one and give him the rest

oh and saturdays when I have the morning off I make the biggest breakfast .. if I eat slow he keeps eating if I get up from the table he will get up too... so I eat slow...

[Bosco 1]

I had that worry when Rachid came that he would loose weight, but I have some tricks that I use and he has gained over 20 ibs.

*I make a big class of whatever and just take a little drink and say "oh im done you have the rest" and he drinks it all

*I always put way extra cheese on whatever he is going to eat

*extra mayo on his sandwiches

*I get him cookies and I'll take just half of one and give him the rest

oh and saturdays when I have the morning off I make the biggest breakfast .. if I eat slow he keeps eating if I get up from the table he will get up too... so I eat slow...

probably has seen quite a gain in his cholesterol levels too

[brnidokiegurl 0]

When i was in Morocco i did go barefoot constantly guess that wasnt prob for him, he did say he was sick the whole time due to a/c in rental car, hotel rooms, fan(s) i turned on the bed at night but i was HOT!!. I had already made him promise i didnt have to try the (take aim) restroom ha luckly his sisters house and most places we went i was covered

The meals werent bad, they did mostly use their hands but i got special treatment im sure, had my own plate and utensils but the mom did keep putting food on my plate and making sure i had a napkin etc. The brothers did tend to talk and laugh with mouth full of food ha. If we had the fish, Ahmed was always taking it off the bone for me.

In their family the sister is married and has a child but every weekend they come back to the family home to spend the weekend also for vacation times and holidays (even tho they live in same city not 15 minutes away) this i could not understand.

Ahmeds manners are the stickler for him, if he asks How are you today and you replay maybe say fine then continue on with conversation he will come back and say IM FINE THANK YOU FOR ASKING i tried explaining to him dont come here think all Americans are going to be that polite its not going happen ha

Oh and the police - they stopped him for high speed but he was in process of passing you would have thought he had commited bad crime he was so beside himself, pacing, talking with officer and finally gave officer money to (let it go) told him dont try that here you will be in more trouble.

Sure theres more......

[peezey 0]

I had that worry when Rachid came that he would loose weight, but I have some tricks that I use and he has gained over 20 ibs.

*I make a big class of whatever and just take a little drink and say "oh im done you have the rest" and he drinks it all

*I always put way extra cheese on whatever he is going to eat

*extra mayo on his sandwiches

*I get him cookies and I'll take just half of one and give him the rest

oh and saturdays when I have the morning off I make the biggest breakfast .. if I eat slow he keeps eating if I get up from the table he will get up too... so I eat slow...

wait, are you saying to do this on purpose and he doesn't know? I'm very confused why you would do this? Why not make him pasta a couple more nights a week?

Edited December 1, 2006 by peezey

[sarachid 0]

I had that worry when Rachid came that he would loose weight, but I have some tricks that I use and he has gained over 20 ibs.

*I make a big class of whatever and just take a little drink and say "oh im done you have the rest" and he drinks it all

*I always put way extra cheese on whatever he is going to eat

*extra mayo on his sandwiches

*I get him cookies and I'll take just half of one and give him the rest

oh and saturdays when I have the morning off I make the biggest breakfast .. if I eat slow he keeps eating if I get up from the table he will get up too... so I eat slow...

probably has seen quite a gain in his cholesterol levels too

yeah but I had to put some weight on him before the first snow fall.... he has started working out in the gym

[sarah and hicham 3]

Hey I didn't realize you live in SA too. Small world! Are you an Ali Baba's customer too? Or do you have somewhere better to go to that you've discovered?

Ali Baba all the way ! We are there at least once or twice a week. The owners are very nice... by the way they are Palestinian... from Gaza.

-MK

... my hubbster though.. bread with everything..he'll starve if there is no bread..he won't eat a thing without it... I still haven't gotten used to it.

Ha !! We also MUST have bread at every meal, but for the opposite reason. Without it, my husband never feels full... he'll just keep eating. He's already like a swarm of locusts around food, so it's best to have bread available.

-MK

I wish I had that problem with mine.. He doesn't eat enough. Since he got here, he has lost around 20 lbs. He doesn't eat if I'm not at hom ewith him unless I call him from work and make him promise to eat. If he says he promises, then he has to..the man can't break a promise..

oo oo ooo 1 thing I forgot is...we were taught at a very young age some degree of etiquette. No talking with ur mouth full, do not shove food into ur mouth, SLOW DOWN FOR GODS SAKE, YOU'RE NOT IN A FIRE, don't gulp...sip... My husband was not taught a single one of these things. NOT ONE!!! He says they all eat like that there and I do distinctly remember being shocked at their table/floor manners (or the lack there of) now, there was no burping or passing gas (i was thankful for that).

Here, I constantly am telling my son to slow down and all the other things I stated above. Noor always says, let him eat.. hehe so I tell Noor he needs to slow down as well (and the other things too) We are always laughing about that. He tells me I'm too slow and I tell him he is too fast

I had that worry when Rachid came that he would loose weight, but I have some tricks that I use and he has gained over 20 ibs.

*I make a big class of whatever and just take a little drink and say "oh im done you have the rest" and he drinks it all

*I always put way extra cheese on whatever he is going to eat

*extra mayo on his sandwiches

*I get him cookies and I'll take just half of one and give him the rest

oh and saturdays when I have the morning off I make the biggest breakfast .. if I eat slow he keeps eating if I get up from the table he will get up too... so I eat slow...

Ummmm why on earth are you fattening him up? Are you going to eat him? I would be pissed if I knew someone was basically making me gain weight without me knowing. Yikes!

[Ban Hammer 13,514]

Ummmm why on earth are you fattening him up? Are you going to eat him? I would be pissed if I knew someone was basically making me gain weight without me knowing. Yikes!

well it is winter, and maybe she wants to stay warmer